Why run when you can walk?

Everyone who knows me knows I am a huge classic TV fan. In fact we got rid of DIRECTV and got Comcast. I love my husband for agreeing to do it!I know many people think that’s crazy. I love the channels that I can get on Comcast.

My favorite show ever is a show called Hazel, Not many people remember the show,but I certainly do. It’s on seven days a week on antenna TV. Which makes me extremely happy.

I Don’t only watch Hazel, I record the show and I also have season one and two on DVD. My awesome hubby bought them for me a few Christmases ago! To say I can’t get enough of Hazel, is probably true! In fact, I actually named one of our dogs after the show.

I’ve been asked many times why I love that show so much…  it’s kind of hard to explain why I do. Part of it is Hazel reminded me a lot of my grandma, who I really loved. I also really liked Don DeFore… I also loved the premise of the show. If you really paid attention to it there were a lot of life lessons in it.

The other day I was watching the show, as I always do, the show was about how we need to slow down. How we are always so busy trying to get somewhere, do something, get ahead… That we don’t really take the time to enjoy what’s right in front of us.

When I was watching the show I thought, wow this is from the early 60s and it still so relevant today. In fact I think we are more that way now than we were then. It’s sad that we decide that we have to get ahead… at the expense of living in the present.

Of course on the show Hazel found a way to get those around her to slow down. I’m not so sure we can get ourselves to slow down, let alone those around us.

I know life is a lot more complicated than a classic TV show, but there are definitely lessons that we can learn from them. The show got me thinking what am I missing in my day-to-day life that I should be paying more attention to. Sad to say, there were more things than I care to admit.

One of the many things that was on my list, was spending time just having Smalltalk. I’m a chatterbox,I admit it. So it seems a bit strange for me to say I don’t spend enough time having Smalltalk.

What I mean by not taking enough time for small talk is this… I don’t sit down with those close to me and just have conversations about what we have planned for the day, what did we do today what are we happy about, what are we sad about etc…

Upon reflection, I made a vow to myself that I was going to take more time each day to have that small talk, especially with Peyton. So Peyton  and I have started a routine of sitting in our office and just chatting. I honestly think it’s good for both of us.

I know taking this time to just chat, laugh and relax has help me feel less anxious. I can also see that it relaxes Peyton , and that makes me happy!

Even though classic TV shows may not always be exactly the way real life is… We can still learn a lot from them. So here’s to you Hazel for helping me learn to walk instead of run. Peyton and I thank  you… For teaching us a wonderful life’s lesson and helping us with our anxiety and stress, by doing such a simple thing as chatting! 💕💕

 

Mine & Peyton’s recipe for burritos

I decided to start a new series… Every Friday  I’m going to come out with a different type of recipe, in my blog! They will be mine and Peyton’s recipes, as well as family and friends. I truly hope that you like them.

Peyton and I just think that this is another way for us to share with others how we are working to turn Autism into Awesomism. Cooking and baking are life skills. All of these recipes we’ve either made ourselves or  have gotten directly from someone else, and made the recipes to test them out first.

Mark has really gotten Peyton to love Tex-Mex food. I really never had Tex-Mex food until I moved  to Texas. Our neighbors in Florida were from Cuba, they made the best Cuban sandwiches and fried plantains, I’ve ever had in my life. I was spoiled eating their food.

When I moved  to Texas, I found out I really did like  Tex-Mex food. However; I wasn’t the best  at making it. Mark on the other hand is an excellent cook, and his Tex-Mex cooking is better than any restaurant I’ve ever had! So needless to say we’ve all become addicted to his cooking, especially his Tex-Mex.

Peyton loves enchiladas, as well as nachos and burritos. Mark’s enchiladas are beyond words they are so good! If you want the recipe… You can buy my book it’s in there!!

Peyton and I decided to embark on making our own recipe for burritos. It may not be everyone’s definition of burritos… But we think they are amazing. We make a batch of them and freeze some. That way he has them anytime he wants to eat a burritos .

They’re actually pretty easy to make… So we decided to share them with others… We hope you love them as much as we do. We’d love your feedback on our recipe.

We start out with a fresh green pepper, two tomatoes and a red or white onion. Finely chop them all up and put them in a bowl. Add some salt and pepper to taste.  We add a tablespoon of jalapeño pepper juice to the mixture as well. Some people don’t like this as it can make it a little bit too hot.

Mix it all together, We make it in a bowl that has a lid, we put the lid on and shake it. When it’s all chopped up it should be a pretty even mixture of the onion, green pepper… With a little bit more tomato. 

 

 

Once it’s all mixed, add a Cup of shredded cheese. We use 3/4 of a cup of pepper jack cheese and 3/4 of  a cup of Colby Jack. You can add whatever shredded cheese you prefer.  We’ve also use shredded Mexican blend cheese. That’s really good as well. 

Next  add a 15 ounce can of ranch style beans. We really like the Canabra brands beans, that we get from Costco. But you can use any  kind of ranch beans. We heat ours  up before we add them to the rest of the vegetable mix. But you can mix it all together and then heat the whole mix up.  It depends on how soft you want your green peppers, onions and tomatoes. As well as if you want your cheese really melted or not.

After you’ve mixed all your ingredients, Spoon out mixture into a large flour tortilla … you can add more cheese if you desire. 

We’ve also added diced chicken,corn, rice and red beans. It’s fun to mix it up!

Ingredients:

• 2 Globe Tomatoes

• 1 Large Green Pepper

• 1 Small White or Red Onion

• 1 15 oz Can of Ranch style beans

• 1 1/2 cup of Shredded Cheese … can be Pepper jack cheese, Mexican blend cheese, Colby Jack cheese or any other cheeses that you love

• 6 Large flour tortilla

•After washing off your vegetables, chop up your onion, green pepper and tomatoes into small chunks.

•Mix all your vegetables  together and add your seasoning such as salt, pepper or jalapeño juice.

•Next add in your ranch style beans and heat everything together. You can cook it on high heat on the stove for 4 minutes , or in the microwave for two minutes on high.

•Add your cheese ,mix everything together. Put mixture on a preheated flour tortillas. Wrap the tortilla. Heat for an additional 1 minute.

•The Recipe makes 6 Servings. They can be frozen and reheated.

• Corn, Rice , Chicken and Red Beans can also be added.

Hope you enjoy them as much as we do!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Bullies make me see Red

I know, I know everyone, well almost everyone, disdains bullies! Well, at least They SHOULD disdain bullies…..

Nowadays we hear a lot about bullies, everyone has a different definition of what a bully is. I’ve written several blogs about bullies.These blogs are based on my opinion and my definition of what I think a bully really is!

I think we can all agree, that certain people definitely fit the definition of bullies.  This blog is not about the “common definition” of bullies.

I am hypersensitive to bullies  because of Peyton. I’ve always been a mama bear to all of my kids, but I’m especially a helicopter Mama bear to Peyton!  I get extremely protective whenever I see an autistic child,teen or adult being bullied.

As I stated in previous blogs, we often hear it said that bullies are just terribly insecure people, and basically deflect not reflect on their insecurities. While I find this to be some what true, I think it goes deeper than that.

I think Bullies are insecure people, at least much of the time, but I also think many bullies  are narcissistic gaslighters. I also think that many bullies are truly unhappy in their own lives. So they invent fantasy lives, know they’re lying and then abuse other people because they’re angry that they’re not living that life!

Some of the biggest bullies that I’ve seen on social media, are also some of the biggest hypocrites. There have been times I’ve really wanted to call them out… But I also know that it’s a waste of time, because they generally don’t wanna listen anyway.

Being an autism activist, I thought long and hard about making my focal point bullying . After the story of the special-needs boy being tortured and bullied in Chicago and Facebook live, I knew I couldn’t be a bullying  activist.  That story touch me so deeply, that I still cry about it.

I decided that rather than be a bullying activist, I would actually offer comfort zones etc. for those who are  bullied. That’s a major focal point of our new project Team Awesomism. It’s to help those with autism, anxiety and stress find their comfort zones.

I have called a few bullies  out on Twitter, as well as blocked and reported some,and I don’t always mean to Twitter. There’s one thing that my husband has really taught me, don’t lower yourself to their level instead find solutions for those who are hurting.

Team Awesomism  was inspired by several things… One being finding solutions for those who are being bullied. Bullies are only bullies  because they feel like they have to have power over someone. What better way to empower someone, then help them find their inner strength and feel better about themselves?

We will be launching Team Awesomism  on September 15, which also happens to be Peyton’s  birthday! We are super excited about this project and can’t wait to share it with everyone!

In the meantime I ask this… Find commonality with everyone you come in contact with. It’s easy to find something to be angry or mean about… Just stop! If we treat others the way we want to be treated  as well as those we love… We’d have less hatred and more love. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, as well as their beliefs… If you make this a rule in your life… You’ll stop and think before you deflect and actually reflect!

 

Lavender, Anxiety and Me!!

As I discussed in a previous blog, I have GAD… General anxiety disorder. There are days that my anxiety gets the best of me. While  I’ve learned to deal with my anxiety for the most part, there are days it overwhelms me.

One of my favorite go to items that I use when I am extremely anxious, stressed or just in a serious need of a break… Is… LAVENDER! 💜  Oh my I absolutely love lavender! 💜

I love it in the essential oil‘s, bath salts, bubble bath, lavender spray actually anything lavender makes me happy! Williams and Sonoma used to have this amazing lavender laundry detergent, I couldn’t get enough of it! I was so sad when they got rid of it. It was the best thing to use on my PJs, my sheets and pillow cases.

I found a few that I really like but not as much as that! So if you know of any, I’d love to hear some suggestions! Rather than dwelling on the negative’s, let’s talk about some lavender products that I really love! 💜

I’ve fallen in love with rollers lately, and I found one that I absolutely love! There are many good ones on the market… But this one  is definitely my favorite. It’s made by open heart apothecary.  You can actually buy them through Patti and Ricky. Here is the link to their website. They have other awesome rollers, but I absolutely love the lavender. https://www.pattiandricky.com/

They also have a really wonderful spray that you can use either in the air or I use it on my pillow before I go to sleep at night, so does Peyton. It’s called calm… It has lavender and other essential oil’s. I especially love using this until I find that perfect lavender laundry soap!

My new lavender obsession I actually came upon, because my wonderful  husband gave me these as a gift! They are an amazingly awesome epsom bath salt. They are made by San Francisco salt company! You can use them in the bath, in the shower or even as a foot soak! https://www.sfsalt.com/m-home

No matter where you use them, especially the tub or as a foot soak, I would definitely leave the water for a while because the smell is heavenly 💜… it will give you such a relaxing  lavender smell throughout whatever room you’ve used it in! It’s so calming.

We have some fantastic  lavender farms here in Texas! In fact Peyton and I plan to go to a seminar in the fall at one of the lavender farms in Hill Country, to learn more about lavender. I tried to grow it several times… Had very little success.

Peyton and I put some in his garden, but we really didn’t get much out of it. We were both pretty sad. We decided we want to learn more about growing  it,before we try again.

Mark, Peyton and I went to a lavender farm a couple of years ago, I bought the most amazing lavender jelly. I’d love to learn how to grow it so I can make more products with it!

I’m always looking for new lavender products to try, recipes that use lavender, as well as suggestions of how to use lavender! So if you have a product you’d like me to try, or suggestions or even recipes I’d love to hear from you!

As always thanks for reading my blog, I’d love to hear from you and lavender on! 💜

 

Finding My “Comfort Zones”

I haven’t talked about it much, but I have GAD. Which stands for General Anxiety Disorder. I was diagnosed with it over 12 years ago.

I was going through a particularly rough time in my life. So many things were swirling on around me. I felt beyond stressed with every part of my life.

When I was diagnosed with GAD, the diagnosis itself helped to relieve some of my stress. Allowed me to understand why I had such severe anxiety. Up until I was diagnosed, I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t process my anxiety better.

GAD is not something that you get over, it is something you learn to live with. While it can be a daily struggle to deal with, I actually can see positives in it.

I honestly believe that my GAD has allowed me in some ways to understand Peyton better.  I understand his triggers better. I have my own triggers, so I’m a lot more compassionate when he is really stressed.

Severe anxiety is no walk in the park. Sometimes it’s difficult for me to explain to people how my anxiety is affecting my day. It affects my sleep, My daily routines, as well as every other part of my life.

I’ve learned to cope with it in different ways. One of my favorite coping mechanism is to take a hot bath, I especially love taking hot lavender baths.

I’ve come to understand that when I get really stressed I need to do one of three things to my find my comfort zone:

1.  Talk about my stress, exactly what/who is stressing me, so that I can verbally and mentally work through it.

2. Distract myself with something positive that I absolutely love doing. This many times will  allow me to focus on something different …. the original stress actually works its way out naturally.

3. Sleep… Sleep… Sleep !! Yes, sleep helps me a lot. Remember when I said it affects my sleep? If I allow myself to become too tired, I have anxiety issues much quicker!

I’ve also learned that I have to remove toxic people from my life. I can’t allow those who just want to throw negativity at everyone all the time to be in my life on a daily basis. I take things way more to heart than people many times realize I do.

One of the reasons I love my husband so much, is he understands my GAD and works with me, when I’m going through my rough patches. He has this great expression “Shake it off” he knows EXACTLY when I need to hear this…..

He’s a strong support system for me, he plays at my strengths, works through  my weaknesses and shows me unconditional love through it all! He truly is my rock.

I discussed in prior blogs, how Peyton and I are starting team Awesomism ! This project is going to be about “conquering your fear’s and finding your comfort zone.”

One of the biggest things that I’ve learned since being diagnosed with GAD, is how I need to face my anxieties and find my comfort zones! I know I’m far from perfect, and I also have learned not to let others opinions of me, to define me.

I’m a work in progress, but I’m Learning to face my fears, anxieties and stresses and find those awesome comfort zones!

Here is a link to my book…. it’s full of ideas for “comfort zones” 

#Kindle edition:

http://amazon.com/dp/B072BWWCDJ/

#Print edition:

http://amazon.com/Mom-Awesomism-

http://amazon.com/dp/1546641653/