My hope for this Thanksgiving

I wrote this post 3 years ago, Thanksgiving… I had hoped and prayed that by now we would have healed some. I really do not think we have and I am not sure we ever will…

It seems as though it has now spilled over into all parts of daily life.

While I can’t change the behavior of others, I can change mine… so I am hoping that enough of us stand up and say… IT IS OKAY to disagree.. We do not all have to agree in fact that would be very boring! Let’s embrace our differences and pull in our disrespect… Agree to disagree and treat each other with respect…

Disagreement is healthy, when done right. Stop labeling everyone a BULLY BECAUSE THEY HAVE A DIFFERENT OPINION.

Together we are stronger!

 

 

We wish each of you a very happy Thanksgiving! This time of the year everyone asks “what are you thankful for?” and we list the usual..family, friends, health, home etc….

While these are all very important things to be thankful for …..there are Other things we should be thankful for.

We live in the greatest country in the world, where I truly believe most people care about others. At times it seems like this isn’t true, but I think the “loud ones” get the attention. No matter what you think about who won the election, what you should be thankful for is the fact we not only have the freedom to vote for who we want, but to voice what we feel. Although, I am disheartened by the slanderous and hateful rhetoric I hear from some. I have seen some say horrible and blatant untruths about people who disagree with them, this is a dangerous slope and cooler heads and HEARTS need to prevail.

I don’t want this to be a lecture on politics, but rather my thoughts on common decency. I have seen people say they aren’t welcome at family members’ homes because of who they voted for. This is very troubling and to be honest pathetic… If we as a country can’t have respectful debates, we will fail, and I for one am not willing to sit by and accept that.

So while we all celebrate Thanksgiving, let’s make a common vow that we treat one another with respect. I am not asking that we all agree, because as my dad taught me, healthy debate encourages inner reflection and expansion of views.

I hope this holiday season is that we treat one another with compassion and respect. When we try to squash the views of those who disagree with us by name calling and bullying, we in a sense are squashing their rights. As I said earlier this is a dangerous slope.

I am reminded of a George Washington’s quote ” If freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter” My hope for us as a nation is that we heal. So next year when we are asked what we are most thankful for I hope on everyone’s list is “That we have healed as a nation and truly show one another respect” image

Lloyd’s Thanksgiving Motivation

I am so happy and honored to have Lloyd as my guest Blogger… he inspires me everyday! he is an autistic adult, who is blind in one eye. He has gone through so many challenges in his life, yet he gets up every morning happy and is always there to help others. I ask that you please share this blog with others… At the bottom of his Blog I will have links for him on social media as well as some other Blogs he wrote for Peyton’s company.

 

Thanksgiving will be upon us all very soon. So many in this country has gone through a great deal of good, bad, & in between. My family & I have gone through a great deal of many things.

We lost love ones so dear to us. We dealt with health issues involving love ones. We have & are dealing with issues that cannot share with others, but God truly know what we are going through.
Last month I took a vacation with my aunt & uncle in TN. I have never had a vacation that I can remember. We almost lost our mom but God healed her, she still have a few issues involving her health & we sure do need the prayers in more ways than one.
There are or could be others who are or going through what we are going through right now. I will try tell you this, don’t give up! It WILL be tough & hard but you can make it!
While we all go through these moments in our lives, just stop for a moment & give thanks for any & all who have helped you & what you have. Be cause there are many who have nothing & who are alone.
I ask you all this, if you know someone who does not a have anyone in their life or who are lonesome, try to reach out to them. A little help from others can be a great blessing.
Two last things that I will share with you all before I close this blog.
Most suicides happen during the holidays, so if know someone who is going through a lot & you who are at risk, please I ask you reach out to them & help.
Lastly please pray for those who have an empty chair at their table this holiday season. The empty was once filled with a love one who is now gone. Please pray & thank you all!
Happy Thanksgiving & God Bless You All!
Check out Lloyd’s blog on Team Awesomism where he talks about his eye problems, he has gone through: Where I learned to live with my eye problems.
Please follow him on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Flipboard. He is truly one of mine and Peyton’s favorite people!

The Importance of Life’s History Lessons

I am so happy and proud to have Lloyd Morman as a guest Blogger today! He has been a guest blogger for Team Awesomism… Peyton’s company several times… He is a very sweet and caring person. Lloyd has autism, and is blind in one eye. I have such respect for him, as he never lets anything get him down! He is a true example of someone who is Turning Autism into Awesomism!

I hope you enjoy this very informative blog, as much as I do!

Also, please check out and follow Lloyd on social media!

Thanks,

Lynne

Here are links to his blogs he wrote on Team Awesomism:

  1. Hello Everyone!
  2. Where I learned to live with my eye problem
  3. The story behind the photo and ticket. A very helpful lesson to help in life.

If you’re on Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and Flipboard, please follow him.

 

History is very important. We can learn a great deal from history, but have you ever considered looking into your family history?

I learned from one of mother’s doctors that studying your family history can be very helpful in many ways! For example when you study your family tree can find out if any of your love ones have had medical issues that could be passed down & you found out that YOU could have a few medical issues similar to them & it can be prevented.
YES! These studies can help in so many ways, from preventing unhealthy habits to medical issues that you may not have known that was in your family, but others in your family knew but did NOT know or say anything. One of the biggest issues with family history is many are NOT aware of the importance of knowing or studying your family tree! Yes many may not NOT be ready or want to study their family tree or its history.
I am glad that my mother has looked into ours. We found out that many of our family members had eye problems, diabetes, anger, & depression issues. We looked into & found out that many of these issues can be treated today when then could NOT be treated in the past.
Medicine today has changed from the past due from doctors & those in medicine have learned from history & those who are willing to help us learn from the history of medicine.
So please try to learn from from your family tree, not the names & where they came from but more! It may save your or family members lives!

Faith it until you make it

Faith it until you make it… I saw this quote a few weeks ago… And I absolutely fell in love with it. You usually hear the term fake it until you make it. I think many of us fake it until we make it to a certain degree, when we are entrepreneurs, small business owners, pursuing our dreams etc. etc. But is that what we really want to be a faker?

The more I thought about this “Faith it until you make it” the more I loved it. The more raw and real it became to me.

I think we all have different versions of what our faith, or what faith is. This blog is not a lecture about what your faith should be by definition… But more about having that positive thoughts and conviction… To stay strong while you work to fill your dreams and passions.

I happen to be a person of faith, I believe in the power of prayer, I believe in a strong inner commitment to do what is right, not only for yourself, but for others.

This is not to say that I am always perfect. I am far from perfect… I make mistakes, I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life… But I try very hard to learn from them.

My dad always tried to teach me it was only a mistake if I didn’t learn from it… Otherwise it was a life’s lesson. I do truly try to learn from my mistakes. So let’s just say I have lots and lots of life’s lessons. 😂

I think nowadays, we have developed an attitude of what we want, we better have and we better have it NOW! There are times, I must admit, that I can become very disheartened with the way that we have become in society in general.

Too often I don’t see people actually caring about other people, I see them talking about what they do ….what they have… how great they are.. basically faking it till they make it.

This is not to say that we should do the opposite, which is always complain… And do a “poor me” attitude, either.

Life in general can be really tough… Being a small business/entrepreneur/independent contractor can make it even tougher.

Having other issues in your life such as.. being a single parent… A child with special needs… Serious financial difficulties etc. etc. can also make being positive, a little more difficult at times.

This is why I love that saying… Faith it till you make it… Because I think when things are really rough, we have to lean on our faith! We need to reach down deep inside of us and find that Faith… Be it Faith in a higher being.. Faith in ourselves or Both!

The Definition of Faith is: ( from Oxford)

faith
1.
complete trust or confidence in someone or something.
“this restores one’s faith in politicians”
2.
strong belief in God or in the doctrines of a religion, based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof.

I have made this my personal new motto…meaning when tough times come… and they always do…especially being a Mompreneur/Entrepreneur and Autism Mom… I am going to challenge myself… Faith it until I make it! Will you accept this challenge too?

Thanks for reading my blog

Have an Awesome Day!

Lynne

Red-Angry Blue-Sad

We are so honored to have an amazing blogger as our guest blogger this week! She’s an amazing mom… Who openly discusses her life. My hope is that after you read her blog… You come away with the same emotions/thoughts  that I did.. we need more mental health help!!! People need to stop talking and start doing.. this is not a political issue, this is a human issue! Please check out her other blogs here http://thoughtswithn.blogspot.com/

Also, We have her books for sale on our website https://teamawesomism.com/

 

I remember the day that I saw a piece of work completed by my oldest son. He was 6 at the time. His class was learning about emotions, and had them associated with colors. The piece of paper asked them to identify the 2 emotions they most commonly feel, and draw it in the associated color. His was Red – Angry, and Blue- Sad.

 

I remember the tears that sprung to my eyes. The feeling of failure I felt. My little boy was always angry at this point.

 

I had always struggled with him, since the beginning, but now it was at a new high. The Police were now involved, as he had begun threatening his baby sister.

 

Oh, and I was 6 months pregnant. I had high blood pressure, so I was supposed to be relaxing.

 

There, in front of me lay the evidence of the state of my sons mental health. He was so angry, and so sad. He didn`t know what to say, or how to say it, so his anger dragged on, day after day.

 

This was such a hard time for all of us. I have scars on me from his intense temper, and I am pretty sure my daughter is emotionally scarred.

 

Despite struggling for so many years, and trying to get him help, I had failed. The counsellor agreed that this paper was slightly alarming for a little boy, and sent off the papers for a Psychiatric Assessment.

 

We waited.

 

We waited.

 

Months and months went by. While my son struggled.

 

So many days I just wanted to run away and disappear. I questioned my capabilities of being a mother. I questioned how I was going to raise another boy. I have never in my life felt so lost as what I did at this time.

 

To be honest, I am not even sure how we all made it through. Maybe it is just the power of love. I one day told my son very clearly, I know you are angry, and I will be here whenever you are ready to talk, but there is not anything you can do to me to make me stop loving you, or to make me give up on you. You are my son.

 

We got the call for the assessment a year after the referral was placed. A YEAR. A family in a crisis situation, and such a sad and confused little boy.

 

We declined the assessment at this point, because he had already been through three and he was tired of doing it. No one saw what we saw. His intense temper. His neediness for everything to be a very specific way. His amazing abilities with numbers, and recognizing patterns. No one saw it. They always just told us, he is a very bright boy.

 

I decided, rather than trying to change him, I was going to accept him. Accept him exactly how he is.

 

He is almost 8 now. I can`t believe so much time has passed since my feelings of hopelessness. He is in Grade 2 and an intense math whiz. He still struggles with his temper, but he is far less violent.

 

Now he talks to me. He tells me what is wrong. Then we can figure out how to fix it.

 

You may not always be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I sure didn`t when I was locked in my room, trying to protect the baby in my belly, and my 1 year old daughter. I could not see any light in my life what so ever. I wanted to run away.

 

The light is there. It will shine.

 

Love

N 💜