The Park Bench

I wrote this piece several years ago for my book… I read it every so often and I remind myself it will be Okay.

There are times I really do worry about what is going to happen to Peyton, after I am gone… After my husband is gone… I know he has three older siblings, and I know they love him unconditionally… But I still worry.

I worry that I’m not giving him enough in his life… There’s so many things parents of adult children with autism, worry about… We don’t always talk about them… But they are very real and in our mind, and in our thoughts and in our hearts…

When I get really stressed about it, I read this piece… And I remind myself Peyton is not alone… Rather he is surrounded in love, and I have that faith that whether I’m here or gone… That love Will stay around him.

I can only do what I can do and plan for his future.Stressing isn’t going to help…planning is.

So as we celebrate this holiday season and we come to the end of the year where we all make our New Year’s resolutions… Let’s each and everyone of us pause, and realize what is the most important… That we are there for those who need us, and we surround them with love.

I see a park bench alone, no one pays attention to it. It reminds me of my son… You see my child is autistic, he fights battles every day I can’t even imagine. As I see the park bench all alone even though there are people everywhere.. I realize how my son must feel. Connecting with others isn’t always easy for him, my heart hurts… But I also become more determined to help him. I look around me and I see the beauty of nature that surrounds the bench. It soothes me and heals me… There are so many wonderful things about nature… I am re-invigorated as I walk away from the park bench. I look back at it sitting empty, I stop and smile… As children run up to it and compete to all sit on the bench. It’s at that moment, that I suddenly realize my son will be fine… as he really isn’t alone… He has us, and we love him unconditionally.. We see his strengths.

As always, thank you so much for reading my blog and for following us on our 45 Awesomism days of the holidays. Without everyone’s support we wouldn’t be able to accomplish the things that we are. I hope you’re enjoying it and we look forward to “talking” to you again tomorrow!

have an awesome day

Pictures of the Holiday Season

Peyton and I love the sights of the season! we always take pictures! here is a collage we put together of some of the Holiday items we have seen!

We Hope you enjoy them!

Also, this week be sure and check out our blog as we will be having recipes for hot chocolate…apple cider recipes…Even some fun ways to drink coffee during the Holidays…. as well as some pictures of our favorite mugs! : )

We will also have some decorating tips… like how we made our Garland… Which is super easy…As well as some other ideas!

W will also have a blog dedicated to how to help give back during the holiday seasons in some ways that maybe you haven’t thought of!

We also have a blog dedicated to different small businesses that we personally love… As well as some other holiday gift ideas.

I absolutely love this time of year… this is my favorite time of year, and I love sharing my passion for this time of year and what we do in our home.

I know I’ve said it before, but I want to say it again…I am so thankful for each and everyone of you who have been reading my blogs each day of my 45 Awesomism days of the holidays… It means so much to me.

I love sharing how we celebrate the holidays in our home, and hopefully we can give you some ideas, as well as connect on common ideas and interests.

I would love to hear from you, if you have any ideas, or if you would love to be a guest blogger as well.

Tomorrow will be our charity Tuesday blog… Where we will talk about different ways to get back during the holiday season.

Hope each and everyone of you, have a very Awesome and blessed day…

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Spread Kindness!

We have all heard the expression you can’t take care of others, if you don’t take care of yourself.

This is true for so many reasons. I think during the holidays it is especially necessary that we make sure that we take care of ourselves. We get so caught up in the gift buying, the decorating, the Christmas parties, the open houses, the events, Family coming to visit or going to see family etc. etc.…

I’m probably one of the few people who actually enjoys going to the mall at this time of the year or to stores. I find it In a way comforting… I know that sounds really strange but I do… Part of the reason why I love going to the mall and/ or stores that are packed, it allows me to spread kindness… I will smile at people, if people need help getting something off the shelf, I’ll try to help them etc.etc….. Showing Kindness, not just saying it!

We so often see people frazzled and stressed… Sometimes just a smile or a kind word or a positive affirmation  can make all the difference in someone’s life.

I find that when people are at their most stressed, doing the holidays shopping, going out an about…. dealing with the every day stressors of the holiday season… Spreading kindness and spreading Love by going to the mall and or‘s stores that are packed… and showing that you care is easier!

This isn’t to say that I’m not stressed, and I don’t have anxiety attacks during the holidays… I definitely do. I also know that when I go out and about and I do try to spread kindness… By smiling spreading a kind word etc. etc. it also lifts my mood.

I have to confess another reason why I really enjoy it when it’s so crowded, is because when stores, especially small businesses have customers it helps everyone!… This may seem silly, but I truly love when businesses do better, because it makes peoples lives easier. Sometimes people can pick up a full-time job… Rather than two or three part-time jobs and that allows them more time to be home with their family …

By looking at the positives in life… We can make our emotional and mental health better as well. Too often we allow peoples words or their lack of happiness to affect us… I know I was guilty of this in the last week or two… But then I had several people come to me and tell me how much I meant to them, and how my kindness got them through some of the roughest times.I decided I wasn’t going to let negative people pull me down, rather I was going to make sure, that I kept pulling people up.

I know for a fact my moods have direct connection to Peyton’s mood, as well as my other kids and my spouse. We sometimes don’t realize that our moods can and do flow over onto others, we come in contact with, as well.

I try very hard to be conscience of this… not always successfully… but I try!

So let’s all try real hard to remember taking care of ourselves is very important! because how we react and interact… spreads to so many!

Thanks for reading my blog!

Throwback: No Place Like Home for the Holidays

This was a blog/video that Peyton made for me last year! I still really love this video. I thought we would share it again for Throwback Thursday. We will be making another video for this year! so be sure and watch for it! Hope you enjoy and make sure you have your sound up so you can hear the music!

 

 

I absolutely love my husband… To me he is the best husband on this planet. Being married to an oil guy means you have absolutely no set schedule. You live according to an “oil schedule” Which is just fine with me. I miss him when he’s gone, but our love is stronger than distance.

My husband was supposed to be home a week and a half before Thanksgiving… That didn’t work out… He got home on Thanksgiving day. We decided to have Thanksgiving with our third child, who lives close, on Sunday… We watched football and relaxed, on Thanksgiving. 🦃

I had this feeling that he wasn’t going to be able to be home when he thought he would be. I decided that I was going to decorate the whole house… Mind you we have 4100 ft.²… For Christmas, before he came home.

I usually have a rule that I don’t start putting any Christmas decorations up until Thanksgiving is over… I love Thanksgiving, it’s one of my favorite holidays and I don’t like to dismiss it, by having Christmas stuff up. This year I made an exception!

I wanted to make sure, that if my husband didn’t make it home for Christmas… That he still got to enjoy Christmas in our home. I absolutely positively love decorating… Very few people know this about me, but my background is interior design.…Even though I chose not to pursue it professionally, after college.

I love designing and decorating my own home. The holidays to me are like an empty canvas and I get to paint with passion and love. I go all out. This year was no exception. In fact this year I went above and beyond what I have done for the last five years combined.

I put a 7 foot plus tree in our sitting room… And I decorated it with all little white lights and lots of gold, silver with angels, beautiful ribbon etc. the rest of the room was decorated the same.

I did the lights down the staircase with Garland swags and bows… In our office I did our sports Christmas tree!  Each room in the house has a different theme.

Our family room and kitchen I put our family Christmas tree… And that was decorated with the ornaments that we’ve collected over the years from our children and family ornaments. Multicolored lights on the tree & fireplace.The fireplace has the garland and the stockings 

I must admit when I was all done, even though it was a lot of work, I loved it. I loved it even more when Mark walk through the door and I could see by the smile on his face, and that twinkle in his eyes how much he loved it!

As I said at the beginning of this blog my hubby is awesome. Doing things like this for him makes me happy.  He not only is an awesome husband… He is an amazing stepfather… He’s actually their dad. Peyton and my older kids all absolutely adore him.

Peyton helped me decorate the whole house… He loves the lights part,  which is so awesome for me because I get so frustrated when the light to get all tangled up! He has the patience of a saint.  😂🎄

In fact Peyton  even wrote a blog about why he loves Christmas lights so much! https://teamawesomism.com/merry-awesomism-christmas/

My hubby works very hard… He never complains… So making his Holidays a little bit better by having the house cozy, loving and festive is the least I can do. My goal was to have Mark feel ” There is no place home for the Holidays” I think I achieved that! I know he felt the love In every Christmas decoration! ❤️🎄❤️

 

 

Christmas countdown

Well…… Thanksgiving is over!

So now it is officially the Christmas countdown! This time of the year there are always so many debates whether or not Christmas decorating… Christmas events…etc… basically anything Christmas.. Should happen before Thanksgiving or whether we should just focus on Thanksgiving etc. etc. I personally think that’s a personal decision for everyone to make for themselves.

I know I started decorating early this year, for multiple reasons.

Now, we meaning everyone, should agree Christmas is officially coming… So now it’s get down to the busy holiday season… Today is Black Friday… I’m not a huge black Friday Fan, I’ve never been a big shopper on Black Friday. I admit I have gone out and dealt with the craziness at the malls and in the other departments stores etc.… This year as I normally do, I passed!

My three boys all went to the stores, to find different deals. I told them if they find anything to go ahead and text me… But Mark and I chose to stay home.

We had a wonderful Thanksgiving, three of our four kids were home, Which was wonderful.

Peyton and I started this 45 Awesomism days of the holidays on November 18… It was stretching from that day till New Year’s Day… So today is our official start of the Christmas holiday blogs, videos, crafts, recipes, gift ideas etc. etc.… I’ve been super excited about all the people who have actually been following our 45 Awesomism days… I hope you continue with us, as we have lots of exciting things coming…

Tomorrow is small business Saturday, and we will have a special blog about small business Saturday, as not only do we support it…. but we are a small business!

We are also a socially good, social conscious business as 10% of everything that we sell from our all natural, plant-based lemon and lavender product line, goes to a foundation… Underdog kids foundation… But more about that in a later Blog.

We will also have a special blog about cyber Monday and some of our favorite online products! As well as surprise about another product line we have become the Brand Ambassador for!

We would love to hear from each of you too, for some suggestions and comments.If you would like to be featured as a guest blogger, We would love to talk to you as well…Also, if you have a small business and you’d love to be featured in a blog… please let me know! I love highlighting fellow small businesses.

 

We hope you continue with us on the rest of this journey through New Year’s Day… As always thanks so much for reading my blog, and we look forward to your suggestions, comments and we hope that you enjoy our 45 Awesomism days of the holidays.

Have an Awesome Day!

Lynne