The Strength of Texans

I decided to revisit this blog for a couple of reasons….. We have had some bad weather in Texas again lately, and once again… I saw the best come out in people…. and another reason… because I really hope that people focus on the best… even while going through tough times… that is a Life Lesson for always…Hope you enjoy this blog!

 

 

 

As most of you know this past week or so has been an almost surreal time in Texas. As I was thinking about writing this blog, I struggled with how to write this. I want to make sure I make this about everyone who was affected and everyone who gave so selflessly, not about me.

I have been through other Hurricanes as I lived in Florida for many years. I honestly wasn’t stressed about this one, as I figured it would be a day of storms and then we’d be done. As the storm got closer and the weather people became truly stressed, I started to worry. I didn’t want Peyton to know I was worried, as he tends to really stress whenever any storms are happening. I saw him sitting in his massage chair, quite a bit so I knew he was well aware there was some “danger” heading toward us.

Friday night the storm started, we all started to realize this was going to be big, little did many of us realize just how big. Harvey came and he didn’t leave, he seemed to have a love for Texas, like so many of us. The problem was he wasn’t good to us. No matter how awful Harvey was, Texas was stronger. The will, resolve and love of the people of Texas was shown over and over. That love, that determination and resolve was watched by people all over the world. The people watching decided they needed and wanted to help, I truly believe they helped because they saw Texans as awesome people. No one cared what color skin, ethnicity, religion you were, or who you voted for….they cared that you loved, cared, and believed in the goodness of EVERYONE! A week before Harvey came, this country was coming apart at the seams. The people of Houston and of Texas grabbed a huge needle and thread and not only repaired the tear, but did it with love. I sat glued to channel 13, abc news. I cried, I laughed and I cheered as I watched the “Cajun Navy” and many, many, many others come. People grabbed everything they could and went out risking their lives, to save EVERYONE. The resolve and strength of people was overwhelming to me. Whole families’ belongings were reduced to a garbage bag and even sometimes a small grocery bag. Yet, when many were interviewed they were so thankful to be alive. They focused on the positive, thanked those who saved them, and chose to see the silver lining.

This is what is great about Texans, they see what unites them, not what divides them. Oh I know there are some who choose to be negative, but they are a small number, and like Harvey will fade away into the background. Now comes the really hard part… The rebuilding for so, so many… But just like when Harvey was trying to break our will and our spirit. I truly believe we will see the strength, resolve, compassion and love of Texans. That huge needle and thread will become a hammer, saw and nails. I hope the world keeps watching because Texans believe in actions, not words and the lessons they teach are Huge, because everything is bigger in Texas! We are Houston Strong, We are Texas Strong! I am sure Harvey and maybe even a few others learned….Don’t Mess with Texas!

Fall destressing

A lot of people I know feel that summer is there time to unwind. They look at it is the season that they go on vacations, the days are longer, so they can go outside more, they can do more… In general the weather is better.

For me it’s very different… I find fall/autumn to be my most destressing/relaxing season of the year. There is something about the cooler temperatures… That really make me happy.

I also really love the food in the fall… I am a massive apple and cinnamon person. I love to make hot apple cider… When my kids were younger, I would always make it from scratch. I love having potpourri on the stove.. and candles in the house.

I really enjoyed baking so I love to make pies and cookies… And there’s something magical about this time of the year when you’re baking.

I also really love to make homemade soup and stews.

I always feel like this time of the year is the most cozy time of the year… It’s not hot out… And living in Texas that he can really get to you in the summer. It’s not freezing cold, where you have to worry about snow and ice like in the winter… And after a hot summer, it’s so relaxing to have a cool evening in the fall.

I also happen to be one of those people that when it’s rainy or cloudy or overcast out, I enjoy working more! I enjoy doing things around the house, I enjoy writing, listening to podcasts and music, there’s just something about it, that makes me destress more!

I also am a big hot bath taker… I’ve talked about this in prior blogs, how I love to take hot baths to relax… In the fall it’s fun to take hot baths… Even more so than in the winter, because in the winter when you get out of the bath, you get so cold quickly.

I love wearing sweaters and warm fuzzy socks… To me these are all very calming.. soothing… Destressing type things. We are all different, and we all have different things that help us with our stress and anxiety… Fall happens to be one of those for me.

Although, I wouldn’t be being totally honest… if I didn’t admit that from a sports perspective, the fall is much more stressful for me… 😂😂Because I am a huge college football, NFL and NHL fan… And since they all play in the fall… I do get a lot more stressed about my sports… But it’s a different kind of stress 🤷🏻‍♀️

I love the cool evenings.. I especially love it when it’s cool enough to put a fire in the fireplace… Of course my husband and I have completely different ideas on what is cool enough! 🤗

What are some of your favorite things about the fall? Do you find the fall to be more of a destressing time? or do you find because we’re going into the holiday season, to make it more stressful? I’d love to get your feedback on that.

Peyton also loves Fall… here is the link to his blog! Why Fall is My Favorite Season

As Always.. Thanks for reading my Blog and have an Awesome Day!

Lynne

Faith it until you make it

Faith it until you make it… I saw this quote a few weeks ago… And I absolutely fell in love with it. You usually hear the term fake it until you make it. I think many of us fake it until we make it to a certain degree, when we are entrepreneurs, small business owners, pursuing our dreams etc. etc. But is that what we really want to be a faker?

The more I thought about this “Faith it until you make it” the more I loved it. The more raw and real it became to me.

I think we all have different versions of what our faith, or what faith is. This blog is not a lecture about what your faith should be by definition… But more about having that positive thoughts and conviction… To stay strong while you work to fill your dreams and passions.

I happen to be a person of faith, I believe in the power of prayer, I believe in a strong inner commitment to do what is right, not only for yourself, but for others.

This is not to say that I am always perfect. I am far from perfect… I make mistakes, I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life… But I try very hard to learn from them.

My dad always tried to teach me it was only a mistake if I didn’t learn from it… Otherwise it was a life’s lesson. I do truly try to learn from my mistakes. So let’s just say I have lots and lots of life’s lessons. 😂

I think nowadays, we have developed an attitude of what we want, we better have and we better have it NOW! There are times, I must admit, that I can become very disheartened with the way that we have become in society in general.

Too often I don’t see people actually caring about other people, I see them talking about what they do ….what they have… how great they are.. basically faking it till they make it.

This is not to say that we should do the opposite, which is always complain… And do a “poor me” attitude, either.

Life in general can be really tough… Being a small business/entrepreneur/independent contractor can make it even tougher.

Having other issues in your life such as.. being a single parent… A child with special needs… Serious financial difficulties etc. etc. can also make being positive, a little more difficult at times.

This is why I love that saying… Faith it till you make it… Because I think when things are really rough, we have to lean on our faith! We need to reach down deep inside of us and find that Faith… Be it Faith in a higher being.. Faith in ourselves or Both!

The Definition of Faith is: ( from Oxford)

faith
1.
complete trust or confidence in someone or something.
“this restores one’s faith in politicians”
2.
strong belief in God or in the doctrines of a religion, based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof.

I have made this my personal new motto…meaning when tough times come… and they always do…especially being a Mompreneur/Entrepreneur and Autism Mom… I am going to challenge myself… Faith it until I make it! Will you accept this challenge too?

Thanks for reading my blog

Have an Awesome Day!

Lynne

Red-Angry Blue-Sad

We are so honored to have an amazing blogger as our guest blogger this week! She’s an amazing mom… Who openly discusses her life. My hope is that after you read her blog… You come away with the same emotions/thoughts  that I did.. we need more mental health help!!! People need to stop talking and start doing.. this is not a political issue, this is a human issue! Please check out her other blogs here http://thoughtswithn.blogspot.com/

Also, We have her books for sale on our website https://teamawesomism.com/

 

I remember the day that I saw a piece of work completed by my oldest son. He was 6 at the time. His class was learning about emotions, and had them associated with colors. The piece of paper asked them to identify the 2 emotions they most commonly feel, and draw it in the associated color. His was Red – Angry, and Blue- Sad.

 

I remember the tears that sprung to my eyes. The feeling of failure I felt. My little boy was always angry at this point.

 

I had always struggled with him, since the beginning, but now it was at a new high. The Police were now involved, as he had begun threatening his baby sister.

 

Oh, and I was 6 months pregnant. I had high blood pressure, so I was supposed to be relaxing.

 

There, in front of me lay the evidence of the state of my sons mental health. He was so angry, and so sad. He didn`t know what to say, or how to say it, so his anger dragged on, day after day.

 

This was such a hard time for all of us. I have scars on me from his intense temper, and I am pretty sure my daughter is emotionally scarred.

 

Despite struggling for so many years, and trying to get him help, I had failed. The counsellor agreed that this paper was slightly alarming for a little boy, and sent off the papers for a Psychiatric Assessment.

 

We waited.

 

We waited.

 

Months and months went by. While my son struggled.

 

So many days I just wanted to run away and disappear. I questioned my capabilities of being a mother. I questioned how I was going to raise another boy. I have never in my life felt so lost as what I did at this time.

 

To be honest, I am not even sure how we all made it through. Maybe it is just the power of love. I one day told my son very clearly, I know you are angry, and I will be here whenever you are ready to talk, but there is not anything you can do to me to make me stop loving you, or to make me give up on you. You are my son.

 

We got the call for the assessment a year after the referral was placed. A YEAR. A family in a crisis situation, and such a sad and confused little boy.

 

We declined the assessment at this point, because he had already been through three and he was tired of doing it. No one saw what we saw. His intense temper. His neediness for everything to be a very specific way. His amazing abilities with numbers, and recognizing patterns. No one saw it. They always just told us, he is a very bright boy.

 

I decided, rather than trying to change him, I was going to accept him. Accept him exactly how he is.

 

He is almost 8 now. I can`t believe so much time has passed since my feelings of hopelessness. He is in Grade 2 and an intense math whiz. He still struggles with his temper, but he is far less violent.

 

Now he talks to me. He tells me what is wrong. Then we can figure out how to fix it.

 

You may not always be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I sure didn`t when I was locked in my room, trying to protect the baby in my belly, and my 1 year old daughter. I could not see any light in my life what so ever. I wanted to run away.

 

The light is there. It will shine.

 

Love

N 💜

The Holland Lighthouse

When I was growing up my parents had a summer home in Holland, Michigan. Although I must admit, we always called it a cottage. even though  it was definitely bigger than a cottage.

I love Holland, Michigan. The highlight of my year was always going up there for the summer. Our home was on the lake,we had a dock, a boat,paddle boat etc… There was so much to do.

I used to love it at night when we would have the windows open and the only sound we would hear was an occasional motorboat out on the lake. There was something very soothing about that to me. I also loved when the water was kind a rolling to the shore and you just hear it kind of hitting the beach.

My summers in Holland are some of my favorite memories from my childhood. I also loved it when my family would go up to the family cottage in Minocqua, Wisconsin. It was something very magical and safe and comforting about how it was.

Although, I was born and raised in a large city… Chicago, and I live in a large city… Houston… I truly do prefer smaller towns. I think I develop the love of them because of Holland, Michigan.

There’s something very soothing and comforting to me about small towns. I’ve not really lived in one per say since being an adult. I’ve lived in suburbs of large cities primarily. I do think I’d like to retire to a smaller town though.

I’m sure you’re probably wondering why I’m writing this in a  Sunday Soothing blog. The point of this blog is more about finding that comfort zone… You may not be in the situation at the time… Like I live in a big city now, but there is soothing comfort to me in the memories of being in Holland during the summer.

For me nothing represents Holland better than the lighthouse. I’ve always loved that lighthouse, there was just something so magical about it for me. To this day I smile every time I see a picture, think about it or look at the lighthouse statue, I have in my office. 

I purposely put the statue in my office so that when I do get really  stressed I can look at it. One of the things that I’ve really learned with my GAD… General anxiety disorder… Is when I’m starting to feel overwhelmed, I have to go to my comfort zone/happy place.

I have several comfort zone/happy places… And that’s good because sometimes somethings don’t destress me at the time, so I need other things.  Do you have comforting memories that bring you to your comfort zone? I’d love to hear about them.

This past week was a particularly tough week for me I had a lot going on. There are several really stressful situations I’m dealing with right now… So my comfort zone/happy places have been needed a lot this week.

I was trying to think about what I wanted to write in my Sunday soothing blog… I was sitting in the comfortable chair in my office, and I looked at my Holland lighthouse and realized how many times this week I looked at it and smiled. I knew then I needed to have my Soothing  Sunday blog… about the Holland lighthouse! 

Thanks so much to Terry Potter for allowing me to use this awesome picture of the Lighthouse… please check out her amazing photography on Flipboard https://flipboard.com/@TPorter2

As always thanks so much for reading my blog and your support!

Check out Peyton’s website for more comfort zones/happyplaces. https://teamawesomism.com/