Lavender, Anxiety and Me!!

As I discussed in a previous blog, I have GAD… General anxiety disorder. There are days that my anxiety gets the best of me. While  I’ve learned to deal with my anxiety for the most part, there are days it overwhelms me.

One of my favorite go to items that I use when I am extremely anxious, stressed or just in a serious need of a break… Is… LAVENDER! 💜  Oh my I absolutely love lavender! 💜

I love it in the essential oil‘s, bath salts, bubble bath, lavender spray actually anything lavender makes me happy! Williams and Sonoma used to have this amazing lavender laundry detergent, I couldn’t get enough of it! I was so sad when they got rid of it. It was the best thing to use on my PJs, my sheets and pillow cases.

I found a few that I really like but not as much as that! So if you know of any, I’d love to hear some suggestions! Rather than dwelling on the negative’s, let’s talk about some lavender products that I really love! 💜

I’ve fallen in love with rollers lately, and I found one that I absolutely love! There are many good ones on the market… But this one  is definitely my favorite. It’s made by open heart apothecary.  You can actually buy them through Patti and Ricky. Here is the link to their website. They have other awesome rollers, but I absolutely love the lavender. https://www.pattiandricky.com/

They also have a really wonderful spray that you can use either in the air or I use it on my pillow before I go to sleep at night, so does Peyton. It’s called calm… It has lavender and other essential oil’s. I especially love using this until I find that perfect lavender laundry soap!

My new lavender obsession I actually came upon, because my wonderful  husband gave me these as a gift! They are an amazingly awesome epsom bath salt. They are made by San Francisco salt company! You can use them in the bath, in the shower or even as a foot soak! https://www.sfsalt.com/m-home

No matter where you use them, especially the tub or as a foot soak, I would definitely leave the water for a while because the smell is heavenly 💜… it will give you such a relaxing  lavender smell throughout whatever room you’ve used it in! It’s so calming.

We have some fantastic  lavender farms here in Texas! In fact Peyton and I plan to go to a seminar in the fall at one of the lavender farms in Hill Country, to learn more about lavender. I tried to grow it several times… Had very little success.

Peyton and I put some in his garden, but we really didn’t get much out of it. We were both pretty sad. We decided we want to learn more about growing  it,before we try again.

Mark, Peyton and I went to a lavender farm a couple of years ago, I bought the most amazing lavender jelly. I’d love to learn how to grow it so I can make more products with it!

I’m always looking for new lavender products to try, recipes that use lavender, as well as suggestions of how to use lavender! So if you have a product you’d like me to try, or suggestions or even recipes I’d love to hear from you!

As always thanks for reading my blog, I’d love to hear from you and lavender on! 💜

 

Finding My “Comfort Zones”

I haven’t talked about it much, but I have GAD. Which stands for General Anxiety Disorder. I was diagnosed with it over 12 years ago.

I was going through a particularly rough time in my life. So many things were swirling on around me. I felt beyond stressed with every part of my life.

When I was diagnosed with GAD, the diagnosis itself helped to relieve some of my stress. Allowed me to understand why I had such severe anxiety. Up until I was diagnosed, I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t process my anxiety better.

GAD is not something that you get over, it is something you learn to live with. While it can be a daily struggle to deal with, I actually can see positives in it.

I honestly believe that my GAD has allowed me in some ways to understand Peyton better.  I understand his triggers better. I have my own triggers, so I’m a lot more compassionate when he is really stressed.

Severe anxiety is no walk in the park. Sometimes it’s difficult for me to explain to people how my anxiety is affecting my day. It affects my sleep, My daily routines, as well as every other part of my life.

I’ve learned to cope with it in different ways. One of my favorite coping mechanism is to take a hot bath, I especially love taking hot lavender baths.

I’ve come to understand that when I get really stressed I need to do one of three things to my find my comfort zone:

1.  Talk about my stress, exactly what/who is stressing me, so that I can verbally and mentally work through it.

2. Distract myself with something positive that I absolutely love doing. This many times will  allow me to focus on something different …. the original stress actually works its way out naturally.

3. Sleep… Sleep… Sleep !! Yes, sleep helps me a lot. Remember when I said it affects my sleep? If I allow myself to become too tired, I have anxiety issues much quicker!

I’ve also learned that I have to remove toxic people from my life. I can’t allow those who just want to throw negativity at everyone all the time to be in my life on a daily basis. I take things way more to heart than people many times realize I do.

One of the reasons I love my husband so much, is he understands my GAD and works with me, when I’m going through my rough patches. He has this great expression “Shake it off” he knows EXACTLY when I need to hear this…..

He’s a strong support system for me, he plays at my strengths, works through  my weaknesses and shows me unconditional love through it all! He truly is my rock.

I discussed in prior blogs, how Peyton and I are starting team Awesomism ! This project is going to be about “conquering your fear’s and finding your comfort zone.”

One of the biggest things that I’ve learned since being diagnosed with GAD, is how I need to face my anxieties and find my comfort zones! I know I’m far from perfect, and I also have learned not to let others opinions of me, to define me.

I’m a work in progress, but I’m Learning to face my fears, anxieties and stresses and find those awesome comfort zones!

Here is a link to my book…. it’s full of ideas for “comfort zones” 

#Kindle edition:

http://amazon.com/dp/B072BWWCDJ/

#Print edition:

http://amazon.com/Mom-Awesomism-

http://amazon.com/dp/1546641653/

 

 

Light in the Dark Days

I am so happy to have Jay as our guest blogger again! I absolutely love his writing! His blogs are from the heart…. his honesty about his anxiety is refreshing… please follow him on twitter… @stealtheMGaming  as well as his blog….https://beardedigor.wordpress.com/
As I sat on the bus home, headphones in and music blaring, I find myself reflecting on my last few days. These last few days were some of my worst mentally for me. But I take a deep breath and realise a tide is turning.
It all started last Wednesday. I woke up just feeling down. I wasn’t my usual self. Was it the lack of sleep for another night, the humidity or my anxiety. All I know is something is different. I get through work with few problems. Not feeling too bad but I was excited to see my friends for the night.
Thursday however was a different matter.
I spent the whole day shut off. I went to work as normal. But I wasn’t myself, I didn’t talk to anyone, I want smiling or talkative as I can be. I was also snappy. I was truly feeling low. Anxiety was kicking my butt. This continued throughout the night and through the next day. Although by Friday night I was starting to pick up a little I wasn’t prepared for what happened next.
So Friday night. The night my ex blocked me. Now I know I say ex. But I had been waiting for her for 10 weeks to get sorted and come back. That was the deal. But yeah that happened. I felt lost, foolish and idiotic. It really pushed me back down. But it also has an alternative effect. I became motivated. I became empowered.
Despite my anxiety pushing my down and life on top of me. I had a clear goal for the first time in my life. It was me and my blog. I want to be better and I want to be successful. I can’t get rid of anxiety but I plan to use it to push me forward.
Thank you for reading and thank you so much AwesomismMom for letting me be a guest.
Bearded Igor x

Facing his Fears

August 1st Peyton and I are going to be launching Team Awesomism!  We are really excited about this new project!

In preparation for this new project Peyton and I have been doing some small projects to lead up to it!  Once we announce what team Awesomism is, all the little projects we’ve been doing will make more sense.

Peyton has always been afraid since he was little of motorcycles.  The noise and vibration that they put off, always scared him. Part of Team Awesomism is about facing your fears, and finding your comforts!

About a month ago Peyton came to me and said, I really want to learn to ride a bike, and I really want to stop being afraid of motorcycles. I kind of saw the connection between the two. Even though bikes don’t make noise, he still was afraid to get on one and fall!

He and I sat down and discussed his fear of both. He told me that he was afraid of falling on a bike and he felt like a motorcycle was a very loud and aggressive bike.  In his mind, there was a direct connection between the two.

I may not always understand why he is afraid of certain things or doing certain things, but I respect his fear. We each have our own idiosyncrasies and he certainly allowed to have his!

On July 7, the local  BMW, Indian, Singleshot motorcycle dealership had an awesome event. They were doing a virtual reality motorcycle ride at the dealership. 

I contacted them before the event, and asked them if it was OK if Peyton and I attended. They were super nice about it,and said absolutely come on over!

When we got to the dealership, I could tell Peyton was a bit apprehensive. I asked him if he still wanted to go in and try it. He said absolutely he wanted to get to a point where he didn’t fear motorcycles.  He actually felt that if he got over his fear of motorcycles, it would help him ride a bike.

So in we went! They had food out as well as some drinks. I asked Peyton if he wanted something to eat and drink, thinking this would probably calm him down and ease  him into being around the motorcycles. 

Once we were done eating, I asked the people working there, if it was OK if Peyton tried the virtual reality. I discussed with them that Peyton was autistic, and why he wanted to do the virtual reality,as well as look at all the motorcycles .

They couldn’t have been nicer, they were so accommodating to Peyton. It really touched my heart, how nice they were.


Peyton did the virtual reality, and absolutely loved it. He sat in the chair, because he wasn’t sure he wanted to sit on a motorcycle. Once he started the virtual reality on the motorcycle, he got really into it. It was funny to watch him and I was so happy to see how much he loved it.

think the best moment was when he was doing the virtual reality, and they started motorcycle right behind him! He never flinched, in fact he really enjoyed it! It was so awesome to see him overcome that fear! 

After we left the motorcycle shop, Peyton  asked me if we could go look at bikes! It was great because for the first time wanted to actually look at bikes and talk about buying one, so he could learn to ride a bike!

I can’t thank the guys at the BMW Indian single shot dealership in the Woodlands Texas, enough! They were so incredible to Peyton, they even asked him before they started up motorcycles, if it was OK!!

Peyton overcame a major fear of his that day,  it was such an awesome day! I’m so proud of him and how hard he is trying to overcome fears.

Here is the link to the motorcycle dealership. If you are in the Woodlands,Texas area please show them some love. https://www.bmwmcwoodlands.com/

If you’re not, but you know someone who is …..please ask them to. Here is their Twitter…..  you can follow them as well. @BMWIndSS_77385

The Unconditional Love of a shelter dog

Both Mark and I love animals…so when my third child started working at the local animal shelter, I knew we would end up adopting at least one animal! I have always had pets of one kind or another….as a kid I had gerbils, dogs etc….

At one point or another…when my older kids were younger we went from dogs to cats …..we always seemed to have a pet around.

I loved having dogs and cats and that rubbed off on my kids. My third child has a real passion for animals and has the perfect temperament for the career he has chosen.

The first dog that we adopted from the shelter, was Tex. I absolutely loved Tex from the first day I saw him. He’s a Bernese Mountain dog mix, and has the sweetest temperament of any dog I’ve ever had.

Tex was young when we got him, he had been neglected and abused. It broke my heart! I remember seeing him in the cage at the shelter, his eyes looked at me and said “please help me!”

We didn’t take him the first time we saw him. When we went back the next day to get him, someone was adopting him. It broke my heart. 💔

I really didn’t feel like adopting a dog that day, because I really want Tex. So my husband and I decided to go back the next day. Guess who was there?!? Yes, TEX!

The people had returned him, and this was Tex’s  third return so he wasn’t long for the shelter, if you know what I mean. There was no way I was going to allow that to happen.

Needless to say, Tex came home with us that day, and has been a very loved member of our family ever since!

Tex has been with us now for over four years,  I never regret getting him from the shelter! He’s such a good dog and so loving.

When Peyton was young he was scared to death of dogs. He would have a meltdown if a dog came to close to him. It wasn’t until about six and a half, seven years ago that he started to actually not be afraid of dogs.

When we first brought Tex home I could tell he was a little afraid of him, partially because Tex is such a big dog. Thank goodness Tex has such an easy-going disposition.

As the years went by Peyton became more and more attached to Tex……And it’s so cute to see them now such big buddies!

Peyton feeds Tex, walks him and is his basic caregiver. It was so cute when Peyton would be doing his schoolwork, Tex would be laying by him on the floor.

What I love most, seeing how Peyton went from being so scared of dogs, that he would have meltdowns… to him having Tex as his  emotional support  dog.

I’ve so often thought about the day at the shelter, when Tex looked at me almost to say help me… And smile and think how much he helped us. His unconditional love for Peyton, and Peyton’s unconditional love for him is such an awesome thing!

Never underestimate the love of a shelter dog! Please visit your local animal shelter,  there are so many animals waiting to be loved, but more importantly to love you unconditionally!

Adopt Don’t Shop!

https://www.aspca.org/

http://www.humanesociety.org/