My Anyway Friend

“ My anyway friend” I heard that term for the first time in December… I was laying in bed for several days binge watching the show, Private Practice…It’s not like me to basically stay in bed for a few days.

This time I had a really good reason.. I’m trying to work my way through my grief. One of my oldest and dearest friends… Passed away suddenly… I know for a fact she’s in a better place because Lisa lived her faith, Walked her faith and shared her faith.

I love the definition of an “anyway friend”… They know everything about you and they love you anyway… That was Lisa to a T!

Lisa didn’t have the easiest of lives, but she made the best of everything she had. She was a friend that everyone wants, an few are blessed to have.

I could give 100 stories of who Lisa was, but I’m gonna give you my favorite…

10+ years ago I was going through a really difficult divorce, I was a single parent of four kids …one being autistic… I was trying to work 40/50 hours a week,on top of many other things, but I hit my wall.

I was having a really rough time emotionally and mentally. I was living in Northern Virginia at the time, and Lisa was still in Florida… That’s where we had become friends.

I called her and told her that I was going to be coming home to Florida, to see the doctor.

I asked her if she would please meet me at the doctors office… Because I was afraid to go alone, she said no she was busy. This really hurt my feelings, because it wasn’t the way Lisa was. I reminded myself she was going through her own divorce.. so even though it hurt me, I knew she must have had a good reason.

I drove home and I went to see the doctor… That’s when I was diagnosed with GAD… General Anxiety Disorder.

After some time with the doctor, I walked out into the lobby… I felt a little better, because I felt like I knew what was wrong with me, and now I had to fix it.

There was Lisa standing in the lobby. I burst into tears and said I can’t believe you’re here. She said I’ve been sitting in the parking lot across the street for two hours. I wanted to make sure that you were going to come to the appointment, if you didn’t I was going to go find you and drag you here.

She then went on to say, I also knew that if I met you here, you would look at me as your safe haven… Your rock…and you would talk yourself out of going in and getting the help you needed.

She was 100% correct! she knew me like the back of her hand. That’s who Lisa was. She was my rock… she kicked me in the butt when I needed it, and she loved me unconditionally.

I miss her so much words can’t express. She was an amazing woman, mother, grandmother… Sister… Daughter.. but most of all she was my “anyway friend”.

She truly was that friend who knew everything about you, the good, the bad and the ugly and loved you anyway. She didn’t just talk it, she walked it… just like her faith. I would give anything to have 30 minutes with her again.

I wanted to write this blog and put it out on Valentine’s Day… Because she will always be in my heart. I miss you lees.. and I love you…

Until we see each other again, I promise I will be as awesome of an “anyway friend” to others as you were to me…❤️💔

Binge Watching

I admit I used to be one of those people who could never understand how people could binge watch a TV show. I just didn’t feel like I want to sit there for hours and watch the same show over and over… I know it would be different episodes but it still was the same list of characters etc.

We have Comcast/Xfinity in our house, and one of the channels that we watch quite a bit is.. decades TV.

Decades TV does a binge weekend each weekend… Where they run an entire show from noon on Saturday until 6 AM on Monday morning… Each and every weekend is a different show.

One particular weekend they were having a binge weekend of the Commish… I absolutely loved the show when it was on originally.

So I decided that I was going to binge watch it. Needless to say, after that, weekend I became a fan of binge watching. I know surprise surprise!

I have since binge watched a ton of different shows… On cable, Netflix, Tubi etc. etc.

I’m sure you’re wondering why am I talking about binge watching TV in a blog that is supposed to be about autism and or anxiety…

The other day I was thinking about how I couldn’t really find a show to binge watch and what I was interested in watching…. what era, drama, crime, reality or comedy etc. as I was reflecting on what I was really in the mood for, I realized in some ways binge watching TV is very similar to my life.

When I pick a show for binge watching it’s usually because it suits whatever kind of mood I am at that time.

As I’ve spoken about many times in different blogs I have GAD… General anxiety disorder.

When I’m extremely anxious and/ or having anxiety attacks.. I tend to hyperfocus on something in my life. It can be where I’m really stressing about a particular situation that I’ve either just been in, or about to go into… It can be about work, it can be about my kids… It can be about health, it can be about something that’s gonna happen a year from now or something I want to have happen.

The point is, I get myself so worked up and I sit an hyperfocus/stress/feel super anxious about this situation.

It’s not always because I want to, it’s because of my GAD.

When we are binge watching TV shows we become so hyper focused on that particular situation of a show.

I remember back in the olden days… Ha ha I’m 59 years old… When I was young soap operas were super popular. Many stay at home moms sat and watched soap operas during the day, and they became so focused on the shows that sometimes they believe that the actor or actress, were really that person in real life.

I’m by no means saying everyone who watched it believed that, but there were some.

Just like nowadays we become so connected to celebrities, pro athletes, musicians and reality TV stars… That sometimes we feel like because we see them on TV, in the movies, on social media etc. we know them personally we start focusing on their lives.

This is how I can be when I am really consumed with my GAD.. I start believing that my anxiety, my fears, my stress are real.

When I had that epiphany the other day, I suddenly realized I need to use my binge watching of shows almost as a Learning experience for me… To remember just as I can turn off the binge watching, I can get up and walk away… I need to turn off my hyper stress and refocus myself to other things in my life…

Even though I thought binge watching was silly… now I can honestly say I’m kind of glad I did it… And still do! I have learned a life lesson from it.

As always, thanks for reading my blog and have an awesome day!

Banana Bread Recipe

The other night Peyton and I decided to bake some banana bread. Peyton absolutely loves banana bread, and I have to admit I really like it too!

I got so many comments and requests for the recipe… that I decided to make this my Friday food blog!

Hope you enjoy it as much as we do… It’s actually very easy to make… It does not require a lot of time other than the baking! I would love to hear her each and everybody’s feedback on this.

  • 3 ripe bananas, mashed
  • 1/2 cup sugar
  • 1/2 cup brown sugar
  • 1 tablespoon of ground cinnamon
  • 1 egg
  • 1/4 cup of melted butter
  • 1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1 teaspoon salt

Directions

  1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees F. Grease a 9×5-inch loaf pan
  2. Combine all ingredients together in bowl, mix together on medium speed until everything is completely mixed.  Pour batter into the prepared loaf pan.
  3. Bake in the preheated oven until a toothpick inserted in the center of the bread comes out clean, about 1 hour 

As always please check for any and all food allergies! We love to bake from scratch and are always looking for other recipes to try! If you have any you would like to share we would love to try them!

Also, if you would like to become a guest Blogger I am always looking for Guest Bloggers… Please reach out!

Have an awesome day and thanks for reading my blog

A Calming Lakeview

A week ago this past Friday… My sister… Peyton and I were invited to go to Walden’s Lakeview dining up in beautiful Lake Conroe in Montgomery, Texas.

I have been up to the Lake Conroe area multiple times, but I had never been to this particular area.

We were invited by the social media team of the restaurant to try three new menu items that they had just put out. I was super excited about this dining experience… Because I love to sample new food.

We were given a preview of what the menu was going to be, they we’re going to be three healthy salads, and each one looked better than the next.

I was extremely excited to try the ceviche, it sounded absolutely amazing!

As I said earlier in the blog I had never been to this particular area of Lake Conroe… So I was excited to see it.

When we got to the restaurant I was beyond impressed… It was a beautiful restaurant, with an absolutely gorgeous view. Upon entering… it was just as pretty inside.

The staff was very pleasant, polite and respectful. Upon being seated at our table… I took a look around the restaurant and with all the beautiful windows at the front of the restaurant, I realized we had a spectacular view of the lake. It didn’t appear as if there was any bad seat in this entire restaurant.

There was live music and dancing… Which for a moment I was a little concerned might stress Peyton. Although, Peyton usually does well in active environments, sometimes a combination of smells, sounds and activity can cause him to become stressed.

I looked at him and asked him if he was stressed, he said absolutely not…. the view was so beautiful and calming that it took his mind off of everything else.

There’s a beautiful deck that encompasses the entire restaurant front, he went out there at one point, and took pictures. When he came back in it suddenly hit me… if he were stressed… He could go stand on that deck, look at the water… take in the beautiful sounds, breathe the fresh air and it would lower his stress and anxiety.

All three of our salads came around the same time… So I was excited to try each one of them. We also got fresh rolls and chips as well.

I cannot say one bad thing about what we ate! Everything was absolutely wonderful.

I honestly can say that this is one of my favorite restaurants now. Between the view, the food, the service and the all over experience…. you can’t beat Walden’s Lakeview dining.

I know this entire blog sounds like just an advertisement for it… But trust me… it is as positive as it is in this blog. because it deserves this positivity.

The restaurant did not put any kind of pressure on us to give a positive review… they wanted us to give an honest review… and my honest review is 10 stars out of five.

I look forward to going back again and I specially look forward to taking my husband for date night, because this restaurant is great for date night… for families… including autism families.. for dancing, for relaxing… and especially for Eating.

Also, here’s the link to their website.

As always, thank you so much for reading my blog!