Love, Understanding & Laughter 💙


They say “Laughter is the best medicine” and in some cases I think this is true. I know I have had a bad headache and really laughed and it helped my headache. I tend to laugh a lot, One of the things I Love most about Mark is he makes me really laugh. My older three kids also laugh a lot, especially my daughter. She and I have been known to laugh at basically nothing and keep laughing, even though we aren’t sure why. Some of my favorite memories are when my kids were really laughing together and “being kids”.  We all love to see our kids be happy and enjoying what life has to offer. This isn’t always so easy with autism. This isn’t to say they don’t smile or laugh, as some laugh uncontrollably and this as well can alarm parents.

Peyton does smile and he also laughs, however he doesn’t laugh at the frequency or level,most kids his age do. He is somewhat shy, as is my third child, but even when he is truly happy he doesn’t “express it” like my older kids do. This really hit me a couple of Sunday’s ago. Peyton’s brother Preston made him an awesome computer. I knew he really loved it because he talked about it a lot to me. He thanked Preston several times and uses it all the time. Preston asked me if Peyton really liked it, I told how much he uses it. Preston was very happy to hear that. He said to me he thought he did, but Peyton didn’t say a lot to him. My older kids understand and accept that Peyton doesn’t always express himself. I can’t tell you how much that means to me that they understand and accept Peyton as he is! I know they love him unconditionally and will do anything for him. I also know that Peyton isn’t going to be understood or accepted by everyone. This isn’t to say we are all liked by everyone, because we aren’t. My point is though that Peyton has had situations where people are mean to him because he “acts different”  this hurts my heart, and it also angers me. Part of why I became an autism activist was to help others understand Peyton and other autistic kids and adults.

I am a firm believer that love, understanding and acceptance of Peyton is by far the best “medicine” for him. When he feels comfortable around people he talks more, is relaxed and yes, even laughs! My hope is that those who aren’t around autistic kids and adults, will educate themselves on how to interact with them. I always appreciate it when people reach out to me and ask questions, it shows they care and want to understand. Many autistic adults have enough stress in their daily lives, so every little thing that can lower that stress is awesome! My hope is that others take the time to understand Autism. I also hope those close to autistic kids and adults, shower them with unconditional love. I know with Peyton when these things happen, I see him enjoying life more! Nothing warms my heart more than hearing Peyton laugh!

Peyton’s Year of Awesomism

In September Peyton turned 18, this was a very big deal for him and the rest of us. I wrote a blog for his birthday about how much he stressed about turning 18.   http://www.awesomismmom.com/happy-birthday-peyton/         He calmed down some after several of us talked with him. Even though he calmed down some, it made me really start thinking about life from his perspective. While I can’t fully understand how he feels, being an autistic teen/adult, I can listen and try to understand. There are days I feel so overwhelmed at how much I have to do, then I look at Peyton and actually feel selfish. At times I fret over such petty things that can easily be fixed, just requires focus and time. Peyton faces obstacles I don’t always understand, yet he very rarely complains, he tries and tries until he succeeds. I deeply admire this about him.

A couple of months ago, I started thinking about how I could make Peyton’s 18th year special. I’m so proud of the person he has become. He has faced so many fears and obstacles and overcome them. When he was younger he was scared of dogs, seriously scared where he would cry, scream  and have a meltdown. It wasn’t until he was about 12 he decided to overcome that fear. Now he loves our dogs and is very attached to Tex. I’ve talked about several of his “former meltdown triggers” in past blogs like new shoes, haircuts, waiting in lines etc… Too many of us take these for granted that all kids will out grow these fears, stresses etc.. that isn’t always true for autistic teens and adults. This isn’t to say Peyton doesn’t still have fears, he does.  Swimming, riding a bike, mowing the lawn are just a few I can think of. I know it bothers him that at times he feels like he’s way behind his siblings. Mark and I try to encourage him to do what he feels comfortable with and to take initiative in trying new things. He sees his siblings doing so much… his sister backpacked all over Egypt, Israel and Jordan when she was 19. He knows he may never do anything like that. It isn’t even always the big things, it can also be simple things like going to a movie alone with a friend. He goes with his siblings, but he views that differently. He would like to go fishing alone etc..He has expressed to me he wants to have friends he can go places with, he wants to “feel more like an adult”

This why “The Year Of Peyton’s Awesomism” was created. He and I are working together and will share with others how he’s overcome so many obstacles, working on things that stress him and facing fears. It will be a year-long journey, where we share his struggles, strengths, bad times and good times. Peyton will be sharing this journey from his perspective as an autistic teen and I will be sharing it from mine. We will be working on his social skills, life skills and more. We would love to have you follow along! We will have many awesome adventures and some surprises! We hope we will motivate others as well! You can read our blogs here, follow my Twitter @awesomismmom, instagram @awesomismmom.. Flipboard AwesomismMom and Pinterest Awesomismmom. Peyton has set up a twitter @PeytonAwesomism….an Instagram Peytonsyearofawesomism and a flipboard Magazine  http://flip.it/fzQMgn

 

 

Fishing is for the rest of us!

Blog by Peyton White:

Fishing  is an outdoor sport in which a person tries to catch a fish by using a rod, a reel and bait.You normally start fishing in either a lake or a pond. Before I got into fishing, I watched the video about choosing the right fishing rods, fishing bait layer and such on YouTube from a channel called Fishing for the Rest of Us. https://m.youtube.com/fishingfortherestofus?uid=FcDiOaLOFAqVk9dP_NePmQ I subscribed to his channel to keep an eye on his new videos, so that I can watch them at anytime he uploads new ones. It will also allow me to keep learning how to successfully catch fish. Once I turned 18, I decided I would like to start fishing, because I wanted to start doing more outdoor activities. Then I really became interested in fishing, once I started watching his videos on YouTube. On January 3rd, Fishing for the Rest of Us sent me  a bag of soft fishing lures in the mail, so that I can use them to catch a fish. I was very happy to get these, and thought it was very nice of them. My parents and I are going to North Dakota soon, and we will be going fishing anywhere there’s a lake nearby us in Minot. 

I have always really been into fish. When I was growing up, I used to have fish in my old fish tank aquarium, and I had several of them. I always took good care of them and fed them every day whenever they were hungry. I haven’t had my own fish since I was young. 2 years ago, me, my parents and my best friend went to the Downtown Aquarium in downtown Houston. We were guests of Tilman Fertitta who owns the aquarium, and he gave us the tickets to come and visit there. I had such a great time and learned so much, and I even made a Flipboard magazine about our day. I realized after going to the aquarium I really wanted to get more into fishing, because I have fascination with fish. It would also be great for me to do more outdoor activities, and it would help me de stress while I’m fishing. I can also go fishing with my dad and my oldest brother, as well as by myself. I’m looking forward to going fishing, I can’t wait to start. If you love fishing or interested in it, you really should watch Fishing for the Rest Of Us’s videos on YouTube and subscribe.

You can go fishing on the ocean, sea, small lake, ice fishing and such. What you need before you go are rods, lures, hooks, plastic worms and baits. Right now I have soft plastic lures, the gift I just got in the mail, and buckets. All I need is a rod which I don’t have yet. Me and my parents will find perfect rods for us in the store. We’ll try to find them at Bass Pro Shop, Dick’s Sporting Goods or any other stores that sell fishing stuff. My mother has a Flipboard magazine called Fishing is Awesome, you should check it out! I’m creating a Flipboard magazine called Fishing Adventure, and I’ll be adding articles and fishing videos. Please follow my magazine and keep up with what I’m doing. I will also keep rewatching the fishing videos on YouTube so that I can remember what I need to do to become a great fisherman. Thanks for reading, and I hope you follow my Blog at PeytonWhiteBlog.wordpress.com, my Flipboard account Peyton White, my Twitter account @mistermarvel99 and my Instagram account mistermarvel99.  http://flip.it/u02Fw9

Gone Fishing!

 One of my favorite memories of my grandpa was the first time he took me fishing. I am a chatterbox and I remember him telling me I needed to be quiet. I remember thinking hmmm… I wasn’t sure I was going to like this activity! Once that first fish grabbed my line, I was hooked..hahaha  yes, I know cute play on words..but I really did enjoy it, because I felt a sense of accomplishment. When I was growing up, my dad used to go to Canada every year on a fishing trip with one of his best friends. My dad loved fishing, it was his escape from the stresses of his day-to-day life. He enjoyed that time with nature,the peace and quiet and time away from life’s pressures .I loved when he went because he’d bring me moccasins and I have always loved moccasins. Now as an adult I truly understand why he loved it!

When Peyton decided he was interested in fishing I was really happy! I think it’s a great activity for him to get involved in. Peyton is quiet so he has that going for him… haha.. he has patience and doesn’t get easily discouraged. Fishing is a marathon sport not a sprint. I can remember my older kids competing in fishing competitions and telling them, it may take hours before they caught anything. They weren’t always happy with that, but it taught them patience. Peyton has always loved fish, when he was younger he had an aquarium, he really loved it. He named each of his fish and took great care of them. Aquariums are very calming for him. One of his favorite times ever, was when we went to the Houston Aquarium, as guests of Tilman Fertitta. We even have a blog about our day on the website. Peyton loved learning about so many different types of fish. Every time we go somewhere and they have an aquarium, he has to stop and spend time looking at the fish.

I think fishing will be great for Peyton, because it’s a sport that is individually based, but can also be with others. Because it’s a “quiet sport” he won’t feel pressured to carry on conversations, this will be a stress relief for him. He loves fish, so he will also enjoy learning about the types of fish he’s fishing for. Being an outdoor sport is also a big positive. Peyton doesn’t always feel comfortable outside and this will help.Finally,one of the best things about fishing is it is calming, and that’s such a positive for him. We are super excited about this new “adventure” I’m sure we will have future blogs, as well as social media postings about his fishing adventures! Hope you will follow along!🎣🎣

Peyton and I follow an Awesome guy on social media…he does utube videos, about fishing! Peyton loves watching his videos and learns from them. I even watch them, and really enjoy them. Here is a link to his channel.. please check it out! Pass along to those you know who love to fish! https://t.co/Xsh9bXbc7b   Also, if you are on twitter you can follow him @fishin4restofus 🎣🎣