Facing his Fears

August 1st Peyton and I are going to be launching Team Awesomism!  We are really excited about this new project!

In preparation for this new project Peyton and I have been doing some small projects to lead up to it!  Once we announce what team Awesomism is, all the little projects we’ve been doing will make more sense.

Peyton has always been afraid since he was little of motorcycles.  The noise and vibration that they put off, always scared him. Part of Team Awesomism is about facing your fears, and finding your comforts!

About a month ago Peyton came to me and said, I really want to learn to ride a bike, and I really want to stop being afraid of motorcycles. I kind of saw the connection between the two. Even though bikes don’t make noise, he still was afraid to get on one and fall!

He and I sat down and discussed his fear of both. He told me that he was afraid of falling on a bike and he felt like a motorcycle was a very loud and aggressive bike.  In his mind, there was a direct connection between the two.

I may not always understand why he is afraid of certain things or doing certain things, but I respect his fear. We each have our own idiosyncrasies and he certainly allowed to have his!

On July 7, the local  BMW, Indian, Singleshot motorcycle dealership had an awesome event. They were doing a virtual reality motorcycle ride at the dealership. 

I contacted them before the event, and asked them if it was OK if Peyton and I attended. They were super nice about it,and said absolutely come on over!

When we got to the dealership, I could tell Peyton was a bit apprehensive. I asked him if he still wanted to go in and try it. He said absolutely he wanted to get to a point where he didn’t fear motorcycles.  He actually felt that if he got over his fear of motorcycles, it would help him ride a bike.

So in we went! They had food out as well as some drinks. I asked Peyton if he wanted something to eat and drink, thinking this would probably calm him down and ease  him into being around the motorcycles. 

Once we were done eating, I asked the people working there, if it was OK if Peyton tried the virtual reality. I discussed with them that Peyton was autistic, and why he wanted to do the virtual reality,as well as look at all the motorcycles .

They couldn’t have been nicer, they were so accommodating to Peyton. It really touched my heart, how nice they were.


Peyton did the virtual reality, and absolutely loved it. He sat in the chair, because he wasn’t sure he wanted to sit on a motorcycle. Once he started the virtual reality on the motorcycle, he got really into it. It was funny to watch him and I was so happy to see how much he loved it.

think the best moment was when he was doing the virtual reality, and they started motorcycle right behind him! He never flinched, in fact he really enjoyed it! It was so awesome to see him overcome that fear! 

After we left the motorcycle shop, Peyton  asked me if we could go look at bikes! It was great because for the first time wanted to actually look at bikes and talk about buying one, so he could learn to ride a bike!

I can’t thank the guys at the BMW Indian single shot dealership in the Woodlands Texas, enough! They were so incredible to Peyton, they even asked him before they started up motorcycles, if it was OK!!

Peyton overcame a major fear of his that day,  it was such an awesome day! I’m so proud of him and how hard he is trying to overcome fears.

Here is the link to the motorcycle dealership. If you are in the Woodlands,Texas area please show them some love. https://www.bmwmcwoodlands.com/

If you’re not, but you know someone who is …..please ask them to. Here is their Twitter…..  you can follow them as well. @BMWIndSS_77385

A few of my favorite Blogs!

When I sat down to write my “Monday Blog” I honestly had a brain freeze! I couldn’t get motivated…. I hate when I’m like this. Usually I have some sort of idea in my head what I want to write about. I looked at a few things that I use ….that  are my “go to” for inspiration, still I just couldn’t wrap my head around an entire blog idea.

I usually have some sort of idea in my head what I want to write about. I just couldn’t wrap my head around an entire blog idea. So I decided rather than just throw something out there, and write about something that I didn’t really feel from my heart, I would do a best of blogs!

I’m going to  pick five different blogs that I’ve written over the last 2+ years and share them again with you. I have different reasons  why I picked each of these blogs, but I think you’ll get something from each one of them. I wanted it to be varied, I wanted it to be a broad overview of just what AwesomismMom has been about, and how we’ve evolved from when we started till now.

Soon we’re going to be unveiling our new project Team Awesomism…..  I’m so proud of how far we have come. We started with  a “therapeutic blog” and soon we are going to be unveiling some really awesome projects!

Thank you so much for being a loyal reader and for following us on social media!  Your support means more to me than words can express. I hope you continue to follow us and support us!

Please sign up for our newsletter, which will be coming soon.  I promise more details will be coming soon about Team Awesomism,  as well as our newsletter and some other really cool surprise we have planned!

Hope you enjoy these five best of blogs!  I even snuck a blog in the Peyton  wrote! I picked these different blogs for different reasons …when we introduce Team Awesomism,  I think you’ll understand better why!

I loved reading through them because not only does it bring back awesome memories, but I get to see how much we’ve evolved and advanced since we started blogging, and that’s exciting to me.

http://www.awesomismmom.com/bowling-and-life-lessons/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/my-passionate-campaign-for-awesomism/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/my-hero-by-peyton/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/flipboard-and-turning-autism-into-awesomism/

http://www.awesomismmom.com/playing-small/

Anxiety and Me

We are so honored to have an awesome guest blogger this week! His name is Jay Cator… He blogs about a lot of interesting subjects. I asked him to share his journey with anxiety, with us! I absolutely love this blog, and I hope you do as well! Check out his contact information at the end of the blog! Please give him a follow and show support. Thanks for reading 💜

 

 

Anxiety, a word I have only ever heard at a distance. I never knew what it meant or how it effected people. I’ve always been different to others around me. Ever since I was a late teen, I over thought everything, even to the point where I would cancel plans to stay at home, in my safe place. I worry about every situation, by far my biggest flaw. I have always thought negative of myself and when certain scenarios popped up that could effect my life, the negative always won. I faced rejection constantly. I always shake at confrontation and avoided any situation that could lead me to the slightest harm.

Relationships and friendships followed in similar pattern. Dating I would face rejection at the first hurdle, bad first dates and hate. When I successfully find someone, I was felt like I was not good enough. Like they could do better, have someone who would give them a better life. I would worry constantly. Friends would come and go. The ones who leave I would never hear from again. Used for my kindness and care, it something I got used to.

My world change however when I met my last partner, someone who had anxiety and suddenly I understood. She opened my eyes to what anxiety was. I looked it up and spoke to a doctor and boom. Everything I thought was just me, a character flaw, was all explained. Unfortunately we split recently, more a break as we deal with various issues. But without her I would still be thinking, “why am I so different?” It all made sense. Why I have been, who I have been, has been explained.

I have always had ways of stopping me thinking, stop me worrying about every situation. I would play Xbox, using them to zone myself out into a different world. If that didn’t work, I sit in the corner, headphones in listening to my favourite songs. More recently, I have started writing, which has lead to my blog. Seeing people reading what I have to say and positivity has helped me massively recently. I start to feel I can achieve something, I’m not a failure, I can get better. I also find that following my favourite sports helps.

I have some really close friends that have helped me all these years and I feel very lucky that they are all still there. They all support me in different ways. My family are also a big support for me. I have love around me. I am truly lucky to have this support network, that will never be underestimated.

My biggest advice? Every day is different, so take life as it is every day. Find what comforts you, no matter how big or how small. When you get a victory, no matter how small, celebrate it. Shout it out to the world.

Thank you AwesomismMom for inviting me to write about me. I am honoured. Thank you all for taking the time to read.

Please follow and support Jay!

Blog: http://beardedigor.wordpress.com

Twitter: @stealthemgaming

Coming Soon….Team Awesomism!

I am super excited about mine and Peyton’s project…. Team Awesomism!

While we are going to wait to give all the details until we actually have our “kickoff” I want to give a few details! I’ve never been very good at keeping surprises to myself! 🎈🔹😊🎈😊🔹😊

Team Awesomism is a project where we will put action to words… where we will actually work to help Turn Autism into Awesomism… not just say it! It’s a “virtual community” of sorts………

We will have newsletter, videos, interviews, contests and more! Our target audience will be autistic teens and adults, but will welcome others.. as well!

We will be using Flipboard .. it’s an awesome app and I’m a firm believer in it’s positive impact for autistic teens and adults. Peyton uses it for so many reasons!

We are in process of upgrading our website!! Yay! Starting our newsletter… getting together with awesome  business sponsors! Lining up some amazing people for interviews…..Setting up some very special Flipboard Magazines….. we are working on learning videos as well as fun ones!… We are growing our social media and even setting up an online store! 💙

We are super excited and can’t wait to share it all with you!

Team Awesomism is a project of AwesomismMom…I will continue to blog, share our journey… review awesome products etc…. Team Awesomism is an addition, not a replacement.

Peyton and I hope you are as excited as we are! Out target kickoff is June 4th! 🤞🏼🤞🏼

We will be releasing a preliminary Flipboard Magazine about Stress on May 29th…

If you’re a business owner or someone who would like to be a “team captain” PLEASE reach out! We’d love to have you!

Watch for our Kickoff and please share this blog with others, because together we are stronger! Turning Autism into Awesomism isn’t just a saying… it’s a goal!

Thanks for reading this blog and we truly appreciate your support and help!

 

 

Peyton’s Inspirational Sign

The other day Peyton got this Inspire sign: he really loves it.  I was looking at it and realized the words on it, really described Peyton! He’s such an amazing and inspiring young man. I especially love the second part of the description… (2) “To awaken a particular feeling in somebody”.

He inspires, awakens etc… love, strength, patience, goals, effort, enthusiasm etc…. The best part of it is, he doesn’t even realize how much he inspires others.

I’ve said this many times in my blogs, how sweet he is. He really has a sweet heart and genuinely cares about others. He worries about others with such a pure and open heart. He doesn’t enter a “relationship” with preconceived ideas, thoughts or views. He takes everyone at face value.

I envy that about him, I wish I had that kind of trust and positive vulnerability … meaning he allows people to show him who they are, without deciding who they are. This isn’t to say he likes everyone… rather that he gives you the opportunity to be his friend. He’s optimistic that you are who you present yourself as . When he cares, he cares with a full and open heart.

It goes without saying that Peyton is the inspiration behind AwesomismMom…but even deeper than that … He’s the inspiration for “Team Awesomism Turning Autism into Awesomism” I’ve told him for years.. he has Awesomism not Autism. He’s the special one.. the rest of us in the family are “the same”  While we all know we are all individuals, Peyton is extremely special to us in so many positive ways.

I love watching Peyton when he’s in situations he feels comfortable in, like his Prom. He’s so happy, calm and engaged. He enjoys companionship, especially with others who take the time to connect with him.

He’s getting better about feeling comfortable in all settings. I’ve watched him go from a  shy, insecure, scared kid to someone who actually wants to go outside his “comfort zone”

The last 8 months have been a roller coaster… I’ve had some serious health issues. In the past Peyton would have stressed nonstop. Instead he faced the  situation at hand and dealt with it! We are so proud of him.

I’ve been stressing about our new project… “Team Awesomism Turning Autism into Awesomism” I sat down with him the other day with a LONG to do list. I asked him to look at it and tell me what he thought he could help me with, because I was feeling overwhelmed. He looked at me and said “ If we want to do this project, then we have to do this whole list, right?”

Remember (2): to awaken a particular feeling in somebody?

Peyton woke my feelings of strength, goals, determination, perseverance, drive……..I realized if Peyton doesn’t see obstacles then why should I? I’ve been so busy feeling overwhelmed and stressed about everything I HAVE to do for this project…. I forgot my own rule.. walk then run.

Peyton is right we have to get it ALL done, so instead of just having an overwhelming “To Do” list I need to have a To Do list … set by priorities.

Thank you Peyton… for once again being my inspiration….. You are a wonderful example of “Turning Autism into Awesomism” 💙

Watch for my next blog…. about our new and awesome project!! I think you will really be inspired. In the meantime here is Peyton’s twitter @PeytonAwesomism his Instagram PeytonsYearofAwesomism and his Flipboard ( which is his favorite) 😎 http://Check out my Flipboard magazine, Peyton’s Year Of Awesomism http://flip.it/KbJKTd