It’s Launch Day!

I’m sorry I’ve been so absent lately! I haven’t been putting out very many blogs… But I promise I have a very good reason.

Today Peyton and I are launching Team  Awesomism! We are super excited about this new project that we have started. It’s been months in the works… And a few delays in launching but we finally are ready! Yay!

I think one of the things I am proudest of is, when I started this blog a few years ago… My goal was not only to raise autism acceptance….. but to actually work to help turn autism into Awesomism….  I feel that Team Awesomism  is going to help further that goal.

One of the things that I love best about this project, is that is a joint project of mine and Peyton’s. I’m so proud of Peyton. He not only has helped me develop the project… But he did the website himself!

Peyton and I tossed around several ideas before we came up with the idea of Team Awesomism. We wanted to start a community to build each other up,and help each other. Our community is for those with anxiety, stress, autism, ADHD etc. etc. it’s a community designed to help others find their strengths, happy places, comfort zones etc. We are community where you are supported and accepted.

Team Awesomism is a bully Freezone… I say it all the time on social media… I’ve written blogs about it…but I wanted to  make even a stronger statement….,I’m on my last nerve with bullies!!!! Physical bullies, as well as verbal and mental bullies. We’ve become a society where if you don’t agree with someone, and /or you are “different” it’s acceptable to bully and name calling. 🤦‍♀️

This is unacceptable in every facet, but especially to those with special needs and those who suffer with stress and anxiety issues. Rather than just talk about it,because too often bullies refuse to see themselves as bullies… We decided to create a community to help others.

Team Awesomism isn’t just about being anti-bullying in fact it’s more about finding that happy place, comfort zone etc. so that you can deal with the negative things that are thrown at you!

This community is about actions, not just words. It’s about building together, helping each other, supporting each other and most of all being there for each other. We will be sharing each other’s strengths, and helping each other find their strengths and make them even stronger!

We’re all in this journey of life… At the same time, maybe not the same places… That’s the beauty of the Internet. We don’t have to be physically by each other, to be emotionally and mentally together.

I will be continuing my Awesomismmom blog, it will have some changes.. which will be coming at the end of September. Awesomismmom will be more about our journey as a family… Then just mine and Peyton’s journey!  Watch for the relaunch of AwesomismMom at the end of September!! 🎉

In the meantime please check out our new project Team Awesomism!! Take some time look around our website read our blog… And most of all please help us spread the word! Thank you so much for reading my blog and for all your support! https://teamawesomism.com/

 

Bullies make me see Red

I know, I know everyone, well almost everyone, disdains bullies! Well, at least They SHOULD disdain bullies…..

Nowadays we hear a lot about bullies, everyone has a different definition of what a bully is. I’ve written several blogs about bullies.These blogs are based on my opinion and my definition of what I think a bully really is!

I think we can all agree, that certain people definitely fit the definition of bullies.  This blog is not about the “common definition” of bullies.

I am hypersensitive to bullies  because of Peyton. I’ve always been a mama bear to all of my kids, but I’m especially a helicopter Mama bear to Peyton!  I get extremely protective whenever I see an autistic child,teen or adult being bullied.

As I stated in previous blogs, we often hear it said that bullies are just terribly insecure people, and basically deflect not reflect on their insecurities. While I find this to be some what true, I think it goes deeper than that.

I think Bullies are insecure people, at least much of the time, but I also think many bullies  are narcissistic gaslighters. I also think that many bullies are truly unhappy in their own lives. So they invent fantasy lives, know they’re lying and then abuse other people because they’re angry that they’re not living that life!

Some of the biggest bullies that I’ve seen on social media, are also some of the biggest hypocrites. There have been times I’ve really wanted to call them out… But I also know that it’s a waste of time, because they generally don’t wanna listen anyway.

Being an autism activist, I thought long and hard about making my focal point bullying . After the story of the special-needs boy being tortured and bullied in Chicago and Facebook live, I knew I couldn’t be a bullying  activist.  That story touch me so deeply, that I still cry about it.

I decided that rather than be a bullying activist, I would actually offer comfort zones etc. for those who are  bullied. That’s a major focal point of our new project Team Awesomism. It’s to help those with autism, anxiety and stress find their comfort zones.

I have called a few bullies  out on Twitter, as well as blocked and reported some,and I don’t always mean to Twitter. There’s one thing that my husband has really taught me, don’t lower yourself to their level instead find solutions for those who are hurting.

Team Awesomism  was inspired by several things… One being finding solutions for those who are being bullied. Bullies are only bullies  because they feel like they have to have power over someone. What better way to empower someone, then help them find their inner strength and feel better about themselves?

We will be launching Team Awesomism  on September 15, which also happens to be Peyton’s  birthday! We are super excited about this project and can’t wait to share it with everyone!

In the meantime I ask this… Find commonality with everyone you come in contact with. It’s easy to find something to be angry or mean about… Just stop! If we treat others the way we want to be treated  as well as those we love… We’d have less hatred and more love. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, as well as their beliefs… If you make this a rule in your life… You’ll stop and think before you deflect and actually reflect!

 

Is it really “Social” Part 1

   I read an article the other day that talked about how spending too much time on “Social media” can lead to depression…..this got me thinking about so many situations, frustrations, good times etc…. All attached to social media…This blog is going to be a 2 part. In part one I’m going to discuss 2 points that I don’t think are often discussed when online bullying is brought up. Second blog will be the positive sides to social media!

First let’s explore the negatives, I like ending on a positive note! ….there is the obvious the “cyber bullying” most people I talk to at one time or another have been a victim of bullying online. It’s sad and seems to be getting worse. This is real concern for me with Peyton, while I don’t excuse any bullying, I know kids, especially special needs kids, can have the hardest time dealing with bullies. Everyone always makes the comment…bullies are just insecure people…yes we know this..but it doesn’t make the hurt and pain less. I have found that many of the bullies are also people who tend to live in a delusional world. I have seen people who were bullies online, also have truly “online fantasy lives” They live on estates, they drive mid 6 figure cars, they own stables of horses, have/had unbelievable careers, are experts on EVERY subject etc….most people just chuckle and laugh at these people. I view it a bit different, as I have also seen many of these people be some of the biggest online bullies. My theory on it is, they are so unhappy they have to make up the “perfect” life and are afraid of exposure. While most of us know to ignore or just be amused by these people, many special needs kids and adults will take them at face value. Ask questions etc…this can and many times does unleash bullies to attack…I wish when people see bullies they would speak up, block and show support for the person who is being bullied. Since many of the bullies have built their “online lives” on fantasy, having reality called out on them may result in either they leave social media or stop.

Another group that I haven’t quite figured out is those who nonstop tweet at someone..it can be a celebrity, athlete etc…. Most of the time they get next to no response from the person, yet they seem to need this attention. It’s not only odd to me, it’s frustrating. I have a couple of thoughts..one, why not spend that time and or energy supporting a “cause” and help get the word out instead of bordering on cyberstalking. These people also many times bully others who do happen to tweet that the same person, as they seem to feel they “own” this persons time…I feel bad for people on the receiving end of the tweets as well. Many times they want to interact with many people,but that can almost be impossible. I’ve seen autistic teens and adults tweet at “celebrities” and then get bullied for doing so.. this really bothers me. I’ve actually gotten involved to show support.

I’ve heard people say, then just get off of social media… but I don’t think that’s the solution. Sometimes it’s a valuable outlet for people. Not only from a business  standpoint, but also an outlet for some who don’t have much outlet. Such as special needs, elderly etc…. I think the solution should involve in not giving bullies a platform. If people would block, unfollow or even call out bullies maybe it can make a difference. In my blog next week, I’ll discuss the positives to social media. There are so many positive things, sometimes they just seem to be outweighed by the negatives.