Throwback: Reflect Not Deflect

I thought this was a good Throwback Thursday Blog….. I see so much hate and Bullying daily about EVERYTHING! I wish people would take time to reflect… spread kindness.. respect others OPINIONS… and look at themselves and ask are they being kind? are they being Hypocrites? people have a right to disagree, without being labeled and libeled……

 

 

Sunday night in the middle of the night my oldest son started texting me, I kept hearing Luke Combs text tone over and over. You see I have one of his ringtones attached to my son’s number. Luke is my favorite country singer and my son reminds me of him. As much as I love hearing Luke’s songs, I wasn’t happy that my son was texting over and over so late.

I grabbed my phone to see what was so important. Of course as soon as I read his texts, my heart broke. He was letting me know about the senseless murder of people at a Country Music fest, which Luke Combs actually happened to be performing at.

I thought to myself once again Hate rears it’s despicable head. I started watching the news and looking on social media, another coward had decided to shoot innocent people. I will never understand how people can be so full of hate.

I felt so helpless and full of hurt as I watched the footage. I couldn’t fall back asleep, so I laid in bed watching classic TV to try to calm down. I knew I was going to need to talk with Peyton when he woke up, about once again about how evil people can be. I feel like I am always having this discussion.

We have talked with him about bullies and people who choose to deflect their issues rather than reflect, but mass shootings aren’t easy to explain. Peyton is very sweet and gentle and doesn’t understand why people are so mean.

I really don’t have words for this latest display of hateful violence. Daily I see people attacking each other on twitter because they disagree. I started calling it slanderous bullying.

Peyton has asked me several times why people have to be so mean just because they don’t like who someone voted for. I’ve tried to explain to him that many times people take it as a personal attack against their views,rather than everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I really am on my last nerve with some of the offensive & slanderous “name tags” being put on people.

It’s a bit puzzling to me how people can sit on social media and name call, finger point and make “threats” then say they disdain bullies. This justification of anything goes because someone else said something you disagree with HAS TO STOP!

My prayer and hope is that people look inside of themselves, instead of deflect.

We can’t control what others say & do, but we can control ourselves.

If we choose to not play the game of verbal violence, maybe just maybe others will stop as well. Let’s all make a vow to tone down the rhetoric. While words are only words, they can lead to more.

I hope we can return good for evil, reflect not deflect, open our hearts and minds, disagree with respect and support causes not agendas! While this won’t stop evil, it’s a great start and we need to start somewhere because if we don’t I am not sure what will happen.

Giving Back Tuesday

This is a very special time of year! It is also the time when we can and should give back… if we can! it doesn’t always have to be in terms of money! it can also be with our time!

here are a few of our favorites!

I love this idea of writing letters to our veterans! You van either do it through Lowes or on your own!

We have all seen the giving trees! these are awesome and can help so many families!

I saw this at our church and absolutely loved this idea!there are so many places that could do this, Neighborhoods, Churches, schools etc..

There are so many Churches, Synagogues, Mosques and other places of worship that need both money and manpower at this time of the year!

Small Foundations REALLY need your Support! This is my favorite! You can go to my store page and help them as well as go straight to UnderdogkidsFoundation and donate! Or choose a foundation of your own!

Super easy… drop money in the kettles and help feed the homeless

Don’t forget animal shelters! they need volunteers, dog walkers etc… etc…

I hope we have given you some awesome ideas as well as inspired you to give back!

UnderdogKids Foundation Giving Tuesday

We are super excited to announce our Giving Tuesday collaboration between UnderdogKids Foundation, AwesomismMom and Native Organics! 20% of every bottle sold of our all natural, plant based Lemon and Lavender hand soap goes to UnderdogKids Foundation to help special needs families in need! Please read our one pager and head over to AwesomismMom.com and order our hand soap! thanks so much! Happy Giving Tuesday!

Don’t forget Thanksgiving

Too often we get all caught up in the “Christmas Holidays” and forget about Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving is a wonderful holiday… It truly is a time in the year where everyone stops and thinks about what blessings we have in our lives.

It seems that there’s so much negativity in the world these days, you can’t turn on the TV without seeing something negative about someone or something. People refuse to respect other people’s opinions etc. etc.… One of the things that I love most about the Thanksgiving time is this…It’s the one time of the year that we really emphasize being thankful for the POSITIVES in our lives… I’d love to see that carried on beyond just one day

If everyone would take the time to truly focus on what they are thankful for, I truly believe moods would brighten. I know with my GAD… I too often get so focused upon my anxiety and what is causing the anxiety and what I’m frustrated or angry or hurt about.… If I make a list of what I am thankful for it truly changes my mood… I would love to offer this for Thanksgiving…

I hope each one of us would pause everyday from Wednesday afternoon to Sunday afternoon the weekend of Thanksgiving and make a conscious effort Of not only expressing what we are thankful for… But that we show it!

There are so many ways we can show “thankfulness”

Send someone a positive email telling them why you are thankful that they are in your life…

Send a nice card in the mail… Yes, we too often  now just do things electronically.. it’s nice to go to the mailbox and get something positive…

Call someone that you haven’t spoken to in a while, tell them that though time has passed that you are thankful for the opportunity to “catch up”

Let’s show our gratitude and thankfulness by doing random acts of kindness this Coming Thanksgiving weekend!

Volunteer… Show others that you truly do care that they’re hurting. Help turn their sadness into thankfulness by knowing others care.

There are many people who are alone on the holidays… If you know someone invite them over.

Maybe you have an elderly neighbor who could use some help around their yard, In the warmer climates, in the colder climates maybe they need their sidewalk shoveled… Bring a neighbor something homemade.. like homemade chicken noodle soup… tell them I’m thankful for you…those little words and those actions can mean so much to people…

The best way to combat negativity is to be positive… So as we kick off this Awesomism holiday season from Thanksgiving to New Year’s let’s start it out with acts of thankfulness.

As we make out our  “what I’m thankful for this year list”… Let’s all add to it that I’m thankful that I made someone else’s day/week/year better by letting them know how truly special they are… Because nothing says care better than actions…

As always thanks for reading my blog and I’d love to hear from you how you “showed your Thankfulness this Awesomism Holiday Season.

 

 

Why my GAD is my Monday Motivation

I still remember the day that I was diagnosed with GAD… (General Anxiety Disorder) I was going through a really rough time in my life… An ugly divorce, a very contentious custody battle, and so much more.

I was slipping into a really deep depression…  I knew I needed to get out of it,not only for myself, but most of all for my children. My children lived with me,and I was the primary caregiver, as well as provider.

I went to see my physician, and the first words out of her mouth were you have GAD. I really wasn’t very familiar with it at the time… But she knew it as soon as I described how I was feeling, and what I was going through.

The funny thing about it was…. as soon as she told me my diagnosis… I immediately  started to feel better. Part of the reason for that was… Someone actually listened and believed me!

I hadn’t shared with too many people how depressed I was. But a couple of them that I had shared it with told me “you’ll be fine… You’re just going through a rough patch, don’t dwell on it.”

I kept thinking to myself… I’m not dwelling on it by choice, I can’t seem to get past it. I would pace at night from Anxiety, and then be tired all day, which would cause even more anxiety.

I was in a vicious cycle and I didn’t know how to get out of it! My depression and my anxiety got worse and worse.

My doctor prescribed Lexapro… I felt better right away… Not because it really did that big of a difference… But because I knew I was on the road to getting better.

I also knew, that I wasn’t going to stay on the Lexapro. I wanted to be able to deal with my GAD through lifestyle changes.

I found a counselor… Who specialized in GAD, I told her I don’t want to stay on meds, I want to do this by lifestyle change. She was absolutely wonderful… And she helped me through this horrible time, and taught me so much.

When Peyton talk to me about and a few ideas he had for https://teamawesomism.com/…I absolutely loved the idea. For several reasons, but most of all because we were going to be creating a virtual community that actually listens and cares!

This really personally hit home for me a couple months ago… I was speaking with someone who was “mentoring me“… When I brought it up with him that I had GAD… he proceeded to inform me that it was “all in my head”.

While I don’t disagree with him on the surface …that it really is in my head… 😂😂… I found it to be very disrespectful. He told me people look for excuses for not doing things. At first I thought about going through my entire history, and thr fact that I was actually diagnosed with it, but then realized he didn’t care.

At first, I felt like I did years ago… And then I decided I actually feel sorry for him… And I hope no one close to him is dealing with serious stress and anxiety… I also became more motivated to be a voice for GAD .

Dismissing people‘s fears and anxieties, stresses and hurts is easy… Helping people with them is fulfilling. I’ve chosen to be there for others.

I decided to use his negative energy and turn it around…..My GAD is my Monday motivation!