The Rocking Chair

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I have always really loved rocking chairs, I think there is something soothing and calming about rocking… sitting and thinking.

I rocked all four of my children to sleep when they were little… Peyton loved it the most. He always love the motion of rocking… Even many times when I was standing, I would rock back-and-forth with all my kids, but especially Peyton.

Rocking has been proven to lower ,stress anxiety and calm you down.

I really don’t ever remember a time in my life… as either a child or an adult… that I didn’t have it rocking chair in my house. We even have rocking chairs on our back patio. There are some days when I’m extremely stressed, that I just go sit outside and rock in those chairs… and it really calms me down.

For centuries rocking chairs have been one of the most popular pieces of furniture. Many look at them as a very iconic piece of the American culture.

Some believe that it was Benjamin Franklin that invented the rocking chair… Although, others disagree.

The design of the rocking chair was actually inspired by rocking cradles that date back to ancient times.

So if you really think about it, it makes sense that the rocking chair would be calming… As it was used to calm babies when they were in their cradles.

I remember as a kid my grandmother sitting in her rocking chair and knitting… It was like an iconic American moment.

Many nursing homes and mental health facilities to this day have rocking chairs of some form, in there facilities.

There are all kinds of chairs, nowadays that rock… You see them in just wood, you see them in plastic, you see them in fabric etc. etc. so why am I writing an entire blog about a rocking chair?

Because one of the things associated with rocking chairs aside from having a very calming and therapeutic attached to it, they were used many times, and still are for front porch talks…

Where people come together… friends… family… neighbors and talk!

Talk about everything! about the weather, talk about life, talk about their families, about their work, about their likes, their dislikes etc.

I wish I could take America and put it in a big round circle of Rocking chairs and say let’s sit for a spell… Let’s grab a lemonade, or hot tea or cold tea, whatever you choose and TALK!!

While we’re rocking and calming down, let’s truly talk…. let’s open our hearts, open our ears and listen to one another and talk.

The days of people really getting together an conversing and accepting and caring about each other… seems such a distant memory.

I for one am not willing to just let that go… So I hope each and every One of you who is reading this will join me… Open your heart, sit back relax and talk…..with your neighbors, your family, your friends, even somebody you don’t know! but you don’t feel like you have much in common with… because let me tell you something, when you start talking to people… you’ll be amazed at how much you have in common.

Love, compassion acceptance and caring is what is going to carry us through these rough times, so let’s all grab a rocking chair.. sit down via phone, face to face… anyway that we can connect with other and rock in a rocking chair… and let’s start spreading positivity, love and kindness…

As always, thanks for reading my blog!

Here is an event Peyton and I will be hosting on June 29… we would love to have you be a part of it!

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* Thank you Montgomery Bakehouse for letting us sit on the rocking chairs!

My Anyway Friend

“ My anyway friend” I heard that term for the first time in December… I was laying in bed for several days binge watching the show, Private Practice…It’s not like me to basically stay in bed for a few days.

This time I had a really good reason.. I’m trying to work my way through my grief. One of my oldest and dearest friends… Passed away suddenly… I know for a fact she’s in a better place because Lisa lived her faith, Walked her faith and shared her faith.

I love the definition of an “anyway friend”… They know everything about you and they love you anyway… That was Lisa to a T!

Lisa didn’t have the easiest of lives, but she made the best of everything she had. She was a friend that everyone wants, an few are blessed to have.

I could give 100 stories of who Lisa was, but I’m gonna give you my favorite…

10+ years ago I was going through a really difficult divorce, I was a single parent of four kids …one being autistic… I was trying to work 40/50 hours a week,on top of many other things, but I hit my wall.

I was having a really rough time emotionally and mentally. I was living in Northern Virginia at the time, and Lisa was still in Florida… That’s where we had become friends.

I called her and told her that I was going to be coming home to Florida, to see the doctor.

I asked her if she would please meet me at the doctors office… Because I was afraid to go alone, she said no she was busy. This really hurt my feelings, because it wasn’t the way Lisa was. I reminded myself she was going through her own divorce.. so even though it hurt me, I knew she must have had a good reason.

I drove home and I went to see the doctor… That’s when I was diagnosed with GAD… General Anxiety Disorder.

After some time with the doctor, I walked out into the lobby… I felt a little better, because I felt like I knew what was wrong with me, and now I had to fix it.

There was Lisa standing in the lobby. I burst into tears and said I can’t believe you’re here. She said I’ve been sitting in the parking lot across the street for two hours. I wanted to make sure that you were going to come to the appointment, if you didn’t I was going to go find you and drag you here.

She then went on to say, I also knew that if I met you here, you would look at me as your safe haven… Your rock…and you would talk yourself out of going in and getting the help you needed.

She was 100% correct! she knew me like the back of her hand. That’s who Lisa was. She was my rock… she kicked me in the butt when I needed it, and she loved me unconditionally.

I miss her so much words can’t express. She was an amazing woman, mother, grandmother… Sister… Daughter.. but most of all she was my “anyway friend”.

She truly was that friend who knew everything about you, the good, the bad and the ugly and loved you anyway. She didn’t just talk it, she walked it… just like her faith. I would give anything to have 30 minutes with her again.

I wanted to write this blog and put it out on Valentine’s Day… Because she will always be in my heart. I miss you lees.. and I love you…

Until we see each other again, I promise I will be as awesome of an “anyway friend” to others as you were to me…❤️💔

Binge Watching

I admit I used to be one of those people who could never understand how people could binge watch a TV show. I just didn’t feel like I want to sit there for hours and watch the same show over and over… I know it would be different episodes but it still was the same list of characters etc.

We have Comcast/Xfinity in our house, and one of the channels that we watch quite a bit is.. decades TV.

Decades TV does a binge weekend each weekend… Where they run an entire show from noon on Saturday until 6 AM on Monday morning… Each and every weekend is a different show.

One particular weekend they were having a binge weekend of the Commish… I absolutely loved the show when it was on originally.

So I decided that I was going to binge watch it. Needless to say, after that, weekend I became a fan of binge watching. I know surprise surprise!

I have since binge watched a ton of different shows… On cable, Netflix, Tubi etc. etc.

I’m sure you’re wondering why am I talking about binge watching TV in a blog that is supposed to be about autism and or anxiety…

The other day I was thinking about how I couldn’t really find a show to binge watch and what I was interested in watching…. what era, drama, crime, reality or comedy etc. as I was reflecting on what I was really in the mood for, I realized in some ways binge watching TV is very similar to my life.

When I pick a show for binge watching it’s usually because it suits whatever kind of mood I am at that time.

As I’ve spoken about many times in different blogs I have GAD… General anxiety disorder.

When I’m extremely anxious and/ or having anxiety attacks.. I tend to hyperfocus on something in my life. It can be where I’m really stressing about a particular situation that I’ve either just been in, or about to go into… It can be about work, it can be about my kids… It can be about health, it can be about something that’s gonna happen a year from now or something I want to have happen.

The point is, I get myself so worked up and I sit an hyperfocus/stress/feel super anxious about this situation.

It’s not always because I want to, it’s because of my GAD.

When we are binge watching TV shows we become so hyper focused on that particular situation of a show.

I remember back in the olden days… Ha ha I’m 59 years old… When I was young soap operas were super popular. Many stay at home moms sat and watched soap operas during the day, and they became so focused on the shows that sometimes they believe that the actor or actress, were really that person in real life.

I’m by no means saying everyone who watched it believed that, but there were some.

Just like nowadays we become so connected to celebrities, pro athletes, musicians and reality TV stars… That sometimes we feel like because we see them on TV, in the movies, on social media etc. we know them personally we start focusing on their lives.

This is how I can be when I am really consumed with my GAD.. I start believing that my anxiety, my fears, my stress are real.

When I had that epiphany the other day, I suddenly realized I need to use my binge watching of shows almost as a Learning experience for me… To remember just as I can turn off the binge watching, I can get up and walk away… I need to turn off my hyper stress and refocus myself to other things in my life…

Even though I thought binge watching was silly… now I can honestly say I’m kind of glad I did it… And still do! I have learned a life lesson from it.

As always, thanks for reading my blog and have an awesome day!

Banana Bread Recipe

The other night Peyton and I decided to bake some banana bread. Peyton absolutely loves banana bread, and I have to admit I really like it too!

I got so many comments and requests for the recipe… that I decided to make this my Friday food blog!

Hope you enjoy it as much as we do… It’s actually very easy to make… It does not require a lot of time other than the baking! I would love to hear her each and everybody’s feedback on this.

  • 3 ripe bananas, mashed
  • 1/2 cup sugar
  • 1/2 cup brown sugar
  • 1 tablespoon of ground cinnamon
  • 1 egg
  • 1/4 cup of melted butter
  • 1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1 teaspoon salt

Directions

  1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees F. Grease a 9×5-inch loaf pan
  2. Combine all ingredients together in bowl, mix together on medium speed until everything is completely mixed.  Pour batter into the prepared loaf pan.
  3. Bake in the preheated oven until a toothpick inserted in the center of the bread comes out clean, about 1 hour 

As always please check for any and all food allergies! We love to bake from scratch and are always looking for other recipes to try! If you have any you would like to share we would love to try them!

Also, if you would like to become a guest Blogger I am always looking for Guest Bloggers… Please reach out!

Have an awesome day and thanks for reading my blog

Peyton’s SelfCare

One of the biggest topics nowadays, especially on social media is self-care. It is something that each and everyone of us really truly need to not only be aware of, but to actually practice.

We all have our different versions of what self-care really is, because we all live different lives, have different stresses, different anxieties and triggers etc.

What may work for me, may not work for you. Having said that… There are some commonalities among all self-care.

In this blog I’m going to do a “mini interview”… With Peyton about how he defines self care for him. I can tell you for an absolute fact, that he has designed this routine of self-care for himself, by himself. It definitely seems to work 90% of the time.

I am in absolutely firm believer in self-care, I know I need it with my GAD… General anxiety disorder. There are days that it is very difficult for me to even function.

I try not to continuously talk about it, because not only do I know that other people don’t want to hear about it all the time… But I don’t wanna hear myself talk about it all the time!

I’ve sat down with Peyton and told him that is fully acceptable and actually I encouraged him, to have his own routine of self-care. I can’t make that for him.. because I don’t know what truly will get him to calm down. These are the following six things that he has told me really do help with his stress/anxiety/autism.

 

 

 

 

 

1. Human touch massage chair

2. Tex ( our dog)

3. Socks

4. Weighted Blanket

5. Lavender

6. coloring… drawing

I’m sure you’re really wondering about number three… the other five are pretty self-explanatory.

Ever since Peyton has been little, he has loved socks. He’s always worn socks… When he was real little, it was very hard to get him to wear sandals because he always wanted to have socks on!

He has worn a lot of different socks over the years, some he has liked, others he can’t stand.

Couple of months ago a company called SmartKnit… Sent us a couple of pair of socks.. one white and one in black, they are seamless socks they hug your feet.. Peyton absolutely loves these socks. While socks may not matter to some of us, they really matter to him and I’m sure there are others out there, who feel the same way. I highly suggest you check into these socks. I wore them a couple times when I could get Peyton to share… They are wonderful… Here is the link.

Like I said earlier in the blog self-care for Peyton is so important to him and I… I want him to not stress and be anxious. These six items REALLY do help.

He is so lucky to have a human touch massage chair, and I’m going to tell you it is the greatest chair, and I cannot say enough good about the company. Here’s the link to their website.

I know I have “promoted” a couple products in this blog and I have not gotten paid to promote these… They just are very important products to us, and I want to share because selfcare is very important to us!…

As always thanks for reading my blog…

And I look forward to your comments…

Don’t forget we will be launching our podcast soon!

Have an awesome day.