Peyton’s SelfCare

One of the biggest topics nowadays, especially on social media is self-care. It is something that each and everyone of us really truly need to not only be aware of, but to actually practice.

We all have our different versions of what self-care really is, because we all live different lives, have different stresses, different anxieties and triggers etc.

What may work for me, may not work for you. Having said that… There are some commonalities among all self-care.

In this blog I’m going to do a “mini interview”… With Peyton about how he defines self care for him. I can tell you for an absolute fact, that he has designed this routine of self-care for himself, by himself. It definitely seems to work 90% of the time.

I am in absolutely firm believer in self-care, I know I need it with my GAD… General anxiety disorder. There are days that it is very difficult for me to even function.

I try not to continuously talk about it, because not only do I know that other people don’t want to hear about it all the time… But I don’t wanna hear myself talk about it all the time!

I’ve sat down with Peyton and told him that is fully acceptable and actually I encouraged him, to have his own routine of self-care. I can’t make that for him.. because I don’t know what truly will get him to calm down. These are the following six things that he has told me really do help with his stress/anxiety/autism.

 

 

 

 

 

1. Human touch massage chair

2. Tex ( our dog)

3. Socks

4. Weighted Blanket

5. Lavender

6. coloring… drawing

I’m sure you’re really wondering about number three… the other five are pretty self-explanatory.

Ever since Peyton has been little, he has loved socks. He’s always worn socks… When he was real little, it was very hard to get him to wear sandals because he always wanted to have socks on!

He has worn a lot of different socks over the years, some he has liked, others he can’t stand.

Couple of months ago a company called SmartKnit… Sent us a couple of pair of socks.. one white and one in black, they are seamless socks they hug your feet.. Peyton absolutely loves these socks. While socks may not matter to some of us, they really matter to him and I’m sure there are others out there, who feel the same way. I highly suggest you check into these socks. I wore them a couple times when I could get Peyton to share… They are wonderful… Here is the link.

Like I said earlier in the blog self-care for Peyton is so important to him and I… I want him to not stress and be anxious. These six items REALLY do help.

He is so lucky to have a human touch massage chair, and I’m going to tell you it is the greatest chair, and I cannot say enough good about the company. Here’s the link to their website.

I know I have “promoted” a couple products in this blog and I have not gotten paid to promote these… They just are very important products to us, and I want to share because selfcare is very important to us!…

As always thanks for reading my blog…

And I look forward to your comments…

Don’t forget we will be launching our podcast soon!

Have an awesome day.

 

 

Love, Anxiety and Hot Cocoa

Ever since my older kids were little, I have had a tradition of making them hot chocolate when it was cold out, especially when they didn’t feel good… Or when they just kind a needed that extra internal hug.

I absolutely love hot chocolate, I always have! and I love to add different flavors into my hot chocolate. I have to admit my favorite hot chocolate probably is when I add peppermint to it. Each of my kids liked something different with their hot chocolate… So I’ve learned to make hot chocolate with vanilla, ice cream, peppermint and even banana among other flavors… I know it sounds a little strange to have banana,  but trust me.. it taste better than it sounds.

Anybody who knows me, knows I love mugs, I collect mugs. I guess part of the reason why I love mugs so much is because I equate them with sitting down and having a cup of hot chocolate or tea or coffee and just enjoying myself or spending time with my kids.

We always had a tradition of having hot chocolate, before we opened our presents… I love having  little traditions like that.. and I love that one with my kids! I know that when they see hot chocolate it reminds them of those positive childhood memories.

Peyton and I absolutely love having hot chocolate together… As I’ve discussed many times my hubby is an oil guy, so he’s not always home. When it gets cold, Peyton and I have a tradition of sitting and having a cuppa hot cocoa and relaxing. Sometimes we just talk… Sometimes we watch TV together and sometimes we just relax. Although I love hot chocolate all year round, I especially love it during the holidays. There is something very magical to me about hot chocolate and Christmas.

There’s something very relaxing to me about sitting in front of the fireplace with the Christmas tree and mantle lights on, drinking a cup of hot chocolate… In one of my Christmas mugs… With two peppermint sticks in my hot chocolate.

I talk a lot about that I have GAD… General anxiety disorder in my blogs… Having my cup of hot chocolate is one of the ways that I help lower my anxiety during the holiday season.

I think we all have those little things that we do, or places that we can go that allow us to destress and calm down… And as silly as it sounds, hot chocolate is one of those for me. I know Peyton feels the same way.. there’s something very soothing to him about a cup of hot chocolate.

I’m including hear my favorite hot chocolate recipe… This is a very common hot chocolate recipe I know it’s out there in many places, so I’m not pretending it’s mine… But I’ve also added some of the changes that I do to it to make it different…all food disclaimers apply! : )

I hope you enjoy, and I hope everyone has a wonderful and blessed Friday! As always, thanks so much for following us on our 45 Awesomism days of the holidays… The support has been overwhelming and I really appreciate it, both Peyton and I do! We look forward to “talking” to you tomorrow have a happy national Cocoa day

 

Ingredients:

  1. 1/4 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
  2. 1/2 cup granulated sugar… I add a pinch of brown sugar
  3. 1/3 cup hot water
  4. 1/8 teaspoon salt
  5. 4 cups milk (dairy or non-dairy) I usually do 3 cups milk and one cup french vanilla creamer
  6. 1 teaspoon vanilla extract or ! teaspoon Almond extract or 1 Teaspoon Peppermint extract… this is my favorite

Instructions:

  1. In a medium saucepan, combine the cocoa powder, sugar, water, and salt over medium heat.
  2. Cook, stirring constantly until smooth and bring to a simmer.
  3. Reduce heat, and stir in the milk, do not boil.
  4. Remove from the heat and stir in the vanilla. Pour into mugs and serve immediately.

The Park Bench

I wrote this piece several years ago for my book… I read it every so often and I remind myself it will be Okay.

There are times I really do worry about what is going to happen to Peyton, after I am gone… After my husband is gone… I know he has three older siblings, and I know they love him unconditionally… But I still worry.

I worry that I’m not giving him enough in his life… There’s so many things parents of adult children with autism, worry about… We don’t always talk about them… But they are very real and in our mind, and in our thoughts and in our hearts…

When I get really stressed about it, I read this piece… And I remind myself Peyton is not alone… Rather he is surrounded in love, and I have that faith that whether I’m here or gone… That love Will stay around him.

I can only do what I can do and plan for his future.Stressing isn’t going to help…planning is.

So as we celebrate this holiday season and we come to the end of the year where we all make our New Year’s resolutions… Let’s each and everyone of us pause, and realize what is the most important… That we are there for those who need us, and we surround them with love.

I see a park bench alone, no one pays attention to it. It reminds me of my son… You see my child is autistic, he fights battles every day I can’t even imagine. As I see the park bench all alone even though there are people everywhere.. I realize how my son must feel. Connecting with others isn’t always easy for him, my heart hurts… But I also become more determined to help him. I look around me and I see the beauty of nature that surrounds the bench. It soothes me and heals me… There are so many wonderful things about nature… I am re-invigorated as I walk away from the park bench. I look back at it sitting empty, I stop and smile… As children run up to it and compete to all sit on the bench. It’s at that moment, that I suddenly realize my son will be fine… as he really isn’t alone… He has us, and we love him unconditionally.. We see his strengths.

As always, thank you so much for reading my blog and for following us on our 45 Awesomism days of the holidays. Without everyone’s support we wouldn’t be able to accomplish the things that we are. I hope you’re enjoying it and we look forward to “talking” to you again tomorrow!

have an awesome day

Spread Kindness!

We have all heard the expression you can’t take care of others, if you don’t take care of yourself.

This is true for so many reasons. I think during the holidays it is especially necessary that we make sure that we take care of ourselves. We get so caught up in the gift buying, the decorating, the Christmas parties, the open houses, the events, Family coming to visit or going to see family etc. etc.…

I’m probably one of the few people who actually enjoys going to the mall at this time of the year or to stores. I find it In a way comforting… I know that sounds really strange but I do… Part of the reason why I love going to the mall and/ or stores that are packed, it allows me to spread kindness… I will smile at people, if people need help getting something off the shelf, I’ll try to help them etc.etc….. Showing Kindness, not just saying it!

We so often see people frazzled and stressed… Sometimes just a smile or a kind word or a positive affirmation  can make all the difference in someone’s life.

I find that when people are at their most stressed, doing the holidays shopping, going out an about…. dealing with the every day stressors of the holiday season… Spreading kindness and spreading Love by going to the mall and or‘s stores that are packed… and showing that you care is easier!

This isn’t to say that I’m not stressed, and I don’t have anxiety attacks during the holidays… I definitely do. I also know that when I go out and about and I do try to spread kindness… By smiling spreading a kind word etc. etc. it also lifts my mood.

I have to confess another reason why I really enjoy it when it’s so crowded, is because when stores, especially small businesses have customers it helps everyone!… This may seem silly, but I truly love when businesses do better, because it makes peoples lives easier. Sometimes people can pick up a full-time job… Rather than two or three part-time jobs and that allows them more time to be home with their family …

By looking at the positives in life… We can make our emotional and mental health better as well. Too often we allow peoples words or their lack of happiness to affect us… I know I was guilty of this in the last week or two… But then I had several people come to me and tell me how much I meant to them, and how my kindness got them through some of the roughest times.I decided I wasn’t going to let negative people pull me down, rather I was going to make sure, that I kept pulling people up.

I know for a fact my moods have direct connection to Peyton’s mood, as well as my other kids and my spouse. We sometimes don’t realize that our moods can and do flow over onto others, we come in contact with, as well.

I try very hard to be conscience of this… not always successfully… but I try!

So let’s all try real hard to remember taking care of ourselves is very important! because how we react and interact… spreads to so many!

Thanks for reading my blog!

Our Awesomism Texas Chili

If you’re like us, you really love smoked brisket… My husband makes one of the best smoked briskets, I’ve ever had in my life. I was never really all that much into brisket, and can honestly tell you that I hadn’t had it a lot, before I moved to Texas. Now I’ve become a huge fan of it. We have a Traeger grill which is one of the best for smoking brisket… Well, actually I love our Traeger grill for everything. Unless you have a big family or you wanna freeze some of your brisket, you’re going to have brisket left over. Here is a really (awesomism) recipe that I kind of threw together myself for our version of Texas chili. I add the ground beef with the Brisket because it is what Peyton loves….

This is an easy recipe and awesome for this time of the year! it’s quick

Remember this is using leftover brisket…

Here are ingredients of making Texas Chili:

  • 1 lb smoked brisket cut into small thin  cubes
  • 1 lb ground beef … I cook this before time, so it is fully cooked and browned
  • 1 large white onion diced
  • 1 green bell pepper diced
  • 1 jalapeño pepper diced
  • 1 clove garlic minced
  • 1 15 oz can Ranch Style beans
  • 1 15.5 oz can Buffalo Beans
  • 1 cup grated pepper jack cheese
  • 1 24 oz can of tomato sauce
  • 1 28 oz can diced tomatoes
  • 1/2 tbsp brown sugar
  • 1 tbsp  chili powder
  • 2 tsp garlic powder
  • 2 tsp onion powder
  • 1/2 tsp cayenne pepper
  • 1/2 tsp brown mustard
  • 1 tbsp pepper
  • 2 Tbsp water

Throw it all together… again make sure that the ground beef and brisket is fully cooked first! I dump everything into a crock pot and cook it on High for 2 hours and medium for 6… checking every so often and stirring… when checking.

I add 1/2 cup of the grated pepper jack cheese 1/2 way through and put the rest on top after it is done! I love sour cream and tortilla chips with mine as well. Please note that the cheese can be eliminated if you want.

As always… all disclaimers for food apply… have to put that on here! ; )

Thanks so much for reading my blog and following me and Peyton on our 45 Awesomism Days of the Holidays…