Peyton….Autism….Perseverance

I came across this quote the other day “ Great works are performed not by strength but by Perseverance” Samuel Johnson

I immediately thought about Peyton and one of the things I admire most about him.. His Perseverance. He is adamant on Persevering, not necessarily the way you and I are, but in his own awesome way.

When he was 4, I was told he’d never read, write and probably not speak. While I was determined to help him in any way I could, I also accepted that if he didn’t read, write or speak that was okay. I was hoping he’d be able to do 2 of the 3… for his sake, not mine. I just wanted what was best for him.

i knew it was never going to be easy for him, but I also knew we were all in it to win it. My older kids and I were really committed to supporting Peyton in any way  we could. We were his biggest support system, and we joined forces for him!

Fast forward to June 2018… Peyton is  graduating  High School with all A’s and B’s! And guess what? He reads, write and speaks!  He is knocking so many obstacles out of the park everyday. His senior year of High School has been his best year! Trust me,his classes are difficult and intense. It seems the bigger the obstacle, the harder he fights.

He has been so determined to Not let things get in his way. This isn’t to say it’s always been easy, it hasn’t. He has had setbacks and difficulties. He’s lost faith in himself and others, then again who among us hasn’t?

One thing I’ve seen and touches me the most is, his perseverance. He keeps on and on,until he overcomes the negatives. Like I said before, it may not be the way we think it should be done… but that’s okay!

merriam-webster definition of perseverance is:

: “continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition : the action or condition or an instance of persevering: steadfastness” 
no where in the definition does it say… there is only one way to achieve/overcome!
                                                                                    Peyton is my inspiration and drive for AwesomismMom, Team Awesomism…. and most of all he’s the perfect example of “Turning Autism into Awesomism” I’m so proud of him. I can’t believe he’s 18! He’s my “baby” knowing he’s out of High School excites and scares me.
We are starting  a new chapter in his book of life. I know there will be obstacles, challenges, successes and new achievements. Being an autistic adult isn’t something he or I have experienced before. We will face each day like we have the past… one day at a time.  I also know he isn’t facing his future alone. He has a strong support network around him, who truly love him!
I also know this…. no matter how difficult it may get… Peyton will persevere, because that’s what  Peyton does… he perseveres. As his mom ( and biggest cheerleader) I honestly couldn’t be prouder of him!

 

Our CMFRT Blanket

On March 29th, I got a special box delivered to our home. In the box was an awesome  blanket from a company called Cmfrt. I was so happy to get the blanket, because I wanted to see if it would help me reduce stress and sleep better, just like my Human Touch massage chair does. When I was little, I had trouble sleeping at night all the time, and that’s because of my autism.Whenever I’m stressed about a bad storm, a test on my schoolwork or something that stresses me in general, I need to de stress. When I’m calm I do much better on my schoolwork and stop stressing over other things too. Getting a good night sleep helps me not stress as much.

I really love this blanket It feels really soft and is really comfortable. I really like the colors too, it actually matches my new room colors! The colors are also comforting. I also like that it can easily be washed in the washer because I’m sure as much as I’ll use it, it will get dirty. What I love most about the Cmfrt blanket is calms me down, it helps me with my autism, because it feels like someone is hugging me tight. The first time I wrapped it around me it relaxed me. I like wrapping myself up in it and watch TV or read my IPad!  It helps me relax before I go to bed. I also use it at night if I need to sleep, sometimes I can’t sleep and this blanket helps me sleep.  I can also take it with me when we travel, because sometimes I really have trouble sleeping in hotels, this will help!  It’s so comfortable and not too heavy, I also don’t get hot under it, I hate being hot. This blanket is helping me turn Autism into Awesomism!

I shared the blanket with my Mom too. She gets stressed and then gets migraines, one night she needed to sleep but was stressed so I gave it to her, she said she slept really well. She actually didn’t want to give it back hahaha! The one night we had really bad storms and our dog Hazel, who is half dachshund and miniature pinscher, and a rescue dog from the animal shelter, even slept under it with me! She’s always nervous during storms and this really helped her calm down! I’m going to have to hide my blanket or I think my mom will take it!   Hahaha even my sister, who lives in Germany wants me to send it to her!

If you want or need a blanket that is really comfortable and helps get rid of the stress, anxiety and calm you down,especially if you’re autistic, you should really try Cmfrt, They have lots of great comfort blankets,You should also visit their website and look at their blankets I’m sure you will find one you love. They have different weights that will match how much you weigh. It’s usually about 10% of your weight. Here is their website. https://cmfrt.us/  Please Check it out and you can also follow them on Instagram! I know you will love their blankets just like we do! Just be careful that your family doesn’t try to take it from you! Just kidding. If you have any questions you want to ask me about the blanket, you can. I’m going to be doing a video too about the blanket and how I use it, so please watch for it. Thanks for reading my blog and I hope you share it

Peyton

Peyton’s Year of Awesomism

In September Peyton turned 18, this was a very big deal for him and the rest of us. I wrote a blog for his birthday about how much he stressed about turning 18.   http://www.awesomismmom.com/happy-birthday-peyton/         He calmed down some after several of us talked with him. Even though he calmed down some, it made me really start thinking about life from his perspective. While I can’t fully understand how he feels, being an autistic teen/adult, I can listen and try to understand. There are days I feel so overwhelmed at how much I have to do, then I look at Peyton and actually feel selfish. At times I fret over such petty things that can easily be fixed, just requires focus and time. Peyton faces obstacles I don’t always understand, yet he very rarely complains, he tries and tries until he succeeds. I deeply admire this about him.

A couple of months ago, I started thinking about how I could make Peyton’s 18th year special. I’m so proud of the person he has become. He has faced so many fears and obstacles and overcome them. When he was younger he was scared of dogs, seriously scared where he would cry, scream  and have a meltdown. It wasn’t until he was about 12 he decided to overcome that fear. Now he loves our dogs and is very attached to Tex. I’ve talked about several of his “former meltdown triggers” in past blogs like new shoes, haircuts, waiting in lines etc… Too many of us take these for granted that all kids will out grow these fears, stresses etc.. that isn’t always true for autistic teens and adults. This isn’t to say Peyton doesn’t still have fears, he does.  Swimming, riding a bike, mowing the lawn are just a few I can think of. I know it bothers him that at times he feels like he’s way behind his siblings. Mark and I try to encourage him to do what he feels comfortable with and to take initiative in trying new things. He sees his siblings doing so much… his sister backpacked all over Egypt, Israel and Jordan when she was 19. He knows he may never do anything like that. It isn’t even always the big things, it can also be simple things like going to a movie alone with a friend. He goes with his siblings, but he views that differently. He would like to go fishing alone etc..He has expressed to me he wants to have friends he can go places with, he wants to “feel more like an adult”

This why “The Year Of Peyton’s Awesomism” was created. He and I are working together and will share with others how he’s overcome so many obstacles, working on things that stress him and facing fears. It will be a year-long journey, where we share his struggles, strengths, bad times and good times. Peyton will be sharing this journey from his perspective as an autistic teen and I will be sharing it from mine. We will be working on his social skills, life skills and more. We would love to have you follow along! We will have many awesome adventures and some surprises! We hope we will motivate others as well! You can read our blogs here, follow my Twitter @awesomismmom, instagram @awesomismmom.. Flipboard AwesomismMom and Pinterest Awesomismmom. Peyton has set up a twitter @PeytonAwesomism….an Instagram Peytonsyearofawesomism and a flipboard Magazine  http://flip.it/fzQMgn