Why run when you can walk?

Everyone who knows me knows I am a huge classic TV fan. In fact we got rid of DIRECTV and got Comcast. I love my husband for agreeing to do it!I know many people think that’s crazy. I love the channels that I can get on Comcast.

My favorite show ever is a show called Hazel, Not many people remember the show,but I certainly do. It’s on seven days a week on antenna TV. Which makes me extremely happy.

I Don’t only watch Hazel, I record the show and I also have season one and two on DVD. My awesome hubby bought them for me a few Christmases ago! To say I can’t get enough of Hazel, is probably true! In fact, I actually named one of our dogs after the show.

I’ve been asked many times why I love that show so much…  it’s kind of hard to explain why I do. Part of it is Hazel reminded me a lot of my grandma, who I really loved. I also really liked Don DeFore… I also loved the premise of the show. If you really paid attention to it there were a lot of life lessons in it.

The other day I was watching the show, as I always do, the show was about how we need to slow down. How we are always so busy trying to get somewhere, do something, get ahead… That we don’t really take the time to enjoy what’s right in front of us.

When I was watching the show I thought, wow this is from the early 60s and it still so relevant today. In fact I think we are more that way now than we were then. It’s sad that we decide that we have to get ahead… at the expense of living in the present.

Of course on the show Hazel found a way to get those around her to slow down. I’m not so sure we can get ourselves to slow down, let alone those around us.

I know life is a lot more complicated than a classic TV show, but there are definitely lessons that we can learn from them. The show got me thinking what am I missing in my day-to-day life that I should be paying more attention to. Sad to say, there were more things than I care to admit.

One of the many things that was on my list, was spending time just having Smalltalk. I’m a chatterbox,I admit it. So it seems a bit strange for me to say I don’t spend enough time having Smalltalk.

What I mean by not taking enough time for small talk is this… I don’t sit down with those close to me and just have conversations about what we have planned for the day, what did we do today what are we happy about, what are we sad about etc…

Upon reflection, I made a vow to myself that I was going to take more time each day to have that small talk, especially with Peyton. So Peyton  and I have started a routine of sitting in our office and just chatting. I honestly think it’s good for both of us.

I know taking this time to just chat, laugh and relax has help me feel less anxious. I can also see that it relaxes Peyton , and that makes me happy!

Even though classic TV shows may not always be exactly the way real life is… We can still learn a lot from them. So here’s to you Hazel for helping me learn to walk instead of run. Peyton and I thank  you… For teaching us a wonderful life’s lesson and helping us with our anxiety and stress, by doing such a simple thing as chatting! 💕💕

 

Finding My “Comfort Zones”

I haven’t talked about it much, but I have GAD. Which stands for General Anxiety Disorder. I was diagnosed with it over 12 years ago.

I was going through a particularly rough time in my life. So many things were swirling on around me. I felt beyond stressed with every part of my life.

When I was diagnosed with GAD, the diagnosis itself helped to relieve some of my stress. Allowed me to understand why I had such severe anxiety. Up until I was diagnosed, I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t process my anxiety better.

GAD is not something that you get over, it is something you learn to live with. While it can be a daily struggle to deal with, I actually can see positives in it.

I honestly believe that my GAD has allowed me in some ways to understand Peyton better.  I understand his triggers better. I have my own triggers, so I’m a lot more compassionate when he is really stressed.

Severe anxiety is no walk in the park. Sometimes it’s difficult for me to explain to people how my anxiety is affecting my day. It affects my sleep, My daily routines, as well as every other part of my life.

I’ve learned to cope with it in different ways. One of my favorite coping mechanism is to take a hot bath, I especially love taking hot lavender baths.

I’ve come to understand that when I get really stressed I need to do one of three things to my find my comfort zone:

1.  Talk about my stress, exactly what/who is stressing me, so that I can verbally and mentally work through it.

2. Distract myself with something positive that I absolutely love doing. This many times will  allow me to focus on something different …. the original stress actually works its way out naturally.

3. Sleep… Sleep… Sleep !! Yes, sleep helps me a lot. Remember when I said it affects my sleep? If I allow myself to become too tired, I have anxiety issues much quicker!

I’ve also learned that I have to remove toxic people from my life. I can’t allow those who just want to throw negativity at everyone all the time to be in my life on a daily basis. I take things way more to heart than people many times realize I do.

One of the reasons I love my husband so much, is he understands my GAD and works with me, when I’m going through my rough patches. He has this great expression “Shake it off” he knows EXACTLY when I need to hear this…..

He’s a strong support system for me, he plays at my strengths, works through  my weaknesses and shows me unconditional love through it all! He truly is my rock.

I discussed in prior blogs, how Peyton and I are starting team Awesomism ! This project is going to be about “conquering your fear’s and finding your comfort zone.”

One of the biggest things that I’ve learned since being diagnosed with GAD, is how I need to face my anxieties and find my comfort zones! I know I’m far from perfect, and I also have learned not to let others opinions of me, to define me.

I’m a work in progress, but I’m Learning to face my fears, anxieties and stresses and find those awesome comfort zones!

Here is a link to my book…. it’s full of ideas for “comfort zones” 

#Kindle edition:

http://amazon.com/dp/B072BWWCDJ/

#Print edition:

http://amazon.com/Mom-Awesomism-

http://amazon.com/dp/1546641653/

 

 

Light in the Dark Days

I am so happy to have Jay as our guest blogger again! I absolutely love his writing! His blogs are from the heart…. his honesty about his anxiety is refreshing… please follow him on twitter… @stealtheMGaming  as well as his blog….https://beardedigor.wordpress.com/
As I sat on the bus home, headphones in and music blaring, I find myself reflecting on my last few days. These last few days were some of my worst mentally for me. But I take a deep breath and realise a tide is turning.
It all started last Wednesday. I woke up just feeling down. I wasn’t my usual self. Was it the lack of sleep for another night, the humidity or my anxiety. All I know is something is different. I get through work with few problems. Not feeling too bad but I was excited to see my friends for the night.
Thursday however was a different matter.
I spent the whole day shut off. I went to work as normal. But I wasn’t myself, I didn’t talk to anyone, I want smiling or talkative as I can be. I was also snappy. I was truly feeling low. Anxiety was kicking my butt. This continued throughout the night and through the next day. Although by Friday night I was starting to pick up a little I wasn’t prepared for what happened next.
So Friday night. The night my ex blocked me. Now I know I say ex. But I had been waiting for her for 10 weeks to get sorted and come back. That was the deal. But yeah that happened. I felt lost, foolish and idiotic. It really pushed me back down. But it also has an alternative effect. I became motivated. I became empowered.
Despite my anxiety pushing my down and life on top of me. I had a clear goal for the first time in my life. It was me and my blog. I want to be better and I want to be successful. I can’t get rid of anxiety but I plan to use it to push me forward.
Thank you for reading and thank you so much AwesomismMom for letting me be a guest.
Bearded Igor x

Facing his Fears

August 1st Peyton and I are going to be launching Team Awesomism!  We are really excited about this new project!

In preparation for this new project Peyton and I have been doing some small projects to lead up to it!  Once we announce what team Awesomism is, all the little projects we’ve been doing will make more sense.

Peyton has always been afraid since he was little of motorcycles.  The noise and vibration that they put off, always scared him. Part of Team Awesomism is about facing your fears, and finding your comforts!

About a month ago Peyton came to me and said, I really want to learn to ride a bike, and I really want to stop being afraid of motorcycles. I kind of saw the connection between the two. Even though bikes don’t make noise, he still was afraid to get on one and fall!

He and I sat down and discussed his fear of both. He told me that he was afraid of falling on a bike and he felt like a motorcycle was a very loud and aggressive bike.  In his mind, there was a direct connection between the two.

I may not always understand why he is afraid of certain things or doing certain things, but I respect his fear. We each have our own idiosyncrasies and he certainly allowed to have his!

On July 7, the local  BMW, Indian, Singleshot motorcycle dealership had an awesome event. They were doing a virtual reality motorcycle ride at the dealership. 

I contacted them before the event, and asked them if it was OK if Peyton and I attended. They were super nice about it,and said absolutely come on over!

When we got to the dealership, I could tell Peyton was a bit apprehensive. I asked him if he still wanted to go in and try it. He said absolutely he wanted to get to a point where he didn’t fear motorcycles.  He actually felt that if he got over his fear of motorcycles, it would help him ride a bike.

So in we went! They had food out as well as some drinks. I asked Peyton if he wanted something to eat and drink, thinking this would probably calm him down and ease  him into being around the motorcycles. 

Once we were done eating, I asked the people working there, if it was OK if Peyton tried the virtual reality. I discussed with them that Peyton was autistic, and why he wanted to do the virtual reality,as well as look at all the motorcycles .

They couldn’t have been nicer, they were so accommodating to Peyton. It really touched my heart, how nice they were.


Peyton did the virtual reality, and absolutely loved it. He sat in the chair, because he wasn’t sure he wanted to sit on a motorcycle. Once he started the virtual reality on the motorcycle, he got really into it. It was funny to watch him and I was so happy to see how much he loved it.

think the best moment was when he was doing the virtual reality, and they started motorcycle right behind him! He never flinched, in fact he really enjoyed it! It was so awesome to see him overcome that fear! 

After we left the motorcycle shop, Peyton  asked me if we could go look at bikes! It was great because for the first time wanted to actually look at bikes and talk about buying one, so he could learn to ride a bike!

I can’t thank the guys at the BMW Indian single shot dealership in the Woodlands Texas, enough! They were so incredible to Peyton, they even asked him before they started up motorcycles, if it was OK!!

Peyton overcame a major fear of his that day,  it was such an awesome day! I’m so proud of him and how hard he is trying to overcome fears.

Here is the link to the motorcycle dealership. If you are in the Woodlands,Texas area please show them some love. https://www.bmwmcwoodlands.com/

If you’re not, but you know someone who is …..please ask them to. Here is their Twitter…..  you can follow them as well. @BMWIndSS_77385

A few of my favorite Blogs!

When I sat down to write my “Monday Blog” I honestly had a brain freeze! I couldn’t get motivated…. I hate when I’m like this. Usually I have some sort of idea in my head what I want to write about. I looked at a few things that I use ….that  are my “go to” for inspiration, still I just couldn’t wrap my head around an entire blog idea.

I usually have some sort of idea in my head what I want to write about. I just couldn’t wrap my head around an entire blog idea. So I decided rather than just throw something out there, and write about something that I didn’t really feel from my heart, I would do a best of blogs!

I’m going to  pick five different blogs that I’ve written over the last 2+ years and share them again with you. I have different reasons  why I picked each of these blogs, but I think you’ll get something from each one of them. I wanted it to be varied, I wanted it to be a broad overview of just what AwesomismMom has been about, and how we’ve evolved from when we started till now.

Soon we’re going to be unveiling our new project Team Awesomism…..  I’m so proud of how far we have come. We started with  a “therapeutic blog” and soon we are going to be unveiling some really awesome projects!

Thank you so much for being a loyal reader and for following us on social media!  Your support means more to me than words can express. I hope you continue to follow us and support us!

Please sign up for our newsletter, which will be coming soon.  I promise more details will be coming soon about Team Awesomism,  as well as our newsletter and some other really cool surprise we have planned!

Hope you enjoy these five best of blogs!  I even snuck a blog in the Peyton  wrote! I picked these different blogs for different reasons …when we introduce Team Awesomism,  I think you’ll understand better why!

I loved reading through them because not only does it bring back awesome memories, but I get to see how much we’ve evolved and advanced since we started blogging, and that’s exciting to me.

http://www.awesomismmom.com/bowling-and-life-lessons/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/my-passionate-campaign-for-awesomism/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/my-hero-by-peyton/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/flipboard-and-turning-autism-into-awesomism/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/playing-small/