45 Awesomism Days of the Holidays

We are super excited to be doing the 45 Awesomism days of the holidays!

As I have discussed in previous blogs… I have GAD, general anxiety disorder… And Peyton is as everyone knows well…  is autistic.

The holidays can be very stressful for everyone, but it can be particularly stressful for those who suffer with anxiety.

Nowadays… The stores start decorating for the holidays and pushing Christmas and Thanksgiving already in July… I kid you not, Peyton and I were in a store in July and they were taking down their Fourth of July items and putting up Christmas already!!

That can really add to the stress and anxiety of the holidays, because it seems like as it comes sooner and sooner it gets more and more in your head about the holidays.

I absolutely love Christmas! It is my favorite holiday… I have always really decorated every house I’ve ever owned to the max… Peyton loves Christmas as well, and as I get older.. I get less and less inspired to do all kinds of decorating.. dragging all the boxes out of the attic… Although we call ours a Texas basement because it is a walk-able attic, so it’s not as difficult… But dragging everything down, scrubbing down the house.. putting everything that was Up away and then putting up all the Christmas decorations takes a lot of work!

However; to see Peyton’s face be so happy and so excited, it’s all worth it to me!

I decided that this year I was going to do a 45 day long blog/video/pictures/craft/ideas/recipes/tips on my Website!.We will have everything in one place on our website… Also, we will have a dedicated Flipboard Magazine, A dedicated Pinterest Board… we will be having daily items on Twitter, Instagram and Linkedin!

I’m by no means an expert on helping lower your anxiety and/ or your stress… but I do know that with me, when I see tips that I can use, such as other peoples ideas.. it really does take a certain amount of the anxiety out of my life… So that’s what I’m hoping to do here! Just inspire people and help maybe lower your stress level, lower your anxiety by providing so many different things that can help you during the holiday seasons!

We will be covering Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas, New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day… as well as a few other surprises!

We have an Awesome Thanksgiving guest Blogger that you won’t want to miss his heartfelt Thanksgiving Blog.

I hope you enjoy our” 45 Awesomism days of the Holidays” and please share with your friends, family and anyone else that you think might benefit from it!

If you have any tips or ideas or would love to be a guest blogger, I would love to hear from you!

As always thanks so much for reading my blog and let’s get started…….. tomorrow we will start with a blog about some Thanksgiving tips

Here is a blog that I wrote a few years ago about the Stress I put on myself during the Holidays. Link: Traditions are made to be broken

The Importance of Life’s History Lessons

I am so happy and proud to have Lloyd Morman as a guest Blogger today! He has been a guest blogger for Team Awesomism… Peyton’s company several times… He is a very sweet and caring person. Lloyd has autism, and is blind in one eye. I have such respect for him, as he never lets anything get him down! He is a true example of someone who is Turning Autism into Awesomism!

I hope you enjoy this very informative blog, as much as I do!

Also, please check out and follow Lloyd on social media!

Thanks,

Lynne

Here are links to his blogs he wrote on Team Awesomism:

  1. Hello Everyone!
  2. Where I learned to live with my eye problem
  3. The story behind the photo and ticket. A very helpful lesson to help in life.

If you’re on Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and Flipboard, please follow him.

 

History is very important. We can learn a great deal from history, but have you ever considered looking into your family history?

I learned from one of mother’s doctors that studying your family history can be very helpful in many ways! For example when you study your family tree can find out if any of your love ones have had medical issues that could be passed down & you found out that YOU could have a few medical issues similar to them & it can be prevented.
YES! These studies can help in so many ways, from preventing unhealthy habits to medical issues that you may not have known that was in your family, but others in your family knew but did NOT know or say anything. One of the biggest issues with family history is many are NOT aware of the importance of knowing or studying your family tree! Yes many may not NOT be ready or want to study their family tree or its history.
I am glad that my mother has looked into ours. We found out that many of our family members had eye problems, diabetes, anger, & depression issues. We looked into & found out that many of these issues can be treated today when then could NOT be treated in the past.
Medicine today has changed from the past due from doctors & those in medicine have learned from history & those who are willing to help us learn from the history of medicine.
So please try to learn from from your family tree, not the names & where they came from but more! It may save your or family members lives!

Faith it until you make it

Faith it until you make it… I saw this quote a few weeks ago… And I absolutely fell in love with it. You usually hear the term fake it until you make it. I think many of us fake it until we make it to a certain degree, when we are entrepreneurs, small business owners, pursuing our dreams etc. etc. But is that what we really want to be a faker?

The more I thought about this “Faith it until you make it” the more I loved it. The more raw and real it became to me.

I think we all have different versions of what our faith, or what faith is. This blog is not a lecture about what your faith should be by definition… But more about having that positive thoughts and conviction… To stay strong while you work to fill your dreams and passions.

I happen to be a person of faith, I believe in the power of prayer, I believe in a strong inner commitment to do what is right, not only for yourself, but for others.

This is not to say that I am always perfect. I am far from perfect… I make mistakes, I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life… But I try very hard to learn from them.

My dad always tried to teach me it was only a mistake if I didn’t learn from it… Otherwise it was a life’s lesson. I do truly try to learn from my mistakes. So let’s just say I have lots and lots of life’s lessons. 😂

I think nowadays, we have developed an attitude of what we want, we better have and we better have it NOW! There are times, I must admit, that I can become very disheartened with the way that we have become in society in general.

Too often I don’t see people actually caring about other people, I see them talking about what they do ….what they have… how great they are.. basically faking it till they make it.

This is not to say that we should do the opposite, which is always complain… And do a “poor me” attitude, either.

Life in general can be really tough… Being a small business/entrepreneur/independent contractor can make it even tougher.

Having other issues in your life such as.. being a single parent… A child with special needs… Serious financial difficulties etc. etc. can also make being positive, a little more difficult at times.

This is why I love that saying… Faith it till you make it… Because I think when things are really rough, we have to lean on our faith! We need to reach down deep inside of us and find that Faith… Be it Faith in a higher being.. Faith in ourselves or Both!

The Definition of Faith is: ( from Oxford)

faith
1.
complete trust or confidence in someone or something.
“this restores one’s faith in politicians”
2.
strong belief in God or in the doctrines of a religion, based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof.

I have made this my personal new motto…meaning when tough times come… and they always do…especially being a Mompreneur/Entrepreneur and Autism Mom… I am going to challenge myself… Faith it until I make it! Will you accept this challenge too?

Thanks for reading my blog

Have an Awesome Day!

Lynne

No place like home for the Holidays


I absolutely love my husband… To me he is the best husband on this planet. Being married to an oil guy means you have absolutely no set schedule. You live according to an “oil schedule” Which is just fine with me. I miss him when he’s gone, but our love is stronger than distance.

My husband was supposed to be home a week and a half before Thanksgiving… That didn’t work out… He got home on Thanksgiving day. We decided to have Thanksgiving with our third child, who lives close, on Sunday… We watched football and relaxed, on Thanksgiving. 🦃

I had this feeling that he wasn’t going to be able to be home when he thought he would be. I decided that I was going to decorate the whole house… Mind you we have 4100 ft.²… For Christmas, before he came home.

I usually have a rule that I don’t start putting any Christmas decorations up until Thanksgiving is over… I love Thanksgiving, it’s one of my favorite holidays and I don’t like to dismiss it, by having Christmas stuff up. This year I made an exception!

I wanted to make sure, that if my husband didn’t make it home for Christmas… That he still got to enjoy Christmas in our home. I absolutely positively love decorating… Very few people know this about me, but my background is interior design.…Even though I chose not to pursue it professionally, after college.

I love designing and decorating my own home. The holidays to me are like an empty canvas and I get to paint with passion and love. I go all out. This year was no exception. In fact this year I went above and beyond what I have done for the last five years combined.

I put a 7 foot plus tree in our sitting room… And I decorated it with all little white lights and lots of gold, silver with angels, beautiful ribbon etc. the rest of the room was decorated the same.

I did the lights down the staircase with Garland swags and bows… In our office I did our sports Christmas tree!  Each room in the house has a different theme.

Our family room and kitchen I put our family Christmas tree… And that was decorated with the ornaments that we’ve collected over the years from our children and family ornaments. Multicolored lights on the tree & fireplace.The fireplace has the garland and the stockings 

I must admit when I was all done, even though it was a lot of work, I loved it. I loved it even more when Mark walk through the door and I could see by the smile on his face, and that twinkle in his eyes how much he loved it!

As I said at the beginning of this blog my hubby is awesome. Doing things like this for him makes me happy.  He not only is an awesome husband… He is an amazing stepfather… He’s actually their dad. Peyton and my older kids all absolutely adore him.

Peyton helped me decorate the whole house… He loves the lights part,  which is so awesome for me because I get so frustrated when the light to get all tangled up! He has the patience of a saint.  😂🎄

In fact Peyton  even wrote a blog about why he loves Christmas lights so much! https://teamawesomism.com/merry-awesomism-christmas/

My hubby works very hard… He never complains… So making his Holidays a little bit better by having the house cozy, loving and festive is the least I can do. My goal was to have Mark feel ” There is no place home for the Holidays” I think I achieved that! I know he felt the love In every Christmas decoration! ❤️🎄❤️

Red-Angry Blue-Sad

We are so honored to have an amazing blogger as our guest blogger this week! She’s an amazing mom… Who openly discusses her life. My hope is that after you read her blog… You come away with the same emotions/thoughts  that I did.. we need more mental health help!!! People need to stop talking and start doing.. this is not a political issue, this is a human issue! Please check out her other blogs here http://thoughtswithn.blogspot.com/

Also, We have her books for sale on our website https://teamawesomism.com/

 

I remember the day that I saw a piece of work completed by my oldest son. He was 6 at the time. His class was learning about emotions, and had them associated with colors. The piece of paper asked them to identify the 2 emotions they most commonly feel, and draw it in the associated color. His was Red – Angry, and Blue- Sad.

 

I remember the tears that sprung to my eyes. The feeling of failure I felt. My little boy was always angry at this point.

 

I had always struggled with him, since the beginning, but now it was at a new high. The Police were now involved, as he had begun threatening his baby sister.

 

Oh, and I was 6 months pregnant. I had high blood pressure, so I was supposed to be relaxing.

 

There, in front of me lay the evidence of the state of my sons mental health. He was so angry, and so sad. He didn`t know what to say, or how to say it, so his anger dragged on, day after day.

 

This was such a hard time for all of us. I have scars on me from his intense temper, and I am pretty sure my daughter is emotionally scarred.

 

Despite struggling for so many years, and trying to get him help, I had failed. The counsellor agreed that this paper was slightly alarming for a little boy, and sent off the papers for a Psychiatric Assessment.

 

We waited.

 

We waited.

 

Months and months went by. While my son struggled.

 

So many days I just wanted to run away and disappear. I questioned my capabilities of being a mother. I questioned how I was going to raise another boy. I have never in my life felt so lost as what I did at this time.

 

To be honest, I am not even sure how we all made it through. Maybe it is just the power of love. I one day told my son very clearly, I know you are angry, and I will be here whenever you are ready to talk, but there is not anything you can do to me to make me stop loving you, or to make me give up on you. You are my son.

 

We got the call for the assessment a year after the referral was placed. A YEAR. A family in a crisis situation, and such a sad and confused little boy.

 

We declined the assessment at this point, because he had already been through three and he was tired of doing it. No one saw what we saw. His intense temper. His neediness for everything to be a very specific way. His amazing abilities with numbers, and recognizing patterns. No one saw it. They always just told us, he is a very bright boy.

 

I decided, rather than trying to change him, I was going to accept him. Accept him exactly how he is.

 

He is almost 8 now. I can`t believe so much time has passed since my feelings of hopelessness. He is in Grade 2 and an intense math whiz. He still struggles with his temper, but he is far less violent.

 

Now he talks to me. He tells me what is wrong. Then we can figure out how to fix it.

 

You may not always be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I sure didn`t when I was locked in my room, trying to protect the baby in my belly, and my 1 year old daughter. I could not see any light in my life what so ever. I wanted to run away.

 

The light is there. It will shine.

 

Love

N 💜