The Rocking Chair

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I have always really loved rocking chairs, I think there is something soothing and calming about rocking… sitting and thinking.

I rocked all four of my children to sleep when they were little… Peyton loved it the most. He always love the motion of rocking… Even many times when I was standing, I would rock back-and-forth with all my kids, but especially Peyton.

Rocking has been proven to lower ,stress anxiety and calm you down.

I really don’t ever remember a time in my life… as either a child or an adult… that I didn’t have it rocking chair in my house. We even have rocking chairs on our back patio. There are some days when I’m extremely stressed, that I just go sit outside and rock in those chairs… and it really calms me down.

For centuries rocking chairs have been one of the most popular pieces of furniture. Many look at them as a very iconic piece of the American culture.

Some believe that it was Benjamin Franklin that invented the rocking chair… Although, others disagree.

The design of the rocking chair was actually inspired by rocking cradles that date back to ancient times.

So if you really think about it, it makes sense that the rocking chair would be calming… As it was used to calm babies when they were in their cradles.

I remember as a kid my grandmother sitting in her rocking chair and knitting… It was like an iconic American moment.

Many nursing homes and mental health facilities to this day have rocking chairs of some form, in there facilities.

There are all kinds of chairs, nowadays that rock… You see them in just wood, you see them in plastic, you see them in fabric etc. etc. so why am I writing an entire blog about a rocking chair?

Because one of the things associated with rocking chairs aside from having a very calming and therapeutic attached to it, they were used many times, and still are for front porch talks…

Where people come together… friends… family… neighbors and talk!

Talk about everything! about the weather, talk about life, talk about their families, about their work, about their likes, their dislikes etc.

I wish I could take America and put it in a big round circle of Rocking chairs and say let’s sit for a spell… Let’s grab a lemonade, or hot tea or cold tea, whatever you choose and TALK!!

While we’re rocking and calming down, let’s truly talk…. let’s open our hearts, open our ears and listen to one another and talk.

The days of people really getting together an conversing and accepting and caring about each other… seems such a distant memory.

I for one am not willing to just let that go… So I hope each and every One of you who is reading this will join me… Open your heart, sit back relax and talk…..with your neighbors, your family, your friends, even somebody you don’t know! but you don’t feel like you have much in common with… because let me tell you something, when you start talking to people… you’ll be amazed at how much you have in common.

Love, compassion acceptance and caring is what is going to carry us through these rough times, so let’s all grab a rocking chair.. sit down via phone, face to face… anyway that we can connect with other and rock in a rocking chair… and let’s start spreading positivity, love and kindness…

As always, thanks for reading my blog!

Here is an event Peyton and I will be hosting on June 29… we would love to have you be a part of it!

Lynne AwesomismMom

* Thank you Montgomery Bakehouse for letting us sit on the rocking chairs!

A LOVEly Garden

I absolutely love gardens, I have quite a few of them at my home… My favorite one that I started this year is a large wild flower garden.

I am much more interested in starting my garden from seeds and bulbs than I am going and buying flowers and planting them.

There’s something magical about planting the seeds/bulbs and watching them grow… It always amazes me how just a little seed, that you can barely see.. Can turn into something so beautiful and so amazing.

 

Nature for me is very calming, I not only love to have flowers in my gardens, but I also love to have cut flowers in my home. There is something so beautiful and uplifting about see beautiful flowers all around. I especially love it in the winter when it is cold, and in the summer when it honestly is almost too hot to go outside.

Many times we associate flowers with love… You see pictures of flowers when you’ll see people promoting love, or you see flowers on greeting cards… when you are sending them to somebody that you love.

Many of our most prominent “love” holidays like Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day etc. we really promote sending flowers… To someone to make them feel special.

With everything going on in the world right now… All the anger, all the hate… so many people just telling other people what to think, and how to feel and what to do… I’ve seen people point blank say if you don’t say this, you’re no longer my friend… That’s hurtful because we are all individuals and we all express ourselves differently.

This is especially upsetting to me because Peyton… Being an autistic adult, doesn’t always use words in the way that other people use them… He has seen some of this on social media, and it’s really hurt his heart.

The other day when I was outside in my garden looking at all the beauty and just trying to sit there and calm down… I thought you know we take these tiny little seeds and these bulbs and we plant them in soil, and we nourish them and we water them etc. etc. and they grow into these beautiful flowers.

Wouldn’t it be really awesome, if we as humans, stopped for a few minutes and realized that instead of planting seeds of anger and hatred and distrust… We stopped and listened to one another truly listened… Each one of us has a different life experience, and we can learn so much from that by sharing with others… truly sharing and listening and opening our hearts.

Imagine if we all decided to plant the seeds of love… Of listening… Of compassion… Of understanding… How much better we would feel… How much better we would be… And how much more beautiful the world would be!

I challenge each of you.. every time you see a flower.. to think about where can YOU plant that seed of love,acceptance, understanding, compassion and listening.

Together we can do better, together we can be better,but most of all together we can grow into something beautiful.

As always thanks so much for reading my blog!

Have an awesome and beautiful day!

Anxiety, Autism and Zimpli Kids

Several weeks ago I was approached by Zimpli kids to test out some of their products… These are great products for sensory issues.

I deeply appreciated them reaching out to me and seeing if Peyton would be interested in trying these… I think these are an awesome product for Autism.

Part of the reason why I appreciated it so much is because having GAD… General anxiety disorder… I also love sensory products. There are times when my stress level and anxiety gets so high, and stress balls and sensory Products are very calming and soothing for me.
We received three different product lines from them, and I have to tell you I really liked all three.

Peyton thought they were absolutely awesome. Their texture is wonderful they are easy to deal with… Easy to clean up after, and they even smell really good! They are 100% safe and they are so versatile and all you have to do is add water!

They come in a dry powder,they are so easy to make! Which makes Parents even happier!

Kids can use it, as well as adults. You can do slime sensory trays, use it as messy play outside if you want, or make it in a tub…. you can even slime yourself…

You could find fun games and challenges to do with friends and family…or you could just do it as a full-time sensory product.

I think one of the things that I love best about this product is, it’s not only great for kids… I really wish I had had this for Peyton was younger,but it works just as wellnow.

He loves it, but I’m going to confess… I love the product line as well. So often adults with anxiety &/or severe anxiety like I get, are overlooked. This product line is great for everyone, it’s even fun for people that just want to use it for their kids. Their kids can have fun in the bathtub or play outside or just use their imagination…

I would highly recommend it for a preschool, or at home or when kids are coming over and playing with your kids etc.

I can’t thank Zimplikids enough for asking us to test their product because I now have found a new product for me and Peyton!

We can use when we are really stressed.. other than just stress balls.

Give them a try here is their Facebook page… their Instagram and their Twitter as well as their website

As we said in our video we give this 10 thumbs up and that’s both Peyton and I!

If you have any questions or you’d like more information about all the different things we did with ours, please feel free to reach out to us… We’re gonna be doing another video in a couple weeks with it.

As always… Thanks for reading my blog and here’s to less anxiety…

And a big thank you to the companies, like ZimpliKids that put products out that HELP us every day!

Lynne

Please check out this short video we made about the product!

 

Binge Watching

I admit I used to be one of those people who could never understand how people could binge watch a TV show. I just didn’t feel like I want to sit there for hours and watch the same show over and over… I know it would be different episodes but it still was the same list of characters etc.

We have Comcast/Xfinity in our house, and one of the channels that we watch quite a bit is.. decades TV.

Decades TV does a binge weekend each weekend… Where they run an entire show from noon on Saturday until 6 AM on Monday morning… Each and every weekend is a different show.

One particular weekend they were having a binge weekend of the Commish… I absolutely loved the show when it was on originally.

So I decided that I was going to binge watch it. Needless to say, after that, weekend I became a fan of binge watching. I know surprise surprise!

I have since binge watched a ton of different shows… On cable, Netflix, Tubi etc. etc.

I’m sure you’re wondering why am I talking about binge watching TV in a blog that is supposed to be about autism and or anxiety…

The other day I was thinking about how I couldn’t really find a show to binge watch and what I was interested in watching…. what era, drama, crime, reality or comedy etc. as I was reflecting on what I was really in the mood for, I realized in some ways binge watching TV is very similar to my life.

When I pick a show for binge watching it’s usually because it suits whatever kind of mood I am at that time.

As I’ve spoken about many times in different blogs I have GAD… General anxiety disorder.

When I’m extremely anxious and/ or having anxiety attacks.. I tend to hyperfocus on something in my life. It can be where I’m really stressing about a particular situation that I’ve either just been in, or about to go into… It can be about work, it can be about my kids… It can be about health, it can be about something that’s gonna happen a year from now or something I want to have happen.

The point is, I get myself so worked up and I sit an hyperfocus/stress/feel super anxious about this situation.

It’s not always because I want to, it’s because of my GAD.

When we are binge watching TV shows we become so hyper focused on that particular situation of a show.

I remember back in the olden days… Ha ha I’m 59 years old… When I was young soap operas were super popular. Many stay at home moms sat and watched soap operas during the day, and they became so focused on the shows that sometimes they believe that the actor or actress, were really that person in real life.

I’m by no means saying everyone who watched it believed that, but there were some.

Just like nowadays we become so connected to celebrities, pro athletes, musicians and reality TV stars… That sometimes we feel like because we see them on TV, in the movies, on social media etc. we know them personally we start focusing on their lives.

This is how I can be when I am really consumed with my GAD.. I start believing that my anxiety, my fears, my stress are real.

When I had that epiphany the other day, I suddenly realized I need to use my binge watching of shows almost as a Learning experience for me… To remember just as I can turn off the binge watching, I can get up and walk away… I need to turn off my hyper stress and refocus myself to other things in my life…

Even though I thought binge watching was silly… now I can honestly say I’m kind of glad I did it… And still do! I have learned a life lesson from it.

As always, thanks for reading my blog and have an awesome day!

Peyton’s SelfCare

One of the biggest topics nowadays, especially on social media is self-care. It is something that each and everyone of us really truly need to not only be aware of, but to actually practice.

We all have our different versions of what self-care really is, because we all live different lives, have different stresses, different anxieties and triggers etc.

What may work for me, may not work for you. Having said that… There are some commonalities among all self-care.

In this blog I’m going to do a “mini interview”… With Peyton about how he defines self care for him. I can tell you for an absolute fact, that he has designed this routine of self-care for himself, by himself. It definitely seems to work 90% of the time.

I am in absolutely firm believer in self-care, I know I need it with my GAD… General anxiety disorder. There are days that it is very difficult for me to even function.

I try not to continuously talk about it, because not only do I know that other people don’t want to hear about it all the time… But I don’t wanna hear myself talk about it all the time!

I’ve sat down with Peyton and told him that is fully acceptable and actually I encouraged him, to have his own routine of self-care. I can’t make that for him.. because I don’t know what truly will get him to calm down. These are the following six things that he has told me really do help with his stress/anxiety/autism.

 

 

 

 

 

1. Human touch massage chair

2. Tex ( our dog)

3. Socks

4. Weighted Blanket

5. Lavender

6. coloring… drawing

I’m sure you’re really wondering about number three… the other five are pretty self-explanatory.

Ever since Peyton has been little, he has loved socks. He’s always worn socks… When he was real little, it was very hard to get him to wear sandals because he always wanted to have socks on!

He has worn a lot of different socks over the years, some he has liked, others he can’t stand.

Couple of months ago a company called SmartKnit… Sent us a couple of pair of socks.. one white and one in black, they are seamless socks they hug your feet.. Peyton absolutely loves these socks. While socks may not matter to some of us, they really matter to him and I’m sure there are others out there, who feel the same way. I highly suggest you check into these socks. I wore them a couple times when I could get Peyton to share… They are wonderful… Here is the link.

Like I said earlier in the blog self-care for Peyton is so important to him and I… I want him to not stress and be anxious. These six items REALLY do help.

He is so lucky to have a human touch massage chair, and I’m going to tell you it is the greatest chair, and I cannot say enough good about the company. Here’s the link to their website.

I know I have “promoted” a couple products in this blog and I have not gotten paid to promote these… They just are very important products to us, and I want to share because selfcare is very important to us!…

As always thanks for reading my blog…

And I look forward to your comments…

Don’t forget we will be launching our podcast soon!

Have an awesome day.