Facing his Fears

August 1st Peyton and I are going to be launching Team Awesomism!  We are really excited about this new project!

In preparation for this new project Peyton and I have been doing some small projects to lead up to it!  Once we announce what team Awesomism is, all the little projects we’ve been doing will make more sense.

Peyton has always been afraid since he was little of motorcycles.  The noise and vibration that they put off, always scared him. Part of Team Awesomism is about facing your fears, and finding your comforts!

About a month ago Peyton came to me and said, I really want to learn to ride a bike, and I really want to stop being afraid of motorcycles. I kind of saw the connection between the two. Even though bikes don’t make noise, he still was afraid to get on one and fall!

He and I sat down and discussed his fear of both. He told me that he was afraid of falling on a bike and he felt like a motorcycle was a very loud and aggressive bike.  In his mind, there was a direct connection between the two.

I may not always understand why he is afraid of certain things or doing certain things, but I respect his fear. We each have our own idiosyncrasies and he certainly allowed to have his!

On July 7, the local  BMW, Indian, Singleshot motorcycle dealership had an awesome event. They were doing a virtual reality motorcycle ride at the dealership. 

I contacted them before the event, and asked them if it was OK if Peyton and I attended. They were super nice about it,and said absolutely come on over!

When we got to the dealership, I could tell Peyton was a bit apprehensive. I asked him if he still wanted to go in and try it. He said absolutely he wanted to get to a point where he didn’t fear motorcycles.  He actually felt that if he got over his fear of motorcycles, it would help him ride a bike.

So in we went! They had food out as well as some drinks. I asked Peyton if he wanted something to eat and drink, thinking this would probably calm him down and ease  him into being around the motorcycles. 

Once we were done eating, I asked the people working there, if it was OK if Peyton tried the virtual reality. I discussed with them that Peyton was autistic, and why he wanted to do the virtual reality,as well as look at all the motorcycles .

They couldn’t have been nicer, they were so accommodating to Peyton. It really touched my heart, how nice they were.


Peyton did the virtual reality, and absolutely loved it. He sat in the chair, because he wasn’t sure he wanted to sit on a motorcycle. Once he started the virtual reality on the motorcycle, he got really into it. It was funny to watch him and I was so happy to see how much he loved it.

think the best moment was when he was doing the virtual reality, and they started motorcycle right behind him! He never flinched, in fact he really enjoyed it! It was so awesome to see him overcome that fear! 

After we left the motorcycle shop, Peyton  asked me if we could go look at bikes! It was great because for the first time wanted to actually look at bikes and talk about buying one, so he could learn to ride a bike!

I can’t thank the guys at the BMW Indian single shot dealership in the Woodlands Texas, enough! They were so incredible to Peyton, they even asked him before they started up motorcycles, if it was OK!!

Peyton overcame a major fear of his that day,  it was such an awesome day! I’m so proud of him and how hard he is trying to overcome fears.

Here is the link to the motorcycle dealership. If you are in the Woodlands,Texas area please show them some love. https://www.bmwmcwoodlands.com/

If you’re not, but you know someone who is …..please ask them to. Here is their Twitter…..  you can follow them as well. @BMWIndSS_77385

Anxiety and Me

We are so honored to have an awesome guest blogger this week! His name is Jay Cator… He blogs about a lot of interesting subjects. I asked him to share his journey with anxiety, with us! I absolutely love this blog, and I hope you do as well! Check out his contact information at the end of the blog! Please give him a follow and show support. Thanks for reading 💜

 

 

Anxiety, a word I have only ever heard at a distance. I never knew what it meant or how it effected people. I’ve always been different to others around me. Ever since I was a late teen, I over thought everything, even to the point where I would cancel plans to stay at home, in my safe place. I worry about every situation, by far my biggest flaw. I have always thought negative of myself and when certain scenarios popped up that could effect my life, the negative always won. I faced rejection constantly. I always shake at confrontation and avoided any situation that could lead me to the slightest harm.

Relationships and friendships followed in similar pattern. Dating I would face rejection at the first hurdle, bad first dates and hate. When I successfully find someone, I was felt like I was not good enough. Like they could do better, have someone who would give them a better life. I would worry constantly. Friends would come and go. The ones who leave I would never hear from again. Used for my kindness and care, it something I got used to.

My world change however when I met my last partner, someone who had anxiety and suddenly I understood. She opened my eyes to what anxiety was. I looked it up and spoke to a doctor and boom. Everything I thought was just me, a character flaw, was all explained. Unfortunately we split recently, more a break as we deal with various issues. But without her I would still be thinking, “why am I so different?” It all made sense. Why I have been, who I have been, has been explained.

I have always had ways of stopping me thinking, stop me worrying about every situation. I would play Xbox, using them to zone myself out into a different world. If that didn’t work, I sit in the corner, headphones in listening to my favourite songs. More recently, I have started writing, which has lead to my blog. Seeing people reading what I have to say and positivity has helped me massively recently. I start to feel I can achieve something, I’m not a failure, I can get better. I also find that following my favourite sports helps.

I have some really close friends that have helped me all these years and I feel very lucky that they are all still there. They all support me in different ways. My family are also a big support for me. I have love around me. I am truly lucky to have this support network, that will never be underestimated.

My biggest advice? Every day is different, so take life as it is every day. Find what comforts you, no matter how big or how small. When you get a victory, no matter how small, celebrate it. Shout it out to the world.

Thank you AwesomismMom for inviting me to write about me. I am honoured. Thank you all for taking the time to read.

Please follow and support Jay!

Blog: http://beardedigor.wordpress.com

Twitter: @stealthemgaming

Flipboard and Turning Autism into Awesomism

Before I say anything I want to post a disclaimer:

I am not, nor have I been a therapist. I’m a mom of an autistic teen, Peyton, who is 18 1/2 years old. Okay, now that we have that out-of-the-way, we can discuss the Awesomness of Flipboard and how’s it Helping us Turn Autism into Awesomism! 💙

Anyone who knows me or follows me on twitter, knows I am obsessed with Flipboard… allow me to explain why! 

When Peyton was younger we did “Magazine Therapy” ….. it wasn’t really THERAPY, but it is the EASIEST way to describe what we did! Now you understand why I had my disclaimer… I don’t want any misunderstandings.

Okay so what is Magazine therapy? It’s easier to show than explain, but I’m going to do my best, because it was awesome for Peyton. Peyton was a very late talker.. he was also a late reader. His vocabulary and comprehension of so many things, was delayed and or nonexistent.

As his Mom this tore my heart out. I saw the pain in his eyes. I wanted to help, but wasn’t sure how. The traditional ideas weren’t working.

I had a friend suggest to me to have him look at magazines. She had an autistic son and she said it calmed him and seem to help him. I became obsessed with trying this. So off to Barnes and Nobles I went.

I came home with a pile of magazines… Peyton and I sat on the couch and started through the magazines. To my delight he was interested! He sat there with me thumbing through pages. I described and named objects on each page…

Peyton sat silent… but he was intensely looking at each page. After an hour or so… I said “okay did you like that!” He smiled and said YES! I knew we had a winner!

I started doing this everyday with him. He seemed to really like “Town and Country” Magazines, so I focused on those. He learned so much from magazines and to this day, I’m a huge fan! I know I’ve written about this before… November of 2016 to be exact… but there is a reason why I’m bringing this up again.

Here is that blog .. I know some of it’s repetitive, but trust me… it’s so important that 2,3 ….. times…. is okay!! http://www.awesomismmom.com/flipping-autism-into-awesomism/ 

I’m sure you’re asking yourself right now… why is this so important? That it needs repeated blogs… because Flipboard is an awesome tool for autistic teens and adults, for so many reasons!

Okay so now you’re saying TELL US why and how!  Remember when I said earlier in this blog it’s easier to show than tell? Well,that’s exactly what Peyton and I are planning on doing!

We are going to be introducing our new project “Team Awesomism Turning Autism into Awesomism” a teen and adult version of “Magazine Therapy” Here are just a few of the topics we will covering… Life Skills.. Social Skills… Anxiety….It will be learning in a fun, unique and awesome way! We are super excited and will be releasing this soon! Please watch for our kickoff of TEAM Awesomism!

If you’re not sure what Flipboard is or how to use it,here is a blog by my husband that will help. 😊

http://www.awesomismmom.com/what-is-flipboard-and-why-you-should-care/ 

Thanks for reading this blog… but even more… thanks for your interest and support of Autism acceptance! 💙 Together we can do awesome things! If you’re interested in being involved in our Team Awesomism….. Please reach out!

Groundhog Day

We are so honored to have a guest blogger this week! Her name is Erika Joyce-Shultz! Erika has a younger brother with Special Needs. We love her writing and think you will too! I’m adding the link to her website  at the end. Please check out her other blogs! Enjoy and thanks for stopping by 💙

 

QUIT! That’s it. I cannot do it anymore. I’m sick and tied of being sick and tired.

I’m sure if it isn’t one of those particular phrases, there are others that fall in the same family that are thought or vocalized every day, heck, every hour, by someone.

We wake up each morning, and before we even have the chance to be grateful that we woke up to see another day above ground, we are immediately bombarded by the “to do” list of the day. If it’s not the “to do” list, it’s a recap of what didn’t get done the day before. If it’s not regret of responsibilities put off, it’s just the overall feeling of being “done” or just plain old worn out.

And we haven’t even put one foot on the floor.

I use to have those days more often than not, for a combination of the reasons above and then some. The moment that alarm goes off, an indistinguishable sound escaped my throat, that at best can be described as, “uuuggghh”.

Don’t get me wrong, I am blessed. I have a smart, funny, healthy, and well adjusted tween, a home with heat and air, hot water, food, a reliable vehicle, and even a little pain in the butt Shih Tzu that some would say is cute. (Okay, he IS cute).

It’s like Groundhog Day from hell, and unfortunately there’s no Bill Murray to provide any comic relief. So where is this feeling of waking to a seemingly painful and unsatisfying reality come from?

Lack. Of. Purpose.

You finally get up out of the bed, ( phew…I know that was a challenge), and make your way to start your morning routine. Make your coffee, go to the bathroom, look at yourself in the mirror while thinking to yourself, “okay, here we go again”, and continue on until you’re headed out the door to your 9 to 5. Unfortunately, it doesn’t have as great of a beat as Dolly portrayed when she sang it.

Maybe, you’re even a stay at home mom. I use to envy you, until two of my best friends became stay at home moms, and I realized that their groundhog days may look different than mine, but the feeling was just the same. BLAH.

One day as I was going through a few TPS reports, (Office Space, anyone??), I realized that I was so sick and tired of being sick and tired, that I needed to make some changes. No, I don’t mean change jobs and no, I didn’t win the lottery…although I’m still working on that one.

The changes had to start with me. Perception is reality right? Well my perception of things really sucked because my reality was pretty lackluster, to put it lightly. I began to realize I needed to feel like what I got up every day to do mattered. I began to look for my purpose.

Now, this is a process and it’s a journey. I’ve been on it now for about a year and while I’m not yet where I would like to be, I’m sure the heck not where I was. I’m going to be honest. The process of finding out who you are, what you’re gifted at, and how to use it is hard and sometimes dirty and painful.

You have to be willing to look at yourself and ask how you are contributing to your own misery. Whether it’s bitterness or anger you’re holding on to for past hurts, maybe its lack of inspiration, maybe you are not taking the best care of your health, or maybe…you’ve just been lazy.

Whatever the reason or reasons, you have to face them, accept them and then take action to change them.

Everyone has been given talents and gifts. Honestly, a lot of people overlook their talent or gift because it comes so easily and naturally to them. Here’s some potential hints that you’ve been given:

“Wow, you are such a great speaker”

“You have a way with words”

“I wish I could sit down and doodle like you, that looks great”

Or maybe people come to you for your advice, or look to you for crafty inspiration. The point is, your gifts are there, you just have to uncover them and use them.

You may be in a job that you really don’t care for, but guess what? You are there for a reason. Remember, perception is reality, so if your reality isn’t great, maybe you need to change your perspective. All the while, finding a way to utilize the talents and gifts you’ve been given.

That may mean making time for yourself after work to draw, write, read, build something, join a like minded group, etc…

Get up, stretch and dare the day to keep up with you. It’s time to move forward and find your purpose sweetheart.

Groundhog Day is over.

please check out her website at.

http://mzimperfect.com/  

We Love Patti and Ricky and you will too!


A while back I came across a twitter account called Patti and Ricky. Here is their description from their twitter and website “PATTI + RICKY is an online shopping experience that offers stylish and functional designer products for individuals with disAbilities.” I was immediately interested in learning more about them. I looked at their website and was really impressed. You know how we hear the expression “find a need and fill it” Alex did this.. she did it in an awesome way. Her products fill needs in the special needs communities, but in a unique and positive way. I retweeted her and she immediately thanked me. Her thanks went a long way with me. It showed me how passionate she was about her business. Alex and I connected on DM and then on the phone. I was so impressed with her passion, excitement and knowledge. Her goals are from her heart,and I knew I wanted to work with her.

We decided on the call, that we were going to find a way to “work together” I explained to her that before I “endorse” any product I have to try them. I also let her know that if I don’t like items I will say so. Alex not only understood, but agreed with me. She asked what products from her site Peyton and I would be interested in trying. I told her I’d leave that up to her. She asked me a few questions and figured out what products to send to us! A couple of weeks later a box arrived! Peyton and I were super excited to see what we received. In the box were the following items: Lavender roller, Headache roller, Willpower roller and Calm Spray, all made by Open Heart Apothecary! The box also included a beautiful pink crystal heart! I love all the products and can honestly say they work very well, but this isn’t just about me… so the next paragraph has been written by Peyton on what he thinks of the products!

My mom asked me to write an honest review of products we got from Patti and Ricky. Here is my review:

We use Calm spray which has 100% pure lavender oil, sweet orange, frankincense and Roman chamomile, on my pillow to relax me at night. Like the spray, the lavender roller has 100% oil of lavender and jojoba oil, I love both of them.
Couple weeks ago, I had a bad cold for a while, I had a stuffy nose, a sore throat and I was coughing in which I couldn’t sleep well at night because my nose was stuffed up and I was coughing. The best way for me to get rid of the head cold was to sleep a lot. I to slept with my comfort blanket that I just got from a company called Cmfrt,  and I sat on my Human Touch massage chair, both of them helped me sleep better . My mom used the calm spray on my pillow and lavender roller on my wrists, temples and under my nose, it really worked, it relaxed me!
I will keep using calm and lavender on me until they’re gone, because I don’t always sleep well! The one day I had a bad headache from my cold and I didn’t feel good, so I used the headache roller and the willpower one. The headache one has peppermint, clary, sage, lavender with jojoba oil, grape seed and apricot kernel oils, all are 100% pure! The Willpower has grapefruit, fennel and Roman Chamomile in jojoba oil, all 100% natural.  I only do natural, so it was great having these, because they really helped! I hope everyone tries their products because we really love them!

Peyton and I are big fans of Patti and Ricky and we truly hope you will be too! Here’s their website. Please check it out! Support a great small business and a great cause. Peyton and I want to thank you for reading our blog

https://www.pattiandricky.com/