Throwback: Reflect Not Deflect

I thought this was a good Throwback Thursday Blog….. I see so much hate and Bullying daily about EVERYTHING! I wish people would take time to reflect… spread kindness.. respect others OPINIONS… and look at themselves and ask are they being kind? are they being Hypocrites? people have a right to disagree, without being labeled and libeled……

 

 

Sunday night in the middle of the night my oldest son started texting me, I kept hearing Luke Combs text tone over and over. You see I have one of his ringtones attached to my son’s number. Luke is my favorite country singer and my son reminds me of him. As much as I love hearing Luke’s songs, I wasn’t happy that my son was texting over and over so late.

I grabbed my phone to see what was so important. Of course as soon as I read his texts, my heart broke. He was letting me know about the senseless murder of people at a Country Music fest, which Luke Combs actually happened to be performing at.

I thought to myself once again Hate rears it’s despicable head. I started watching the news and looking on social media, another coward had decided to shoot innocent people. I will never understand how people can be so full of hate.

I felt so helpless and full of hurt as I watched the footage. I couldn’t fall back asleep, so I laid in bed watching classic TV to try to calm down. I knew I was going to need to talk with Peyton when he woke up, about once again about how evil people can be. I feel like I am always having this discussion.

We have talked with him about bullies and people who choose to deflect their issues rather than reflect, but mass shootings aren’t easy to explain. Peyton is very sweet and gentle and doesn’t understand why people are so mean.

I really don’t have words for this latest display of hateful violence. Daily I see people attacking each other on twitter because they disagree. I started calling it slanderous bullying.

Peyton has asked me several times why people have to be so mean just because they don’t like who someone voted for. I’ve tried to explain to him that many times people take it as a personal attack against their views,rather than everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I really am on my last nerve with some of the offensive & slanderous “name tags” being put on people.

It’s a bit puzzling to me how people can sit on social media and name call, finger point and make “threats” then say they disdain bullies. This justification of anything goes because someone else said something you disagree with HAS TO STOP!

My prayer and hope is that people look inside of themselves, instead of deflect.

We can’t control what others say & do, but we can control ourselves.

If we choose to not play the game of verbal violence, maybe just maybe others will stop as well. Let’s all make a vow to tone down the rhetoric. While words are only words, they can lead to more.

I hope we can return good for evil, reflect not deflect, open our hearts and minds, disagree with respect and support causes not agendas! While this won’t stop evil, it’s a great start and we need to start somewhere because if we don’t I am not sure what will happen.

Don’t forget Thanksgiving

Too often we get all caught up in the “Christmas Holidays” and forget about Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving is a wonderful holiday… It truly is a time in the year where everyone stops and thinks about what blessings we have in our lives.

It seems that there’s so much negativity in the world these days, you can’t turn on the TV without seeing something negative about someone or something. People refuse to respect other people’s opinions etc. etc.… One of the things that I love most about the Thanksgiving time is this…It’s the one time of the year that we really emphasize being thankful for the POSITIVES in our lives… I’d love to see that carried on beyond just one day

If everyone would take the time to truly focus on what they are thankful for, I truly believe moods would brighten. I know with my GAD… I too often get so focused upon my anxiety and what is causing the anxiety and what I’m frustrated or angry or hurt about.… If I make a list of what I am thankful for it truly changes my mood… I would love to offer this for Thanksgiving…

I hope each one of us would pause everyday from Wednesday afternoon to Sunday afternoon the weekend of Thanksgiving and make a conscious effort Of not only expressing what we are thankful for… But that we show it!

There are so many ways we can show “thankfulness”

Send someone a positive email telling them why you are thankful that they are in your life…

Send a nice card in the mail… Yes, we too often  now just do things electronically.. it’s nice to go to the mailbox and get something positive…

Call someone that you haven’t spoken to in a while, tell them that though time has passed that you are thankful for the opportunity to “catch up”

Let’s show our gratitude and thankfulness by doing random acts of kindness this Coming Thanksgiving weekend!

Volunteer… Show others that you truly do care that they’re hurting. Help turn their sadness into thankfulness by knowing others care.

There are many people who are alone on the holidays… If you know someone invite them over.

Maybe you have an elderly neighbor who could use some help around their yard, In the warmer climates, in the colder climates maybe they need their sidewalk shoveled… Bring a neighbor something homemade.. like homemade chicken noodle soup… tell them I’m thankful for you…those little words and those actions can mean so much to people…

The best way to combat negativity is to be positive… So as we kick off this Awesomism holiday season from Thanksgiving to New Year’s let’s start it out with acts of thankfulness.

As we make out our  “what I’m thankful for this year list”… Let’s all add to it that I’m thankful that I made someone else’s day/week/year better by letting them know how truly special they are… Because nothing says care better than actions…

As always thanks for reading my blog and I’d love to hear from you how you “showed your Thankfulness this Awesomism Holiday Season.

 

 

45 Awesomism Days of the Holidays

We are super excited to be doing the 45 Awesomism days of the holidays!

As I have discussed in previous blogs… I have GAD, general anxiety disorder… And Peyton is as everyone knows well…  is autistic.

The holidays can be very stressful for everyone, but it can be particularly stressful for those who suffer with anxiety.

Nowadays… The stores start decorating for the holidays and pushing Christmas and Thanksgiving already in July… I kid you not, Peyton and I were in a store in July and they were taking down their Fourth of July items and putting up Christmas already!!

That can really add to the stress and anxiety of the holidays, because it seems like as it comes sooner and sooner it gets more and more in your head about the holidays.

I absolutely love Christmas! It is my favorite holiday… I have always really decorated every house I’ve ever owned to the max… Peyton loves Christmas as well, and as I get older.. I get less and less inspired to do all kinds of decorating.. dragging all the boxes out of the attic… Although we call ours a Texas basement because it is a walk-able attic, so it’s not as difficult… But dragging everything down, scrubbing down the house.. putting everything that was Up away and then putting up all the Christmas decorations takes a lot of work!

However; to see Peyton’s face be so happy and so excited, it’s all worth it to me!

I decided that this year I was going to do a 45 day long blog/video/pictures/craft/ideas/recipes/tips on my Website!.We will have everything in one place on our website… Also, we will have a dedicated Flipboard Magazine, A dedicated Pinterest Board… we will be having daily items on Twitter, Instagram and Linkedin!

I’m by no means an expert on helping lower your anxiety and/ or your stress… but I do know that with me, when I see tips that I can use, such as other peoples ideas.. it really does take a certain amount of the anxiety out of my life… So that’s what I’m hoping to do here! Just inspire people and help maybe lower your stress level, lower your anxiety by providing so many different things that can help you during the holiday seasons!

We will be covering Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas, New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day… as well as a few other surprises!

We have an Awesome Thanksgiving guest Blogger that you won’t want to miss his heartfelt Thanksgiving Blog.

I hope you enjoy our” 45 Awesomism days of the Holidays” and please share with your friends, family and anyone else that you think might benefit from it!

If you have any tips or ideas or would love to be a guest blogger, I would love to hear from you!

As always thanks so much for reading my blog and let’s get started…….. tomorrow we will start with a blog about some Thanksgiving tips

Here is a blog that I wrote a few years ago about the Stress I put on myself during the Holidays. Link: Traditions are made to be broken