His Perspective

Today I had a long overdue phone call with a dear friend. We’ve been promising to talk for months, only to have life get in the way. We’ve been “catching up “ via text which really isn’t catching up.. it’s more like bullet points of an essay. One thing I really adore about him is we can pick right up where we left off and never feel like there was a “break”. I’ve known him for sometime and have always really enjoyed him. He’s very smart, extremely funny.. I’ve been in tears many times from laughter while talking with him. He is very straight forward, but one of the nicest guys you’ll ever know. I really enjoy my conversations with him because I vent, laugh, cry and learn and come away feeling better about so many things. He’s a world traveler and brings a perspective that I don’t always get elsewhere.

I love having a variety of friends who bring different life experiences and perspectives to our friendship. This friendship brings me both that I don’t get elsewhere and I deeply value that. While he doesn’t have children, he has extended family members who are autistic,and he is directly involved in their lives, so he can add thoughts, views and ideas that I don’t get elsewhere. He sees the “forest through the trees” but brings it having a direct connection to Autism.

Todays conversation didn’t disappoint, we not only caught up, we made plans for the future. There are times I feel like I’ve hit a wall with AwesomismMom, not that I can’t break down those walls.. but I need  a “sledgehammer perspective” from others who aren’t necessarily directly involved. It’s nice to get feedback on my blogs, thoughts, goals and direction for AwesomismMom. He was very encouraging today, as well as brought some awesome thoughts. I enjoyed hearing his perspective not only on my blogs, but also on how he sees the other side, from many of us who live every day with an autistic child. I think sometimes I get so caught up in the day to day of AwesomismMom and trying to make a positive impact, I tend to overlook ideas that can bring about my end goal. My ultimate dream is to be a positive network in many ways for autistic teens and adults. I have a plan… although I don’t share it with many… I work every day to achieve the goals I have set. I go through many ideas daily to help me try to achieve mine and Peyton goal of Turning Autism into Awesomism. I know what my end goal is… what I struggle with is how to get there. My conversation today was awesome because he doesn’t offer advice how to get there… he offers perspectives on why my end goal is so important.

I came away from our call energetic, as well a new vision of how I need to achieve my end goal.  Friendships are give and take and sometimes the person doing the giving may not even realize how much they actually gave. I know my friend reads my blog and I know when he reads this he will realize this is about him. I’m thankful for his friendship, but more importantly I’m thankful for his perspective! Sending him a big hug!

 

Our CMFRT Blanket

On March 29th, I got a special box delivered to our home. In the box was an awesome  blanket from a company called Cmfrt. I was so happy to get the blanket, because I wanted to see if it would help me reduce stress and sleep better, just like my Human Touch massage chair does. When I was little, I had trouble sleeping at night all the time, and that’s because of my autism.Whenever I’m stressed about a bad storm, a test on my schoolwork or something that stresses me in general, I need to de stress. When I’m calm I do much better on my schoolwork and stop stressing over other things too. Getting a good night sleep helps me not stress as much.

I really love this blanket It feels really soft and is really comfortable. I really like the colors too, it actually matches my new room colors! The colors are also comforting. I also like that it can easily be washed in the washer because I’m sure as much as I’ll use it, it will get dirty. What I love most about the Cmfrt blanket is calms me down, it helps me with my autism, because it feels like someone is hugging me tight. The first time I wrapped it around me it relaxed me. I like wrapping myself up in it and watch TV or read my IPad!  It helps me relax before I go to bed. I also use it at night if I need to sleep, sometimes I can’t sleep and this blanket helps me sleep.  I can also take it with me when we travel, because sometimes I really have trouble sleeping in hotels, this will help!  It’s so comfortable and not too heavy, I also don’t get hot under it, I hate being hot. This blanket is helping me turn Autism into Awesomism!

I shared the blanket with my Mom too. She gets stressed and then gets migraines, one night she needed to sleep but was stressed so I gave it to her, she said she slept really well. She actually didn’t want to give it back hahaha! The one night we had really bad storms and our dog Hazel, who is half dachshund and miniature pinscher, and a rescue dog from the animal shelter, even slept under it with me! She’s always nervous during storms and this really helped her calm down! I’m going to have to hide my blanket or I think my mom will take it!   Hahaha even my sister, who lives in Germany wants me to send it to her!

If you want or need a blanket that is really comfortable and helps get rid of the stress, anxiety and calm you down,especially if you’re autistic, you should really try Cmfrt, They have lots of great comfort blankets,You should also visit their website and look at their blankets I’m sure you will find one you love. They have different weights that will match how much you weigh. It’s usually about 10% of your weight. Here is their website. https://cmfrt.us/  Please Check it out and you can also follow them on Instagram! I know you will love their blankets just like we do! Just be careful that your family doesn’t try to take it from you! Just kidding. If you have any questions you want to ask me about the blanket, you can. I’m going to be doing a video too about the blanket and how I use it, so please watch for it. Thanks for reading my blog and I hope you share it

Peyton

Blessed Easter Weekend

Have a beautiful Good Friday and a Very Blessed Easter Weekend! There is nothing more beautiful than Unconditional Love! Let’s vow to spread Love to Everyone!

Be Positive! A Sunday Truth

There is enough negativity in the world. Too many people just want to complain and be negative. That’s the easy route. Start each day focusing on the positives in the world… you may just be pleasantly surprised. Peyton has taught me so many lessons, one being… life is only as tough as you think it is!

Is it really “Social” Part 1

   I read an article the other day that talked about how spending too much time on “Social media” can lead to depression…..this got me thinking about so many situations, frustrations, good times etc…. All attached to social media…This blog is going to be a 2 part. In part one I’m going to discuss 2 points that I don’t think are often discussed when online bullying is brought up. Second blog will be the positive sides to social media!

First let’s explore the negatives, I like ending on a positive note! ….there is the obvious the “cyber bullying” most people I talk to at one time or another have been a victim of bullying online. It’s sad and seems to be getting worse. This is real concern for me with Peyton, while I don’t excuse any bullying, I know kids, especially special needs kids, can have the hardest time dealing with bullies. Everyone always makes the comment…bullies are just insecure people…yes we know this..but it doesn’t make the hurt and pain less. I have found that many of the bullies are also people who tend to live in a delusional world. I have seen people who were bullies online, also have truly “online fantasy lives” They live on estates, they drive mid 6 figure cars, they own stables of horses, have/had unbelievable careers, are experts on EVERY subject etc….most people just chuckle and laugh at these people. I view it a bit different, as I have also seen many of these people be some of the biggest online bullies. My theory on it is, they are so unhappy they have to make up the “perfect” life and are afraid of exposure. While most of us know to ignore or just be amused by these people, many special needs kids and adults will take them at face value. Ask questions etc…this can and many times does unleash bullies to attack…I wish when people see bullies they would speak up, block and show support for the person who is being bullied. Since many of the bullies have built their “online lives” on fantasy, having reality called out on them may result in either they leave social media or stop.

Another group that I haven’t quite figured out is those who nonstop tweet at someone..it can be a celebrity, athlete etc…. Most of the time they get next to no response from the person, yet they seem to need this attention. It’s not only odd to me, it’s frustrating. I have a couple of thoughts..one, why not spend that time and or energy supporting a “cause” and help get the word out instead of bordering on cyberstalking. These people also many times bully others who do happen to tweet that the same person, as they seem to feel they “own” this persons time…I feel bad for people on the receiving end of the tweets as well. Many times they want to interact with many people,but that can almost be impossible. I’ve seen autistic teens and adults tweet at “celebrities” and then get bullied for doing so.. this really bothers me. I’ve actually gotten involved to show support.

I’ve heard people say, then just get off of social media… but I don’t think that’s the solution. Sometimes it’s a valuable outlet for people. Not only from a business  standpoint, but also an outlet for some who don’t have much outlet. Such as special needs, elderly etc…. I think the solution should involve in not giving bullies a platform. If people would block, unfollow or even call out bullies maybe it can make a difference. In my blog next week, I’ll discuss the positives to social media. There are so many positive things, sometimes they just seem to be outweighed by the negatives.