Bullies make me see Red

I know, I know everyone, well almost everyone, disdains bullies! Well, at least They SHOULD disdain bullies…..

Nowadays we hear a lot about bullies, everyone has a different definition of what a bully is. I’ve written several blogs about bullies.These blogs are based on my opinion and my definition of what I think a bully really is!

I think we can all agree, that certain people definitely fit the definition of bullies.  This blog is not about the “common definition” of bullies.

I am hypersensitive to bullies  because of Peyton. I’ve always been a mama bear to all of my kids, but I’m especially a helicopter Mama bear to Peyton!  I get extremely protective whenever I see an autistic child,teen or adult being bullied.

As I stated in previous blogs, we often hear it said that bullies are just terribly insecure people, and basically deflect not reflect on their insecurities. While I find this to be some what true, I think it goes deeper than that.

I think Bullies are insecure people, at least much of the time, but I also think many bullies  are narcissistic gaslighters. I also think that many bullies are truly unhappy in their own lives. So they invent fantasy lives, know they’re lying and then abuse other people because they’re angry that they’re not living that life!

Some of the biggest bullies that I’ve seen on social media, are also some of the biggest hypocrites. There have been times I’ve really wanted to call them out… But I also know that it’s a waste of time, because they generally don’t wanna listen anyway.

Being an autism activist, I thought long and hard about making my focal point bullying . After the story of the special-needs boy being tortured and bullied in Chicago and Facebook live, I knew I couldn’t be a bullying  activist.  That story touch me so deeply, that I still cry about it.

I decided that rather than be a bullying activist, I would actually offer comfort zones etc. for those who are  bullied. That’s a major focal point of our new project Team Awesomism. It’s to help those with autism, anxiety and stress find their comfort zones.

I have called a few bullies  out on Twitter, as well as blocked and reported some,and I don’t always mean to Twitter. There’s one thing that my husband has really taught me, don’t lower yourself to their level instead find solutions for those who are hurting.

Team Awesomism  was inspired by several things… One being finding solutions for those who are being bullied. Bullies are only bullies  because they feel like they have to have power over someone. What better way to empower someone, then help them find their inner strength and feel better about themselves?

We will be launching Team Awesomism  on September 15, which also happens to be Peyton’s  birthday! We are super excited about this project and can’t wait to share it with everyone!

In the meantime I ask this… Find commonality with everyone you come in contact with. It’s easy to find something to be angry or mean about… Just stop! If we treat others the way we want to be treated  as well as those we love… We’d have less hatred and more love. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, as well as their beliefs… If you make this a rule in your life… You’ll stop and think before you deflect and actually reflect!

 

Facing his Fears

August 1st Peyton and I are going to be launching Team Awesomism!  We are really excited about this new project!

In preparation for this new project Peyton and I have been doing some small projects to lead up to it!  Once we announce what team Awesomism is, all the little projects we’ve been doing will make more sense.

Peyton has always been afraid since he was little of motorcycles.  The noise and vibration that they put off, always scared him. Part of Team Awesomism is about facing your fears, and finding your comforts!

About a month ago Peyton came to me and said, I really want to learn to ride a bike, and I really want to stop being afraid of motorcycles. I kind of saw the connection between the two. Even though bikes don’t make noise, he still was afraid to get on one and fall!

He and I sat down and discussed his fear of both. He told me that he was afraid of falling on a bike and he felt like a motorcycle was a very loud and aggressive bike.  In his mind, there was a direct connection between the two.

I may not always understand why he is afraid of certain things or doing certain things, but I respect his fear. We each have our own idiosyncrasies and he certainly allowed to have his!

On July 7, the local  BMW, Indian, Singleshot motorcycle dealership had an awesome event. They were doing a virtual reality motorcycle ride at the dealership. 

I contacted them before the event, and asked them if it was OK if Peyton and I attended. They were super nice about it,and said absolutely come on over!

When we got to the dealership, I could tell Peyton was a bit apprehensive. I asked him if he still wanted to go in and try it. He said absolutely he wanted to get to a point where he didn’t fear motorcycles.  He actually felt that if he got over his fear of motorcycles, it would help him ride a bike.

So in we went! They had food out as well as some drinks. I asked Peyton if he wanted something to eat and drink, thinking this would probably calm him down and ease  him into being around the motorcycles. 

Once we were done eating, I asked the people working there, if it was OK if Peyton tried the virtual reality. I discussed with them that Peyton was autistic, and why he wanted to do the virtual reality,as well as look at all the motorcycles .

They couldn’t have been nicer, they were so accommodating to Peyton. It really touched my heart, how nice they were.


Peyton did the virtual reality, and absolutely loved it. He sat in the chair, because he wasn’t sure he wanted to sit on a motorcycle. Once he started the virtual reality on the motorcycle, he got really into it. It was funny to watch him and I was so happy to see how much he loved it.

think the best moment was when he was doing the virtual reality, and they started motorcycle right behind him! He never flinched, in fact he really enjoyed it! It was so awesome to see him overcome that fear! 

After we left the motorcycle shop, Peyton  asked me if we could go look at bikes! It was great because for the first time wanted to actually look at bikes and talk about buying one, so he could learn to ride a bike!

I can’t thank the guys at the BMW Indian single shot dealership in the Woodlands Texas, enough! They were so incredible to Peyton, they even asked him before they started up motorcycles, if it was OK!!

Peyton overcame a major fear of his that day,  it was such an awesome day! I’m so proud of him and how hard he is trying to overcome fears.

Here is the link to the motorcycle dealership. If you are in the Woodlands,Texas area please show them some love. https://www.bmwmcwoodlands.com/

If you’re not, but you know someone who is …..please ask them to. Here is their Twitter…..  you can follow them as well. @BMWIndSS_77385

The Unconditional Love of a shelter dog

Both Mark and I love animals…so when my third child started working at the local animal shelter, I knew we would end up adopting at least one animal! I have always had pets of one kind or another….as a kid I had gerbils, dogs etc….

At one point or another…when my older kids were younger we went from dogs to cats …..we always seemed to have a pet around.

I loved having dogs and cats and that rubbed off on my kids. My third child has a real passion for animals and has the perfect temperament for the career he has chosen.

The first dog that we adopted from the shelter, was Tex. I absolutely loved Tex from the first day I saw him. He’s a Bernese Mountain dog mix, and has the sweetest temperament of any dog I’ve ever had.

Tex was young when we got him, he had been neglected and abused. It broke my heart! I remember seeing him in the cage at the shelter, his eyes looked at me and said “please help me!”

We didn’t take him the first time we saw him. When we went back the next day to get him, someone was adopting him. It broke my heart. 💔

I really didn’t feel like adopting a dog that day, because I really want Tex. So my husband and I decided to go back the next day. Guess who was there?!? Yes, TEX!

The people had returned him, and this was Tex’s  third return so he wasn’t long for the shelter, if you know what I mean. There was no way I was going to allow that to happen.

Needless to say, Tex came home with us that day, and has been a very loved member of our family ever since!

Tex has been with us now for over four years,  I never regret getting him from the shelter! He’s such a good dog and so loving.

When Peyton was young he was scared to death of dogs. He would have a meltdown if a dog came to close to him. It wasn’t until about six and a half, seven years ago that he started to actually not be afraid of dogs.

When we first brought Tex home I could tell he was a little afraid of him, partially because Tex is such a big dog. Thank goodness Tex has such an easy-going disposition.

As the years went by Peyton became more and more attached to Tex……And it’s so cute to see them now such big buddies!

Peyton feeds Tex, walks him and is his basic caregiver. It was so cute when Peyton would be doing his schoolwork, Tex would be laying by him on the floor.

What I love most, seeing how Peyton went from being so scared of dogs, that he would have meltdowns… to him having Tex as his  emotional support  dog.

I’ve so often thought about the day at the shelter, when Tex looked at me almost to say help me… And smile and think how much he helped us. His unconditional love for Peyton, and Peyton’s unconditional love for him is such an awesome thing!

Never underestimate the love of a shelter dog! Please visit your local animal shelter,  there are so many animals waiting to be loved, but more importantly to love you unconditionally!

Adopt Don’t Shop!

https://www.aspca.org/

http://www.humanesociety.org/

 

 

A few of my favorite Blogs!

When I sat down to write my “Monday Blog” I honestly had a brain freeze! I couldn’t get motivated…. I hate when I’m like this. Usually I have some sort of idea in my head what I want to write about. I looked at a few things that I use ….that  are my “go to” for inspiration, still I just couldn’t wrap my head around an entire blog idea.

I usually have some sort of idea in my head what I want to write about. I just couldn’t wrap my head around an entire blog idea. So I decided rather than just throw something out there, and write about something that I didn’t really feel from my heart, I would do a best of blogs!

I’m going to  pick five different blogs that I’ve written over the last 2+ years and share them again with you. I have different reasons  why I picked each of these blogs, but I think you’ll get something from each one of them. I wanted it to be varied, I wanted it to be a broad overview of just what AwesomismMom has been about, and how we’ve evolved from when we started till now.

Soon we’re going to be unveiling our new project Team Awesomism…..  I’m so proud of how far we have come. We started with  a “therapeutic blog” and soon we are going to be unveiling some really awesome projects!

Thank you so much for being a loyal reader and for following us on social media!  Your support means more to me than words can express. I hope you continue to follow us and support us!

Please sign up for our newsletter, which will be coming soon.  I promise more details will be coming soon about Team Awesomism,  as well as our newsletter and some other really cool surprise we have planned!

Hope you enjoy these five best of blogs!  I even snuck a blog in the Peyton  wrote! I picked these different blogs for different reasons …when we introduce Team Awesomism,  I think you’ll understand better why!

I loved reading through them because not only does it bring back awesome memories, but I get to see how much we’ve evolved and advanced since we started blogging, and that’s exciting to me.

http://www.awesomismmom.com/bowling-and-life-lessons/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/my-passionate-campaign-for-awesomism/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/my-hero-by-peyton/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/flipboard-and-turning-autism-into-awesomism/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/playing-small/

The Dog ate my Blog!

The Dog ate my Blog?!? Well, it’s a bit silly,  I know! I was trying to think of what I was going to call this blog… 

I tossed around several different ideas… uh oh I failed….wait..what it’s June 11? Stop the presses … and several others! I decided The dog ate my blog was kind of catchy, funny and sounded the best. I’m sure you are wondering what this all means!

When I was younger it was a silly saying when you didn’t do your homework, you would use that as an excuse! I think we all know the dog didn’t REALLY eat my blog…

The truth is, I didn’t meet a deadline, that’s right I failed. I have several good excuses errrr I mean reasons… but I won’t bore you with them!

What deadline did I miss? Getting everything ready to launch Team Awesomism. I contemplated just putting out something… anything…

I decided that really wasn’t a good option as it would be a bad “first impression” of the project. I’m very committed to Team Awesomism and I want it to work. Throwing something out there isn’t how I want to start this!

I hope you forgive me and hang on for a bit longer… how much longer I’m not exactly sure. My hope is that it will be ready to “launch” by July 1st, maybe even sooner!

There are many “moving pieces” to Team Awesomism and I need to get them all in place before I launch. A couple of these “pieces” are taking longer than I expected. The good news is they are coming together, better than I had even hoped for!

Thanks for reading this blog, for understanding and I really look forward to launching Team Awesomism, when everything is ready! I’m really excited about this project and I want it to be done right. You only get one chance to make a first impression!

If you haven’t already joined my mailing list… please do! I’m on twitter, Flipboard, instagram and Pinterest as AwesomismMom.. I’d be honored to have your follow. I’d love to connect with you on LinkedIn as Lynne AwesomismMom  My email is Lynne@awesomismmom.com feel drop me a note, a question, a word of encouragement or even a criticism! I’d love to hear from you!

No more excuses, I promise…I have to get back to work… to Get Team Awesomism ready to launch 🚀  ……..Have an awesome day!