Facing his Fears

August 1st Peyton and I are going to be launching Team Awesomism!  We are really excited about this new project!

In preparation for this new project Peyton and I have been doing some small projects to lead up to it!  Once we announce what team Awesomism is, all the little projects we’ve been doing will make more sense.

Peyton has always been afraid since he was little of motorcycles.  The noise and vibration that they put off, always scared him. Part of Team Awesomism is about facing your fears, and finding your comforts!

About a month ago Peyton came to me and said, I really want to learn to ride a bike, and I really want to stop being afraid of motorcycles. I kind of saw the connection between the two. Even though bikes don’t make noise, he still was afraid to get on one and fall!

He and I sat down and discussed his fear of both. He told me that he was afraid of falling on a bike and he felt like a motorcycle was a very loud and aggressive bike.  In his mind, there was a direct connection between the two.

I may not always understand why he is afraid of certain things or doing certain things, but I respect his fear. We each have our own idiosyncrasies and he certainly allowed to have his!

On July 7, the local  BMW, Indian, Singleshot motorcycle dealership had an awesome event. They were doing a virtual reality motorcycle ride at the dealership. 

I contacted them before the event, and asked them if it was OK if Peyton and I attended. They were super nice about it,and said absolutely come on over!

When we got to the dealership, I could tell Peyton was a bit apprehensive. I asked him if he still wanted to go in and try it. He said absolutely he wanted to get to a point where he didn’t fear motorcycles.  He actually felt that if he got over his fear of motorcycles, it would help him ride a bike.

So in we went! They had food out as well as some drinks. I asked Peyton if he wanted something to eat and drink, thinking this would probably calm him down and ease  him into being around the motorcycles. 

Once we were done eating, I asked the people working there, if it was OK if Peyton tried the virtual reality. I discussed with them that Peyton was autistic, and why he wanted to do the virtual reality,as well as look at all the motorcycles .

They couldn’t have been nicer, they were so accommodating to Peyton. It really touched my heart, how nice they were.


Peyton did the virtual reality, and absolutely loved it. He sat in the chair, because he wasn’t sure he wanted to sit on a motorcycle. Once he started the virtual reality on the motorcycle, he got really into it. It was funny to watch him and I was so happy to see how much he loved it.

think the best moment was when he was doing the virtual reality, and they started motorcycle right behind him! He never flinched, in fact he really enjoyed it! It was so awesome to see him overcome that fear! 

After we left the motorcycle shop, Peyton  asked me if we could go look at bikes! It was great because for the first time wanted to actually look at bikes and talk about buying one, so he could learn to ride a bike!

I can’t thank the guys at the BMW Indian single shot dealership in the Woodlands Texas, enough! They were so incredible to Peyton, they even asked him before they started up motorcycles, if it was OK!!

Peyton overcame a major fear of his that day,  it was such an awesome day! I’m so proud of him and how hard he is trying to overcome fears.

Here is the link to the motorcycle dealership. If you are in the Woodlands,Texas area please show them some love. https://www.bmwmcwoodlands.com/

If you’re not, but you know someone who is …..please ask them to. Here is their Twitter…..  you can follow them as well. @BMWIndSS_77385

The Unconditional Love of a shelter dog

Both Mark and I love animals…so when my third child started working at the local animal shelter, I knew we would end up adopting at least one animal! I have always had pets of one kind or another….as a kid I had gerbils, dogs etc….

At one point or another…when my older kids were younger we went from dogs to cats …..we always seemed to have a pet around.

I loved having dogs and cats and that rubbed off on my kids. My third child has a real passion for animals and has the perfect temperament for the career he has chosen.

The first dog that we adopted from the shelter, was Tex. I absolutely loved Tex from the first day I saw him. He’s a Bernese Mountain dog mix, and has the sweetest temperament of any dog I’ve ever had.

Tex was young when we got him, he had been neglected and abused. It broke my heart! I remember seeing him in the cage at the shelter, his eyes looked at me and said “please help me!”

We didn’t take him the first time we saw him. When we went back the next day to get him, someone was adopting him. It broke my heart. 💔

I really didn’t feel like adopting a dog that day, because I really want Tex. So my husband and I decided to go back the next day. Guess who was there?!? Yes, TEX!

The people had returned him, and this was Tex’s  third return so he wasn’t long for the shelter, if you know what I mean. There was no way I was going to allow that to happen.

Needless to say, Tex came home with us that day, and has been a very loved member of our family ever since!

Tex has been with us now for over four years,  I never regret getting him from the shelter! He’s such a good dog and so loving.

When Peyton was young he was scared to death of dogs. He would have a meltdown if a dog came to close to him. It wasn’t until about six and a half, seven years ago that he started to actually not be afraid of dogs.

When we first brought Tex home I could tell he was a little afraid of him, partially because Tex is such a big dog. Thank goodness Tex has such an easy-going disposition.

As the years went by Peyton became more and more attached to Tex……And it’s so cute to see them now such big buddies!

Peyton feeds Tex, walks him and is his basic caregiver. It was so cute when Peyton would be doing his schoolwork, Tex would be laying by him on the floor.

What I love most, seeing how Peyton went from being so scared of dogs, that he would have meltdowns… to him having Tex as his  emotional support  dog.

I’ve so often thought about the day at the shelter, when Tex looked at me almost to say help me… And smile and think how much he helped us. His unconditional love for Peyton, and Peyton’s unconditional love for him is such an awesome thing!

Never underestimate the love of a shelter dog! Please visit your local animal shelter,  there are so many animals waiting to be loved, but more importantly to love you unconditionally!

Adopt Don’t Shop!

https://www.aspca.org/

http://www.humanesociety.org/

 

 

Peyton….Autism….Perseverance

I came across this quote the other day “ Great works are performed not by strength but by Perseverance” Samuel Johnson

I immediately thought about Peyton and one of the things I admire most about him.. His Perseverance. He is adamant on Persevering, not necessarily the way you and I are, but in his own awesome way.

When he was 4, I was told he’d never read, write and probably not speak. While I was determined to help him in any way I could, I also accepted that if he didn’t read, write or speak that was okay. I was hoping he’d be able to do 2 of the 3… for his sake, not mine. I just wanted what was best for him.

i knew it was never going to be easy for him, but I also knew we were all in it to win it. My older kids and I were really committed to supporting Peyton in any way  we could. We were his biggest support system, and we joined forces for him!

Fast forward to June 2018… Peyton is  graduating  High School with all A’s and B’s! And guess what? He reads, write and speaks!  He is knocking so many obstacles out of the park everyday. His senior year of High School has been his best year! Trust me,his classes are difficult and intense. It seems the bigger the obstacle, the harder he fights.

He has been so determined to Not let things get in his way. This isn’t to say it’s always been easy, it hasn’t. He has had setbacks and difficulties. He’s lost faith in himself and others, then again who among us hasn’t?

One thing I’ve seen and touches me the most is, his perseverance. He keeps on and on,until he overcomes the negatives. Like I said before, it may not be the way we think it should be done… but that’s okay!

merriam-webster definition of perseverance is:

: “continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition : the action or condition or an instance of persevering: steadfastness” 
no where in the definition does it say… there is only one way to achieve/overcome!
                                                                                    Peyton is my inspiration and drive for AwesomismMom, Team Awesomism…. and most of all he’s the perfect example of “Turning Autism into Awesomism” I’m so proud of him. I can’t believe he’s 18! He’s my “baby” knowing he’s out of High School excites and scares me.
We are starting  a new chapter in his book of life. I know there will be obstacles, challenges, successes and new achievements. Being an autistic adult isn’t something he or I have experienced before. We will face each day like we have the past… one day at a time.  I also know he isn’t facing his future alone. He has a strong support network around him, who truly love him!
I also know this…. no matter how difficult it may get… Peyton will persevere, because that’s what  Peyton does… he perseveres. As his mom ( and biggest cheerleader) I honestly couldn’t be prouder of him!

 

Flipboard and Turning Autism into Awesomism

Before I say anything I want to post a disclaimer:

I am not, nor have I been a therapist. I’m a mom of an autistic teen, Peyton, who is 18 1/2 years old. Okay, now that we have that out-of-the-way, we can discuss the Awesomness of Flipboard and how’s it Helping us Turn Autism into Awesomism! 💙

Anyone who knows me or follows me on twitter, knows I am obsessed with Flipboard… allow me to explain why! 

When Peyton was younger we did “Magazine Therapy” ….. it wasn’t really THERAPY, but it is the EASIEST way to describe what we did! Now you understand why I had my disclaimer… I don’t want any misunderstandings.

Okay so what is Magazine therapy? It’s easier to show than explain, but I’m going to do my best, because it was awesome for Peyton. Peyton was a very late talker.. he was also a late reader. His vocabulary and comprehension of so many things, was delayed and or nonexistent.

As his Mom this tore my heart out. I saw the pain in his eyes. I wanted to help, but wasn’t sure how. The traditional ideas weren’t working.

I had a friend suggest to me to have him look at magazines. She had an autistic son and she said it calmed him and seem to help him. I became obsessed with trying this. So off to Barnes and Nobles I went.

I came home with a pile of magazines… Peyton and I sat on the couch and started through the magazines. To my delight he was interested! He sat there with me thumbing through pages. I described and named objects on each page…

Peyton sat silent… but he was intensely looking at each page. After an hour or so… I said “okay did you like that!” He smiled and said YES! I knew we had a winner!

I started doing this everyday with him. He seemed to really like “Town and Country” Magazines, so I focused on those. He learned so much from magazines and to this day, I’m a huge fan! I know I’ve written about this before… November of 2016 to be exact… but there is a reason why I’m bringing this up again.

Here is that blog .. I know some of it’s repetitive, but trust me… it’s so important that 2,3 ….. times…. is okay!! http://www.awesomismmom.com/flipping-autism-into-awesomism/ 

I’m sure you’re asking yourself right now… why is this so important? That it needs repeated blogs… because Flipboard is an awesome tool for autistic teens and adults, for so many reasons!

Okay so now you’re saying TELL US why and how!  Remember when I said earlier in this blog it’s easier to show than tell? Well,that’s exactly what Peyton and I are planning on doing!

We are going to be introducing our new project “Team Awesomism Turning Autism into Awesomism” a teen and adult version of “Magazine Therapy” Here are just a few of the topics we will covering… Life Skills.. Social Skills… Anxiety….It will be learning in a fun, unique and awesome way! We are super excited and will be releasing this soon! Please watch for our kickoff of TEAM Awesomism!

If you’re not sure what Flipboard is or how to use it,here is a blog by my husband that will help. 😊

http://www.awesomismmom.com/what-is-flipboard-and-why-you-should-care/ 

Thanks for reading this blog… but even more… thanks for your interest and support of Autism acceptance! 💙 Together we can do awesome things! If you’re interested in being involved in our Team Awesomism….. Please reach out!

Our CMFRT Blanket

On March 29th, I got a special box delivered to our home. In the box was an awesome  blanket from a company called Cmfrt. I was so happy to get the blanket, because I wanted to see if it would help me reduce stress and sleep better, just like my Human Touch massage chair does. When I was little, I had trouble sleeping at night all the time, and that’s because of my autism.Whenever I’m stressed about a bad storm, a test on my schoolwork or something that stresses me in general, I need to de stress. When I’m calm I do much better on my schoolwork and stop stressing over other things too. Getting a good night sleep helps me not stress as much.

I really love this blanket It feels really soft and is really comfortable. I really like the colors too, it actually matches my new room colors! The colors are also comforting. I also like that it can easily be washed in the washer because I’m sure as much as I’ll use it, it will get dirty. What I love most about the Cmfrt blanket is calms me down, it helps me with my autism, because it feels like someone is hugging me tight. The first time I wrapped it around me it relaxed me. I like wrapping myself up in it and watch TV or read my IPad!  It helps me relax before I go to bed. I also use it at night if I need to sleep, sometimes I can’t sleep and this blanket helps me sleep.  I can also take it with me when we travel, because sometimes I really have trouble sleeping in hotels, this will help!  It’s so comfortable and not too heavy, I also don’t get hot under it, I hate being hot. This blanket is helping me turn Autism into Awesomism!

I shared the blanket with my Mom too. She gets stressed and then gets migraines, one night she needed to sleep but was stressed so I gave it to her, she said she slept really well. She actually didn’t want to give it back hahaha! The one night we had really bad storms and our dog Hazel, who is half dachshund and miniature pinscher, and a rescue dog from the animal shelter, even slept under it with me! She’s always nervous during storms and this really helped her calm down! I’m going to have to hide my blanket or I think my mom will take it!   Hahaha even my sister, who lives in Germany wants me to send it to her!

If you want or need a blanket that is really comfortable and helps get rid of the stress, anxiety and calm you down,especially if you’re autistic, you should really try Cmfrt, They have lots of great comfort blankets,You should also visit their website and look at their blankets I’m sure you will find one you love. They have different weights that will match how much you weigh. It’s usually about 10% of your weight. Here is their website. https://cmfrt.us/  Please Check it out and you can also follow them on Instagram! I know you will love their blankets just like we do! Just be careful that your family doesn’t try to take it from you! Just kidding. If you have any questions you want to ask me about the blanket, you can. I’m going to be doing a video too about the blanket and how I use it, so please watch for it. Thanks for reading my blog and I hope you share it

Peyton